So many subs mainly men think that being dominated means that they will have full sex.

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seekstofasn8adom -> So many subs mainly men think that being dominated means that they will have full sex. (3/10/2007 4:40:45 AM)
When you must get into your heads that being dominated means exactly this,no sex whatsoever.The quicker you all realise this the better,i realise this vital importance of bdsm,but not many of you other guys do which is a real shame in my opinion.

DianeB269 -> RE: So many subs mainly men think that being dominated means that they will have full sex. (3/10/2007 4:44:00 AM)
Why do so many think sex is part of D/s?

nissa -> RE: So many subs mainly men think that being dominated means that they will have full sex. (3/10/2007 4:46:30 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: seekstofasn8adom When you must get into your heads that being dominated means exactly this,no sex whatsoever.The quicker you all realise this the better,i realise this vital importance of bdsm,but not many of you other guys do which is a real shame in my opinion. I am confused, trying to pinpoint the reason the for this post.

seekstofasn8adom -> RE: So many subs mainly men think that being dominated means that they will have full sex. (3/10/2007 4:56:38 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: DianeB269 Why do so many think sex is part of D/s? Cause most men think they will have full sex when meeting a Domme,and the quicker the majority of them wake up the better.As most guys/men think with their little heads,where as i think with my heart,and my real head unlike most other men.As i am a realist after all.

seekstofasn8adom -> RE: So many subs mainly men think that being dominated means that they will have full sex. (3/10/2007 5:01:40 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: nissa quote: ORIGINAL: seekstofasn8adom When you must get into your heads that being dominated means exactly this,no sex whatsoever.The quicker you all realise this the better,i realise this vital importance of bdsm,but not many of you other guys do which is a real shame in my opinion. I am confused, trying to pinpoint the reason the for this post. Im trying to point out that the majority of men,don't realise the true aspect of serveing a Dominant lady,and the fact that they also don't know how to behave when in the presence of a Domme.As when with a beautiful lady,most men only want one thing sex,nothing else is good enough for them.Which is very sad,me thinks.

sambamanslilgirl -> RE: So many subs mainly men think that being dominated means that they will have full sex. (3/10/2007 7:53:00 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: seekstofasn8adom When you must get into your heads that being dominated means exactly this,no sex whatsoever.The quicker you all realise this the better,i realise this vital importance of bdsm,but not many of you other guys do which is a real shame in my opinion. it's funny you should bring that up. i sometimes get Yahoo IMs from nilla "doms" who love to use dominant as a sexual kink and a pick-up line (hey, i'm insert name here and i'm insert age here. do you like to be dommed by a man? being told what to do during sex? and submitting to how i like it?) now i know these "doms" have NO clue what they're talking about and when i respond back that saying i have a Daddy who is my Dom. then they think i'm sick because i have incest fantasies with a man ...have low self-esteem ...enjoy being a sex slave and etc. it's funny reading their reactions as they continue to rant on and on about how that's not what they meant by "being dommed". however i already knew that being dommed doesn't mean full sex ...took me a while to learn that after leaving my last "do me" dom (who's a collarme member) for Daddy.

ta2dqt -> RE: So many subs mainly men think that being dominated means that they will have full sex. (3/10/2007 10:42:04 AM)
It is sad but true...........I knew of a few male subs/slaves who were like..............are ever gonna have sex Mistress................... :(

BlkTallFullfig -> RE: So many subs mainly men think that being dominated means that they will have full sex. (3/10/2007 10:46:12 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: seekstofasn8adom When you must get into your heads that being dominated means exactly this,no sex whatsoever.The quicker you all realise this the better,i realise this vital importance of bdsm,but not many of you other guys do which is a real shame in my opinion. The shame is your ignorance, I'm sorry if that is too harsh, but really! Who do you think you are to say what dominas want and will do with out submissives? Every woman dominates as she wishes. In my case, if there is no sex, he isn't my submissive, because I require it! Of course these responses are probably the exact reason you began this thread; to get people to look at you, and state whether they do permit sex with their subs or not. [sm=rolleyes.gif] M

FelinePersuasion -> RE: So many subs mainly men think that being dominated means that they will have full sex. (3/10/2007 10:49:59 AM)
Because for so many sex IS a part of THEIR D/s It certaintly is a part of mine. I'd never agree to having a long term partnership where I was never sexual fufilled or satisfied by them, of course We're life partners who share everything not justD.s quote: ORIGINAL: DianeB269 Why do so many think sex is part of D/s?

DiurnalVampire -> RE: So many subs mainly men think that being dominated means that they will have full sex. (3/10/2007 11:00:47 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: seekstofasn8adom When you must get into your heads that being dominated means exactly this,no sex whatsoever.The quicker you all realise this the better,i realise this vital importance of bdsm,but not many of you other guys do which is a real shame in my opinion. Once again, you speak your own opinion without having a real clue. Thats the real shame , in my opinion. Where exactly do you get the idea that being dominated means no sex, whatsoever? Should you be speaking to those of us Mistresses that believe that sex DOES factor into our BDSM? Do you assume we know nothing of dominating, since we dont understand that sex has nothing to do with it? Sex has a lot to do with how I domainte. Why, becasue I wish it to. What I think you need to realize is that how YOU see things has nothing to do with how the rest of us do, and trying to force your opinions on others is not going to help nor work. I would never EVER keep a sub or slave that believes that sex and BDSM have to be separate. I do not want someone who takes the option away from me. If we dont engage in it... its MY option to do so. However, anyone who thinks that sex has absolutely nothing to do with BDSM would be a poor fit for me, and probably for many others. DV

