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RE: Hair Pulling - 3/7/2007 3:20:57 AM

Kalyndrah

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Oooh my god hair pulling...

Under the right circumstances that's all I need to hit sub space.... Literally. I can hit space out of the blue with some hair pulling. mmm

*looks over at Substantial* I think I was behind you the other day. Are you in Lynchburg?

Hey - whiplashsmile dude... you can come pull on my hair ANY day. But I think we've already had this discussion LOL

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RE: Hair Pulling - 3/7/2007 3:25:12 AM

talibahh

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Sends my temper and demeanour right off the Richter Scale - I HATE it!!!! It feels almost like tha bitch is trying to control me or something; totally the WRONG headspace for me.... Still, it only happened once - in my past vanilla life when she had some sick idea that hair-pulling was playful.

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LMAO!!! now if i didnt know You better...

To the OP:

i LLLOOOOVVVEEEE having my hair pulled... nothing shows me/reminds me, of my place or makes me feel so subbie, so quick... i just melt and go weak at the knees... and like julia, face slapping is another, but not always... in the right moment... yummy!!!

tali

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RE: Hair Pulling - 3/7/2007 3:26:39 AM

talibahh

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quote:

ORIGINAL: substantialuuuu

Love it!!!! Even have the bumper sticker, it says, "If you're gonna ride my ass, at least pull my hair"

i want one of those stickers!!!

tali

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RE: Hair Pulling - 3/7/2007 4:30:42 AM

onestandingstill

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For me hair pulling is a form of bondage.
If someones got a handful of my hair they can move me around & walk me any place they'd like till they let go & I have no choice but to follow.
I think that's what so hot about it.
It's a simple way to exert control over me.
I agree with Michael too, nothing like a guy with a mit full of my hair bobbing my head back and forth when I give him head.
Whew, well I need a cold shower now!
suzanne

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RE: Hair Pulling - 3/7/2007 4:33:27 AM

michaelOfGeorgia

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ORIGINAL: Devilslilsister

Just reading the slap thread and i read something that immediately made me think of hair pulling......

Julia said

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It breaks me down into my raw elements and reduces me to being completely and hopelessly HIS to do with what he likes.
(hopefully she doesnt mind me quoting her)

i get that when Master grabs onto my hair. He grabs my hair and i just zoooooom. (zoom zoom zoom.. mazda) In that state, i would probably lick a toilet bowl if he wanted (and be quite content doing so... just dont let go of the hair!). i have an amazingly hard time thinking when Master has my hair, the best i am able to do is not let my legs buckle and try to follow him. Would be abit counter productive to Master if he grabbed my hair and i just ended up a ball of jelly on the ground.

What does hair pulling to do you? Like it, love it, hate it, dont know? Is there anything else that just drops you into a head space that would do pretty much anything in?

yet another hard limit for me...just plain cruel

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RE: Hair Pulling - 3/7/2007 4:44:57 AM

Donnalee

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Hair pulling? Oh, how yummy. There is just something so elemental about that low nape of the neck fistfull of hair that instantly sends me to my happy place. Stroking my hair, neck and shoulders is also a very nice feeling.

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RE: Hair Pulling - 3/7/2007 6:47:20 AM

kiltedBehemoth

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Cant argue with any of the above, though will say in conjunction with ...

http://www.collarchat.com/m_874599/tm.htm

that my best way for bringing down an overwrought sub, is a bath then washing/combing their hair

p.s.SimplyMichael you crack me up!

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RE: Hair Pulling - 3/7/2007 6:49:21 AM

innatedesire

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mmmmmmmmmmmmm YUMMY!! The is something so primal about a man grabbing a handful of my hair that instantly reminds me of what it is that I am.

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RE: Hair Pulling - 3/7/2007 6:55:28 AM

Tuomas

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Ah, hairpulling....

*brings self back to reality*
There was a rather long timet that I thought hair-pulling was somewhat abusive, and didn't like the thought of it. For some reason I didn't think she would like it (!!!), but somehow we got around to me pulling her hair once. The next time, she actually balled her hair up and begged me to pull it (I like begging

). So I did. Hair pulling is now one of my favorite pastimes

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RE: Hair Pulling - 3/7/2007 6:59:34 AM

marieToo

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quote:

ORIGINAL: Lordandmaster

What happens then?

Total compliance.

lmaooo

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RE: Hair Pulling - 3/7/2007 7:26:30 AM

Mercnbeth

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Fast Reply

Hair pulling, face slapping, spitting, kicking, punching; the list goes on for submissive "triggers". Is it an indication that most of the time there the person isn't submissive and a "trigger" is required? Is it a function of reality where people have to deal with other life responsibilities requiring them to take on a dominant persona and the trigger puts them in a submissive mindset? What is going on in the minds of the submissive the millisecond before a face slap or a hair pull? Are they faking their persona before or afterward?

Okay, I know some are saying its just an erotic aspect of play, but some seem to be saying that it triggers their submission.

