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RobertCloud -> RE: This site doesn't work worth a damn (3/11/2007 1:10:58 AM)
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The problem does not happen to be with the site but the quality of the user and the people you come into contact with as well as how well you present yourself.
I have been a member of CollarMe for over 4 years. I did change my profile name recently to reflect my penname. In that four years I had very little success with coming in contact with anyone that was more than a scam, wannabe, player or someone that I had little to nothing in common with. There were a few but the distance or circumstances made things between us impossible yet we remain friends to this day. So I made several good friends.
With the first profile name I never ventured into the forums. Over three and a half years in just the chat and just email and I can tell you this. That is wasting a lot of time because you really do not get to know a lot of people and you learn very little.
Then I started the new profile and this time I tried a completely new tactic. I wanted to guarantee I never emailed someone twice unless they responded. I wanted to make certain I emailed everyone I was interested in emailing a completely original email, and I wanted to be certain I looked and read every profile that fit my criteria.
I set the criteria and when I emailed someone I then hit the HIDE button. If I got a response I emailed them back until they stopped responding or said they were not interested or we moved to an instant messenger. If I never got a response I never emailed them again. If the profile said they were not looking, I hid them, if they were not looking for a male dominant I hid them, if they were looking for someone that I did not fit their criteria I hid them. So I read the profiles very carefully.
I finally got to the point that there was not a single profile left when I logged on unless it was someone that was new or someone that had altered their profile. So, I had figured that I had exhausted my chances of finding anyone here and was settling in to not finding anyone. That was when I joined the forums.
I enjoyed them. Made some great friends, and have learned a lot, and had several people contact me suddenly interested in me. Then out of the blue I was contacted by someone that I had not seen because their profile did not fit in my criteria. (Actually, they had misentered some of their information and it did not show up because of that).
Now, four years later, I am in the happiest relationship I have ever been in. We have not yet met but are planning to meet next month for the first time. Possibly, twice in the same month. We speak for HOURS every day, and I do mean hours... at least five or more on the phone every single day. Yes, we have even had fights, a couple, but we have also made up because it turned out they were miscommunications and once we understood what was actually said it was silly, yet we also know we will have real fights someday too and we are preparing ways to handle those better based off these that we have had so far so that when the real ones occur that we are better able to handle them and make the relationship last past it because neither of us wants it to end. We want it to work and to survive what ever fights we may have. No, we do not intend to fight often or even semi often, but humans do disagree, and though we are Master/slave, I allow her to speak to me freely as I LOVE THAT SHE HAS A WONDERFUL MIND.
I have never thought that this site was not working. I knew someday I would find someone here, I knew it just took patience. I never expected to find someone fast, I never expected to meet someone for a quick lay or a one night stand. I wanted a permanent long lasting relationship built on a foundation of trust and love with a Master/slave dynamic that might have a touch of a Daddy/daughter mixed in... I have found that.
She is everything I have ever dreamed of... everything... so for me CollarMe worked... I felt it always did...
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