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fitting in ...... - 3/10/2007 2:02:24 PM   
simplewhispers


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Status: offline 		I read a thread this am about a sensual Dom, I thought yea I want one of those, I know I need a Dom , but most of them scare me with the tatics they use........ I need one that builds you up, makes me want to please him more...... just thought I would tell  yall I finally feel like I fit in .......

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RE: fitting in ...... - 3/10/2007 2:10:55 PM   
DiurnalVampire


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Status: offline 		There is a fit for everyone somewhere.  No matter what you are into, someone somewhere will be into it too. Glad to hear youve at least found something that leads you in the right direction.

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RE: fitting in ...... - 3/10/2007 2:14:14 PM   
szobras


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Status: offline 		That is great to hear. 

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RE: fitting in ...... - 3/10/2007 2:29:28 PM   
LuckyAlbatross


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Status: offline 		I'm sorry that even after all the responses on your "I'm so naive" thread that you still felt this way.  I thought we'd clearly communicated that this pretty much a "take what works for you, leave the rest, there's always someone who fits what you want" kinda deal.

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RE: fitting in ...... - 3/10/2007 2:53:32 PM   
CreativeDominant


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quote:

ORIGINAL: simplewhispers

I read a thread this am about a sensual Dom, I thought yea I want one of those, I know I need a Dom , but most of them scare me with the tatics they use........ I need one that builds you up, makes me want to please him more...... just thought I would tell  yall I finally feel like I fit in .......


You have to remember that Sensual means differing things to differing people...for some dominants and their submissives, it might mean the bite of the whip intermixed with the cooling stroke of the ice cube...for others it might be the sharpest edge of the knife drawn just so across the nipple and clit...for others, it might simply be the feel of their bodies entwined together in a hot, no holes-barred fuck...and for others it might be none of these things.  Sensuality is referring to the senses and while it may have something to do with dominance, I tend to think of it as referring more to the play side than to the non-play side.

If you are referring to the play side, you are going to have to define for yourself...and for the dominant seeking your company...what sensual means to you.  If you are referring to the non-play side and what you mean is Gentle and/or Patient rather than Harsh or Discipline-oriented, etc., etc., then you are going to have to make that clear. 

I am very sensual...both on the gentle type and the harsh type of play.  I mix it up.  I don't know that sensual could be applied to my dominance outside the bedroom though gentle and firm and patient and willing to discipline all can be.

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RE: fitting in ...... - 3/10/2007 3:00:18 PM   
Quivver


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Status: offline 		Words paint a picture that fits what we have in our heads of what that word is. 
Sensual could be most anything!  See, you fit in and never knew it! 
The best way to find things out is asking questions. 
It's tough to speak up, but honestly the only way.................


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RE: fitting in ...... - 3/10/2007 4:33:27 PM   
mstrjx


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Status: offline 		Conveying experience to a relative newbie is ALWAYS problematic.

If you say, 'well, I've done this and this and this' they look at you cross-eyed.  (Well, this is cyberland, and you can't really SEE that look, but you can tell it's there.)

But there's two things to that.

It took, in this case me, 16 years to say I had had all of those experiences.  A novice has to expect that they aren't at the same point, and shouldn't be expected to be.  Given time, they might get the opportunity to do those same things.

Also, just because a Dom(me) did 'something' to one person doesn't mean they would necessarily do that with everyone.  Or at least not at first.

I took my interests down on my profile for that reason.  It's stupid to let someone be queasy from the start because they feel they have to play at 'my' level.  I don't feel there is any need for premature intimidation.

Jeff

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RE: fitting in ...... - 3/10/2007 5:22:03 PM   
WhiplashSmile


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quote:

ORIGINAL: LuckyAlbatross

I'm sorry that even after all the responses on your "I'm so naive" thread that you still felt this way.  I thought we'd clearly communicated that this pretty much a "take what works for you, leave the rest, there's always someone who fits what you want" kinda deal.


She's just seeing if there are others that feel and think the same way!  If she really fits into the Crazy Crowd of us BDSMers... or if she needs to Run like Hell away from us fearful for her life!

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RE: fitting in ...... - 3/10/2007 6:05:45 PM   
simplewhispers


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Status: offline 		yes exactly , seeing where I fit in , and seeing someone post and speak about what I really wanted made my heart SMILE

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RE: fitting in ...... - 3/10/2007 6:17:07 PM   
FurysEmbers


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Status: offline 		i know that i have tried to fit whatever most people thought i should be. i cant be that person. i am a collage of things that may be atypical but i dont feel bad about that. recently i found a Master who i am talking to and the funny thing about that is He has been writing me for almost a year. He has read my first profile. all that time and i kinda ignored alot of people. i had talked to Him a few time but life got in the way and i forgot. i asked Him why he never gave up and He told me that He was waiting for me to be ready to talk. that made me feel good. there are those who see the special things in us even when we dont see it.

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RE: fitting in ...... - 3/10/2007 8:23:27 PM   
simplewhispers


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ORIGINAL: FurysEmbers

i know that i have tried to fit whatever most people thought i should be. i cant be that person. i am a collage of things that may be atypical but i dont feel bad about that. recently i found a Master who i am talking to and the funny thing about that is He has been writing me for almost a year. He has read my first profile. all that time and i kinda ignored alot of people. i had talked to Him a few time but life got in the way and i forgot. i asked Him why he never gave up and He told me that He was waiting for me to be ready to talk. that made me feel good. there are those who see the special things in us even when we dont see it.



how nice is that???

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