Conversely, do dominants require a trigger? Why don't they? I'll defer to our resident historical archivist, but I don't recall a thread that said; "I don't really feel dominant until I backhand my subs face!"

Doesn't anyone just wake up and live as they are?

Edited to add:
I wonder how many of the "wanker" emails that people complain about where the correspondence is something like; "I want to pull your hair, slap your face, and fuck your mouth! Serve me NOW!"; derive from the assumption that those activities are expected and required in order to have a submissive swoon into 'subspace'?

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RE: Hair Pulling - 3/7/2007 7:45:01 AM

ownedgirlie

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What goes on in my mind the millisecond before a slap, pull, or other action is something like, "Oh Master please take what you want from me" and then the action is like this immediate relief and reminder that he still wants it and WILL take it. It reminds me of my place...of which I really don't need reminding but you do have a point, Merc - it's like he just slaps away the effects all my other life responsibilities have on me. Relieving the pressure-cooker, perhaps?

Great question. One I will ponder a little more...

Edited to add, in reply to your question of living as I am, this is why I do envy those slaves who can stay at home and focus solely on serving their Masters. Part of my serving means excelling at work, which means managing projects and people...part of my serving means excelling in school which means researching and holding my instructors to what they promise. Since I am required to stand as an equal to others yet to be small before him, there can be internal conflict to deal with, and when I am in his presence the real me breathes this huge sigh of relief as the other persona washes away. Hard to explain. So no, these actions do not "trigger" my submission - my submission to him is always there. But when life is spinning around me, they sometimes seem to bring me back home to him.

As for him, it is doubtful he needs any triggers. He is who he is in all aspects of life. He is not required to behave submissively with others, as I am required to stand as an equal to all but him.

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RE: Hair Pulling - 3/7/2007 7:59:16 AM

iwannapullurhair

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I definitely like this topic.

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RE: Hair Pulling - 3/7/2007 8:00:47 AM

mnottertail

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This topic has me pulling what little hair I have left; out.

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RE: Hair Pulling - 3/7/2007 8:08:13 AM

marieToo

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quote:

ORIGINAL: Mercnbeth

Fast Reply

What is going on in the minds of the submissive the millisecond before a face slap or a hair pull? Are they faking their persona before or afterward?

For me, what is going on in that fraction of a second is the surrender of my basic instinct to block it or fight it. Im not faking something before or after. If I feel submissive to someone, I feel submissive to them whether they've got their hand in my hair, or they are in another country. Experiencing the physical aspects of being overpowered, does however, intensify a submission thats already there. If it wasn't present to begin with, there would be a foot up someones ass faster than they could make contact with any part of my body.

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RE: Hair Pulling - 3/7/2007 8:49:11 AM

SimplyMichael

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quote:

Is it an indication that most of the time there the person isn't submissive and a "trigger" is required?

Uhm NO. In the same way as saying is someone excited if they aren't cumming. They are after all letting you pull their hair and getting excited by the fact that you doing it.

quote:

Okay, I know some are saying its just an erotic aspect of play, but some seem to be saying that it triggers their submission.

I think what most are saying is that it reminds them of their submission or it takes them into a deeper place. A favorite trick of mine is to grab a small locke of hair from the neck while we are in a vanilla setting and wrap it around my finger. To anyone watching I am simply playing with my woman's hair. She however feels me pulling VERY hard and since the neck is so sensative some women can almost go nonverbal from it.

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RE: Hair Pulling - 3/7/2007 8:56:53 AM

SimplyMichael

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quote:

Conversely, do dominants require a trigger? Why don't they? I'll defer to our resident historical archivist, but I don't recall a thread that said; "I don't really feel dominant until I backhand my subs face!"

Doesn't anyone just wake up and live as they are?

Merc, you're a fucking New Yorker, are you trying to tell me that your mood doesn't change? That some days you aren't the indifferent "I have seen it all" urbanite and others you want to suck every drop of experience out of life?

I know for me my dominance varies for so many reasons. The moment a woman looks up at me with that look only submissive women have when their cunts are wet in way they have never experience before and you realize that they see in you something they have always wanted but never really found my dominance goes flying.

Certain acts carry more power for me than others and when I do them they absolutely make me feel more powerful and dominant than others. "Forcing" a woman to cum or (not that I would do this) spending an hour flogging her isn't exactly a show of force. Same goes for letting her pleasure me sexually. Taking one to a party and having her sit there as a footstool the entire time, even if you are off playing with another or socializing away from her, now THAT is fucking hot as hell to me and my brain is hard as hell with the dominant energy raging through it.

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RE: Hair Pulling - 3/7/2007 9:02:29 AM

sweetnurseBBW

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Hair pulling reduces me to jello. I love, love it.

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RE: Hair Pulling - 3/7/2007 9:11:20 AM

damianna74

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Hair pulling turns me to jelly, also. It can send me over the edge and brings out my submissive side like you wouldn't believe. I love it!!!

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RE: Hair Pulling - 3/7/2007 9:30:07 AM

calicowgirl

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Mmmmm mmmm good is all I have to say on the subject of hair pulling.

cali

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