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BobtheSubBuilder -> submissive? (3/6/2007 10:56:21 AM)
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Recently met a girl online who emailed me through a very old vanilla profile on 'an abundence of piscine species dot com'.
She open declares her need to have her man control her behaviour in so much as if she does something i dont like im to tell her 'enough katie' and when married wants her man to take her pay check and dole out only whats left after paying bills. She says that she wants these things coz it is the way her parents live and that her father would talk to her in that manner and she likes it (in a perfectly innocent way apparently). In addition she says she wants a guy who will ultimately make all the decisions for us both.
We have a date in the 10th - i have never met her but within 48 hours of contacting me she had
a) bought a new sim card, paid and subscribed for unlimited free calls between us
b) switched from night shift to days (which she hates) simply because i thought that her working opposite hours to me would make our getting to know each other easier.
c) dyed her hair the colour i like
d) kept asking me what i wanted her to wear on our date untill i told her
e) started on the pill because i suggested she think about it (when she told me she said i had told her)
now this last one i found odd coz she told me she wanted to go slow and not dive into a sexual relationship - because she is a virgin.
ok now i dont know if i just swept her off her feet or if its all lies or what but the phone is real and i imagine the hair will be real - i will see on our (vanilla) date, the shift change is also real.
is this just me or is this girl a sub in the making? - if so how does one go about transforming a naturally sub girl into a full sub by small degrees she may not even notice?
now i ask that not in some kind of sick way, it seems to me this girl craves domination in her every day life and even a degree of humiliation at being told to 'be quiet' in a public setting. I think the difficulty is that because she is a virgin in the 'vaginal penetration by a penis' kind of way (though shes done oral, and deeply enjoyed pleasing her man) she finds it hard to make the leap that sex should be anything other than that kind of sweet gentle loving sex, and that 'dirty' or 'kinky' sex cant equally be about love as much as pleasure.
its even more bizarre than this - apparently her last bf was rather dom - controlled her whole life to a degree she enjoyed at the time but he was a sick puppy who played arround and played mind games and when he finally left she had a breakdown which im assured shes recovered from. however - she has been left somewhat resistant to the same level of control he had.
Also it seems that although she remains technically virginal she and her ex would indulge in role play, bondage, whipping, and watersports. and rather likes the direct approach ('katie suck my cock' while sat on the sofa watching tv).
So unless im mistaken what we have here is a naturally submissive girl (24) who craves control in her daily life (used the word 'need' herself) who is open to kinks/fetishes if it pleases her man (and in pleasing she is pleased herself), but who was badly hurt and abused by a former dom and so is shying away from the same level of control he had over her
is this just a case of 'softly softly' let her trust in me grow and then gradually suggest things and make subtle changes to our rel?
also just so everyone knows i did point out to her that she came across as sub (had to explain that one, her innocence is delicious!) she said that she wasnt at all and all this behaviour just was 'natural and right' in her eyes - shes not happy with the label and would prolly never call me 'sir' or 'master' but to me all the pieces are there, she just needs someone to 'assemble' her.
ok P/peeps - thoughts and comments? advice on how to proced would be nice.
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