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RE: The Wow Factor - 3/10/2007 3:15:22 PM

Quivver

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I'm with CrazyC on the WOW factor. That was a lesson in itself. LOL
What I'm saying is I've met some through a font where I thought I felt chemistry.
Only to find out the font was better then then face to face.
But, I've also met others who's font paled to the face to face.
I refuse to allow myself frenzy over a font now. And I fight it when
the face to face ingnites the WOW until I get to know them.
But that WOW has to be there or why bother!!!

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RE: The Wow Factor - 3/10/2007 3:22:54 PM

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The WOW factor has to carry over.

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RE: The Wow Factor - 3/10/2007 3:25:17 PM

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Right, if the wow isn't there, where's the motivation to make the effort to take it any further? I agree that its not an especially good course of action to rely on the wow to carry the dynamic, and I do what I can not to be overwhelmed with it until I get a better sense of who they are as a person.

On the other hand, I haven't really had any dissapointments, and the ones who haven't wowed me on-line haven't wowed me off line either. I think one thing to recognize is that the wow is an illusion and not the reality of the person so I don't expect the person to be the wow. The wow grabs me and inspires me to look further. I've found that if someone knows how to do that effectively, their worth making the effort to get to know. I think I'm usually relieved that they aren't nearly as wowy in real life because I don't need that much wow in my life.

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RE: The Wow Factor - 3/10/2007 3:25:36 PM

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ORIGINAL: angelic

i get several e-mails throughout the week from different Doms/Masters who are seeking and i was asking myself this morning why, out of all these e-mails there is not One i am really interested in pursuing. What i basically came up with was there is no "wow" factor they pretty much all sound the same. Here's my question:

Was there the 'wow' factor for you right from the start?

It's the same for me when subs send me emails.......nothing...

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RE: The Wow Factor - 3/10/2007 3:38:02 PM

angelic

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Sometimes i think i've got my sights set too high, but then i think.... nahhhh, i deserve the WOW factor (at least occassionally) .

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RE: The Wow Factor - 3/10/2007 3:44:05 PM

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My WOW moment with Him came the day I met Him face to face. I was already taken by Him in so many ways, but the minute I stepped outta my car and He walked towards me, looking me up and down, then hugging me...... I got the most lovely shivers. The way His eyes moved over me

..... oh lord, I felt like I was standing there completely nekkid in that parking lot! Whew, I might swoon just thinking about it!

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RE: The Wow Factor - 3/10/2007 3:46:43 PM

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That sounds wonderful.

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RE: The Wow Factor - 3/10/2007 4:03:00 PM

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I Love the rush I feel when I feel the "Wow" factor myself. To be completely blown away by another. Sometimes it's quick, other times not so quick.

However, the reality after the "Wow" can be less then what it was cracked up to be.

There are times when somebody is feeling the "Wow" factor for me, and I'm just not there with it.
The opposite is true as well, I've had a Big Wow for somebody, and they were not into.

The two way, WOW... that's really intense. Again, at times it's been a Quick Wow, other times a slow building Wow! Depending upon the level of communication and interaction.

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RE: The Wow Factor - 3/10/2007 4:15:13 PM

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i think it depends on what you seek. For people who are looking primarily for play partners, there has to be some Wow factor. For people who are looking for more long term relationships, the Wow can wear off in time... so there needs to be something else going on.

i was not looking for the Wow... i was actually afraid of the Wow, because when i experienced it, it blew me away, and i found myself wayyyyyyyy too eager to please that man.

Master and i met here on CM, and i was not impressed with Him at first. No Wow factor. In fact the complete opposite effect. But things progressed, and there was a definate (and healthy) Wow factor from the first moment i looked up into His eyes.

i would advise people to not disregard someone on line just because you are not getting the Wow. You may be dismissing someone who could blow your socks off with Wow in real life.

Just a thought~*
Master's dorei

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RE: The Wow Factor - 3/10/2007 4:18:50 PM

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Very valid words. However, i was in a 5 year, r/l WOW M/s relationship. The WOW lasted. i was always in awe of him.

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RE: The Wow Factor - 3/10/2007 4:26:07 PM

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Wow, ur, I mean WOW!

I'm awfully glad I haven't sent out any emails in a while.

I don't think I could stand not measuring up. Having said that, my emails are always courteous, reasonably direct without being pushy or sexual. Grammer, spelling, and punctuation are usually spot-on. I know what my strengths are, but I don't feel there is any good way of clubbing someone with that right away, so I don't try.

