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What would your ideal day look like? - 3/10/2007 12:57:19 AM   
BeautifulRacket


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This has been a topic of discussion in my home recently, and I'm curious to hear your opinions...

As a submissive or slave, what would your ideal day consist of? What tasks, activities, chores, scenes/play, schedule, etc., would it include? Or, in other words, if you could (or had to) decide what your day would be like, what would you put on the agenda?

I'm most interested in realistic ideals, or your preferences outside of  "I want whatever my Dominant wants," but I'm sure it'd be educational to hear the more fantastic as well. I'm certainly not looking for fodder for masturbation, or anything of the sort - I do perfectly well with my imagination and erotica, thank you.

Thanks in advance for your time, and I'm looking forward to hearing your thoughts!
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RE: What would your ideal day look like? - 3/10/2007 4:11:58 AM   
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my ideal day would be pretty simplistic. There is no one action that would make it better or worse than any other day. But if I had to pick something, I guess I would opt for a day in which I had no work related interruptions of any kind. A day that I could just sit back, relax, and enjoy the solitude.

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RE: What would your ideal day look like? - 3/10/2007 4:52:59 AM   
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My day would be waking up next to my Master, having some kind of morning connecting ritual for those first seconds we're awake, and hopefully some brief friskiness. I'd then make his morning beverage, fix his breakfast, pack his lunch and fuss over him to get him dressed and ready to face his day in any way he or I can find. We'd then go to our jobs. When we re-connected at home there'd be another greeting ritual, dinner, night chores and such. After chores are done and my Master's fed and content I'd hope sometimes to snuggle in front of the TV and be frisky a little, or go out. I'd love to just have constant heat and lighthearted whacks as I walked by him and things like that that kept a physical and Dominant undertow in our regular day to day lives. I'd prefer to play once to twice a week and really hard and deep like once every two weeks.
I'd want to be treated and expected to over all act like a sex maniac french maid, or english butler. When we went to bed again as we climbed in to our bed there'd be a good night ritual and I'd drift of to sleep content with a smile on my face knowing I was home and safe in my Masters arms and home.
I'd also like us to be a part of the local BDSM community and social gatherings to some extent.

It's hard to be specific as to how to make this sort of dynamic work successfully.
A lot of it has to do with me.
I want to be fully controlled, but not micro managed or oppressed.
There's fine lines between the dreams I seek and the balance not being out of whack and suffocating me instead.
Full control and leadership keeping freedom and contentment as the emotions it causes is a hard thing to have in real life.
I want to be fully owned, but free to feel like I'm living my purpose and dreams.
suzanne

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RE: What would your ideal day look like? - 3/10/2007 4:57:28 AM   
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Hello. =)

My ideal day would involve spending lots of money frivolously with my owner. =) Maybe some shopping in Pittsburgh. Dinner at a great sushi restaurant. Walking around in a museum. And hey, if we're talking ideal here, the temperature would be around 75 F, clear, bright, sunny.

Pretty vanilla, huh? ;)

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RE: What would your ideal day look like? - 3/10/2007 5:32:13 AM   
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Quite honestly, any day which I was allowed to spend the whole day with my owner would be a very, very lovely day. I harbour this secret fantasy of wanting to be able to serve him in his office during the work day (bring him lunch and drinks and whatever else he needed).

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RE: What would your ideal day look like? - 3/10/2007 5:37:27 AM   
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My ideal day....

I'd wake up with some sound SM/sex shtuff and have a fantastic breakfast with him on a balcony with a gorgeous view of the sun and ocean.

Then I'd go to my favorite spa for a full day of treatment with a delicious lunch.

Then I'd spend the evening with my owner with a romantic dinner in a hip urban location and then do more of that SM sex shtuff.

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RE: What would your ideal day look like? - 3/10/2007 8:45:10 AM   
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hmmm my ideal day:

a lazy relaxing weekend with Daddy complete with shopping, wining and dining at an exclusive restuarant or going to a museum exhibit or some other cultural event/concert. we would probably play a match or two of tennis ...then long moments of sex and napping before dinner and dancing. finally restful sleep snuggling in each other's arms.


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RE: What would your ideal day look like? - 3/10/2007 8:51:38 AM   
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Right now, last Tuesday was supreme:

24 Hour Vacation
Woke up at 7:30 when DCS crawled out of bed because he couldn't sleep any more. Went back to sleep.

Woke up at 8:10 when alarm went off. Called in sick to work. Dragged DCS back into bed for more sleep.

