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ORIGINAL: DiurnalVampire

The majority of people on here arent looking for just friends. Pros especialy, since we are fooded with responses sometimes, friendship offers fall to the wayside.  They gain nothing of making friends online, when the time could be used fostering potential paying clients.
Maybe the problem you have making friends is that you are specifically looking to talk to the pros.  Most of the time, the ones offering friendship to pros online are hoping to make friends, and then get "freebie" sessions later on.  Becasue this happens, friendships are not exactly trusted right off, either.  If you want friends, try taking to those who arent makeing professional contacts, but just personal and social ones.  You might have better luck.

DV

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ORIGINAL: lonlyrossInNeed

I also posted this in Ask a Master Becouse i am trying to get as mouch feedback as possible on this thank you .

I was wondering How come when i try to Meet and make new friends ON COllarMe .
 
i have no profile making friends with Dommes and submissives .
 
But when it comes to Reading A Pro's Profile .
 
And is seem  like they are someone that one would make a friend with
 
And i try to email them to make a new friendship

You never hear back from them except only on Here to find Sessions not firends.

I have friends who have sayd they get the same thing
I am curiouse
Why is this ?
 
THank you .
 
ross.g

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ORIGINAL: MsSonnetMarwood

Why is it you are approaching women who advertise here as prodommes for possible friendship?  If they're here advertising for clients, then that's what their here looking for.  You can't walk into a business and expect those running the business to drop everything on company time to take the time to get to know you because you decide you want to be friends with them.

As a lifestyle Domme, I've found most boys who approach me online saying "Hi, let's be friends" are primarily looking for sex chat, possibly play with no strings attached.   Consequently, I've learned to be very cautious of them.  However, I've struck up some really good conversations with folks who contacted me to talk about something - usually something in my profile or something I've said on the boards, and those HAVE developed into friendships of sorts.   There's also something very desparate about someone who wants to contact me online saying "Hi, let's be friends" and think that equals instant friendship.  It doesn't. 

If you're truly looking for lifestyle friends - don't bug the prodommes who are here working.  If you contact lifestyle dommes, try to start up an interesting conversation and see where it goes - don't pester them for insta-friendship. 

Your absolutely BEST bet to develop lifestyle friends is to turn off the computer, and get yourself out to some local munches and other events.  Volunteer to do things like help set up, etc,  if there are opportunities for that.  Be friendly with everyone.   See where it goes.  Don't force the issue.

Good luck to you.

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ORIGINAL: littlesarbonn

Personally, I think you are a bit over obsessed with the concept of money so that almost all of your contacts with female dominants is going to fit some kind of economic exchange with and for you. I have a large number of friends who over the years have been professional dominants (and submissives for that matter), but I think that if I ever focused on money, like putting up pictures of an expensive car or expensive homes, I'd have a hard time interacting with them as regular people, or even getting them to take me seriously at that level.

You're rarely going to succeed by writing someone out of the blue saying you want to be friends. It might work for some people, but I think you're discovering how hard that really is. However, you can make a lot of friends by posting a lot about a lot of different issues so that those who agree with you or find your thoughts interesting, might actually strike up conversations that lead to friendships.

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ORIGINAL: Jeniluscious

It's her job.  I don't go to my office to find friends either.  I have been known to befriend colleagues, but that's not the reason I'm there.