I might not be anyone's first choice, but I figure I'm usually a lot of people's best choice. They just don't know it.

Jeff

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RE: The Wow Factor - 3/10/2007 5:07:45 PM

MasterNdorei

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angelic, i was so glad to read how long it lasted for you! i am at just over a year and half with Master, and the Wow is everywhere!

Jeff, your post was great! There is a lot to be said for knowing you are someone's best choice, whether or not they know it!

Master's dorei

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RE: The Wow Factor - 3/10/2007 5:09:15 PM

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Curiousity and good timing can be enough for me to keep going. If I get a positive vibe, i see where it takes me.

I had a wow moment the first time I slept over at his apartment. I've been to a lot of bachelor pads- both pre and post marriage, but this was the first one that ever felt like a warm welcome home the first time I stepped in.

The next big one was the moment I realized I was in love with him. Since then, it's just been a long series of wow moments.

But it took several months from the first time we met to get to that big Wow- until then, it was just good vibes, good timing, and mutual interest. Trust me, I still beat myself up for keeping things so open that some other person might have snatched him up before I came to my senses :)

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RE: The Wow Factor - 3/10/2007 5:22:34 PM

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No wow factor. He sent me a one liner saying he thought we had some things in common. He was lucky that I was still very new and was answering all emails, not yet having gotten too many slams for telling people thanks but no thanks. I read his email, saw something I was confused about and sent him a two liner asking him to explain it.

Within just a few days we were sending long emails several times a day, worked our way up to chat shortly afterwards and then phone. Met a month later.

But no immediate wow. On either side.

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RE: The Wow Factor - 3/10/2007 7:54:39 PM

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I guess I am a cynic and I tend to ignore the wow factor as I have seen ones I wasn't that hot on blossom and ones who I thought were wow as hell turn into yawns.

It is the ones who you get the little wows about that seem to slowly build to OMG. And currently, it is very good to be me.

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RE: The Wow Factor - 3/10/2007 8:33:09 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: WhiplashSmile

I Love the rush I feel when I feel the "Wow" factor myself. To be completely blown away by another. Sometimes it's quick, other times not so quick.

However, the reality after the "Wow" can be less then what it was cracked up to be.

There are times when somebody is feeling the "Wow" factor for me, and I'm just not there with it.
The opposite is true as well, I've had a Big Wow for somebody, and they were not into.

The two way, WOW... that's really intense. Again, at times it's been a Quick Wow, other times a slow building Wow! Depending upon the level of communication and interaction.

WOW! :-)

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RE: The Wow Factor - 3/10/2007 9:35:20 PM

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Almost 25 years ago, and still from time to time.

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RE: The Wow Factor - 3/10/2007 11:00:36 PM

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I had the "wow thing" happen one time out here.....I was talking with this sub...who had a very nice picture posted....and after a couple of messages and a few conversations it was time to meet...We agreed to meet in a town just outside of Chicago the next evening....I talked to her the next day before out meeting and she said..."Oh one thing you should now,...That picture in my profile was taken over a year ago and I have since gained about an extra hundred pounds or so.'....Before I cancelled the date, I'm pretty sure I said... "Wow!."....Does this count?

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RE: The Wow Factor - 3/11/2007 1:55:14 AM

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If the premise is that a first email can be powerful enough to wow someone then the energy around the email is coming from the reader and has little to do with objective words used by the writer. In other words, the readers past has conditioned her and magnets start turning on their attracting fields because of previous experiences, desires, fantasies or maybe a movie she has seen. Her experiencing a wow factor is subjective and has little to do with the writer who accidentally put in the buzz word that made her remember that fantasy.

Likewise in real life, it is often said someone fell in love the minute he/she saw another. That is all based on conditioning and is not a miracle, there she is moment, that came out of nowhere. We desire and are what we have “learned.”

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RE: The Wow Factor - 3/11/2007 3:04:38 AM

gypsygrl

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I totally agree with this. The wow involves a huge amount of projection/transference on my part. The wow itself is an illusion but this doesn't make it trivial. For me, if I'm feeling a wow, I take it as an indication that somethings going on inside my head thats worth following up on. If the wow isn't present, nothings happening inside my head so there's not alot of interest.

Because the wow is an illusion, its important for me to keep it in perspective and remember that its my wow and not to hold the other accountable for it.

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