Stunning -> RE: So many subs mainly men think that being dominated means that they will have full sex. (3/10/2007 11:12:12 AM)
Sounds like someone needs to get laid. And anyone who thinks this lifestyle is not about sex is... hung up on sex, I think. The fact that the question is raised proves the point. You don't ask if your basketball pool is about sex. You don't ponder whether your astonomy group is about sex. You don't wonder if your political party is based on sex. (Well, I'm a Libertarian, so our party kind of is based on sex.) And look around this site. There are a LOT of naked people here! This ain't no book of the month club! This is about getting naked and getting off. EDIT: This post was directed to the OP.

Lashra -> RE: So many subs mainly men think that being dominated means that they will have full sex. (3/10/2007 12:51:32 PM)
Personally, I require sex from my submissive. On my terms and when/where I want it. He knows if he demands sex from me he won't get it and might end up in chastity for quite sometime. ~Lashra

fergus -> RE: So many subs mainly men think that being dominated means that they will have full sex. (3/10/2007 12:59:52 PM)
Could never understand why it is some folks' business to dictate to others what is 'real' or 'true' BDSM or how they should run their own reltionships and/or personal lives. Some will have sex be a part of it, some will not. fergus

SweetSarijane -> RE: So many subs mainly men think that being dominated means that they will have full sex. (3/10/2007 2:04:25 PM)
Ok, I'll just tell a close dominant female friend of mine that she has to stop having sex with her slave, I'm sure that'll go over real well with her [sm=rolleyes.gif].

Stunning -> RE: So many subs mainly men think that being dominated means that they will have full sex. (3/10/2007 2:12:15 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: SweetSarijane Ok, I'll just tell a close dominant female friend of mine that she has to stop having sex with her slave, I'm sure that'll go over real well with her [sm=rolleyes.gif]. OMG no that is not real BDSM you will explode!

FelinePersuasion -> RE: So many subs mainly men think that being dominated means that they will have full sex. (3/10/2007 2:30:59 PM)
Perhaps for you. It's not about nudity and sex for every one who'll ever do and ever did this. You can not unequivically say that for every one it's about getting off. quote: ORIGINAL: Stunning This is about getting naked and getting off. EDIT: This post was directed to the OP.

michaelOfGeorgia -> RE: So many subs mainly men think that being dominated means that they will have full sex. (3/10/2007 2:33:28 PM)
most men think with the wrong head, though...that's where the mix-up is.

Stunning -> RE: So many subs mainly men think that being dominated means that they will have full sex. (3/10/2007 2:41:14 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: FelinePersuasion Perhaps for you. It's not about nudity and sex for every one who'll ever do and ever did this. You can not unequivically say that for every one it's about getting off. Ok... let me ask you this. When you are... doing whatever you do (I didn't look to see if you're top or bottom) does it turn you on? Do you get excited and sexually aroused? I don't when I'm working on the car, or grilling out, or working in the yard or doing taxes. Those are things in my life that are not about sex. Telling my sub that she's out of line and leaving a handprint on her skin? That gets me hard. Pulling her by her hair down the hall to tie her up? Hot hot hot. Giving her daily instructions on what to wear and her assignment for the day? Makes me tingle in my boy parts. You don't handcuff the other guys at the Moose Lodge. It would be seen as a comeon.

FelinePersuasion -> RE: So many subs mainly men think that being dominated means that they will have full sex. (3/10/2007 7:29:14 PM)
Stunning, I am a switch who subs to my Daddy Dom and every one else it's debaitable:) Spankings* which is right now the easiliest done activity* most bdsm outside my relationship, does not revolve around sex normally do not make me all hot and horny no. They release endorphins which relax me, And any one outside of my daddy dom we don't do sex in bdsm. topping, bottoming, It's nice and I enjoy it, but I don't do it to get off. I do it because I enjoy the subspace or endorphins bdsm create. I've done several nice fufiling scenes and they didn't involve getting off, them or me, All though the last bondage scene I did he got my hair caught in the rope:P And it was quite the trial to get the knots out, it was throughly fucked up and knotted after we got it untangled from his rope lol.

Stunning -> RE: So many subs mainly men think that being dominated means that they will have full sex. (3/10/2007 10:01:45 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: FelinePersuasion Stunning, I am a switch who subs to my Daddy Dom and every one else it's debaitable:) Spankings* which is right now the easiliest done activity* most bdsm outside my relationship, does not revolve around sex normally do not make me all hot and horny no. They release endorphins which relax me, And any one outside of my daddy dom we don't do sex in bdsm. topping, bottoming, It's nice and I enjoy it, but I don't do it to get off. I do it because I enjoy the subspace or endorphins bdsm create. I've done several nice fufiling scenes and they didn't involve getting off, them or me, All though the last bondage scene I did he got my hair caught in the rope:P And it was quite the trial to get the knots out, it was throughly fucked up and knotted after we got it untangled from his rope lol. Ok. I don't propose to doubt someone when they tell me they speak the truth. There's just something inside me pulls a Jedi, like, "Search your feelings, padawan!"

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