Slept until 11, both of us got up, checked email. I showered and shaved, then asked to make us lunch- hot dogs and beans.

We reluctantly got dressed, broke down the recyclables and dropped them off at the recycling center. Stopped at the post office so DCS could pick up mail for work. DCS suggested we do "something" with my day off- I said I was just happy hanging out together.

Get home and proceed to spend the next hour or so engaged in slow undressing, worship, orgasms snuggling and leather.

I make popcorn and we watch 2 episodes of X-Files and an episode of Firefly naked in my bed.

We snuggled another half hour in bed before DCS remembers he needs to schedule the tape for Gilmore Girls.

I get up, make shepherd's pie for dinner, we watch Wife Swap, then House.

I have to be back at work in less than 12 hours, but this 24-hour vacation has been amazin

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RE: What would your ideal day look like? - 3/11/2007 12:59:02 AM   
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hmm...my ideal day isn't very submissive...but it's being left alone in a room with a notebook and pen.

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RE: What would your ideal day look like? - 3/11/2007 3:34:36 AM   
BeautifulRacket


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Thank you all for your interesting responses thus far!
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ORIGINAL: onestandingstill

My day would be waking up next to my Master, having some kind of morning connecting ritual for those first seconds we're awake, and hopefully some brief friskiness. I'd then make his morning beverage, fix his breakfast, pack his lunch and fuss over him to get him dressed and ready to face his day in any way he or I can find. We'd then go to our jobs. When we re-connected at home there'd be another greeting ritual, dinner, night chores and such. After chores are done and my Master's fed and content I'd hope sometimes to snuggle in front of the TV and be frisky a little, or go out. I'd love to just have constant heat and lighthearted whacks as I walked by him and things like that that kept a physical and Dominant undertow in our regular day to day lives. I'd prefer to play once to twice a week and really hard and deep like once every two weeks.
I'd want to be treated and expected to over all act like a sex maniac french maid, or english butler. When we went to bed again as we climbed in to our bed there'd be a good night ritual and I'd drift of to sleep content with a smile on my face knowing I was home and safe in my Masters arms and home.
I'd also like us to be a part of the local BDSM community and social gatherings to some extent.

It's hard to be specific as to how to make this sort of dynamic work successfully.
A lot of it has to do with me.
I want to be fully controlled, but not micro managed or oppressed.
There's fine lines between the dreams I seek and the balance not being out of whack and suffocating me instead.
Full control and leadership keeping freedom and contentment as the emotions it causes is a hard thing to have in real life.
I want to be fully owned, but free to feel like I'm living my purpose and dreams.
suzanne

When I first asked my sub this question, this was the type of response I was hoping to get, suzanne. To me at least, it seems well thought-out, specific and realistic, which I like very much. You make excellent points about balance and making it work, and in my mind, your sample/ideal day brings clarity to those ideas. I often prefer more concrete examples over abstract concepts, which is likely why I feel getting an idea of my sub's ideal will be helpful to me/us.

While this thread arose from curiosity rather than a desire/need for advice, your post has given me some good food for thought, and I believe it'll help my sub move forward in pinning down (at least for the time being) his answer as well. Working on this will aid our relationship, so thank you from both of us!

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ORIGINAL: youngsubmissive
hmm...my ideal day isn't very submissive...but it's being left alone in a room with a notebook and pen.
Yes, I realized the question could be interpreted that way, but struggled with how better to word it to get what I was most curious about. For me, it's very easy to describe the day of my dreams, a realistic one without any D/s, or one with my husband, but it's more difficult to be specific about what I'd put together to create an ideal, yet realistic, day as a Dominant just because I haven't explored that part of me as much.

Would your answer change if you had to put it in the context of what you'd do as a submissive? And/or, what are your ideal expressions/activities as a submissive (e.g. I'm particularly fond of being served and expressing my sadistic side in a variety of ways, caring for my sub, cuddling/affection and discussion, so I'd put those things into my ideal day as a Dominant)? Everyone's welcome to answet, BTW. :-)

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RE: What would your ideal day look like? - 3/11/2007 6:45:55 PM   
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I dont know what the day would look like as i would be blind folded

seriousls.  just being with her is enough, no play, no expectations, just being, the rest is a bonus. 

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