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GoddessDustyGold -> RE: Arguments (aka, how to piss us off) (3/11/2007 8:03:44 PM)
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ORIGINAL: DreamyLadySnow
In the vanilla world men learn that in order to get what they want from women they need to learn basic social skills, show an interest in her, listen. I don't think many vanilla men would walk up to a strange woman with a list of sexual services he expects her to perform (unless he's paying) so why do kinky men think it's ok to do that?
One would think that after a hundred rejections a man would question what he's doing wrong. Or read the forums.
LS
*Smile* The fact of the matter is that most of the males on sites like collarme, b.com, a.com, et al, make the mistake of assuming that these are sexually oriented sites only, and, as a result, any and all Women on these sites are "hot to trot", and this is what they are seeking. Instead of looking at profiles with the idea that we are classy Ladies who are not trolling for kinky sexual encounters, but we are embracing an alternative lifestyle that often includes these extras, they see a meat market and a quick way to get off via a chat, cam or phone call. I honestly think that many of them are not even aware of the fact that they are treating Women as sex objects or that there is anything wrong with their attitude. According to their view, We fall into the old fashioned "bad"or "easy" girl, and that is all they really want anyway. A quick and kinky new way to get off. All's fair on the net. And, goddess forbid, should we ignore them or refuse them...then we are fakes who have wasted their valuable wanking time!
It is unfortunate, but I simply use this attitude as a measure of their lack of understanding regarding D/s and/or M/s as a lifestyle. So it makes them much easier to weed out.
Yes, I agree...if more of them would read the forums, they might get a clue. That is even a direct instruction in My profile should they wish to write to Me for an exploration of a relationship.
Don't hold your breath! I would have been dead long ago if I had held Mine!
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ORIGINAL: DiurnalVampire
Begging to serve me on cam or the phone after a conversation or two of "just being friends".
Edited to add: Yes, this is one of My biggest pet peeves. How does one "serve" on cam or phone? I consider that just a veiled way of saying "I will let you watch (or listen), Ma'am, while you order me to get off in the kinky way I want to get off."
*Sigh*
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