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Mistresses with low amount of sexuality - 4/2/2005 7:30:17 PM   
searchingsub


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Will a submissive male who advertises himself as being will to perform no string housekeeping and long term orgasm denial attract Dommes with low sex drive, or does being a Domme reading this board imply that the Woman has higher
than average sex drive?
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RE: Mistresses with low amount of sexuality - 4/2/2005 7:52:05 PM   
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Will a submissive male who advertises himself as being will to perform no string housekeeping and long term orgasm denial attract Dommes with low sex drive

Yes theoretically I think that would definitely attract the type of Domme who's not big on sexual activity, or at least Dommes who say they are not interested in having any sex with their subs... I've read a few times on these boards Dominas who have multiple servants usually utilize them for whatever they are good at, not sex. You may need to define sexual activity since some people are turned on by watching you clean, lol.
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does being a Domme reading this board imply that the Woman has higher than average sex drive?

No, being a Domme reading this board does not imply a higher sex drive.
All types of Dominas with all levels of sex drive and seeking different types of relationships with their subs read and participate as I understand. M


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RE: Mistresses with low amount of sexuality - 4/3/2005 3:17:50 AM   
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RE: Mistresses with low amount of sexuality - 4/3/2005 7:38:11 AM   
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Status: offline 		I think it will attract a Domme who wants a sub to clean her house and who has no interest in anything sexual with that particular sub. I don't think it correlates to her sex drive. I don't think being on a board like this correlates to her sex drive either.

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RE: Mistresses with low amount of sexuality - 4/3/2005 7:57:07 AM   
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Status: offline 		I think it is unwise to assume there is a carte blanc way with amoungst Dommes. Houseboys and lovers fulfill different duties, while both can be submissive, so people have a natural tendency to be good at somethings and others don't. I have had houseboys that are lovers, but the majority havn't been. And I have had lovers that do housework, but the majority don't do it as well as someone who himself is truly focused on that task. While it would be delightful to find one who is capable of both, and that I am attracted to in both ways, I've yet to find one that turns me on sexually and yet, is gifted in the housework arena. While I don't derive sexual pleasure from watching my current houseboy clean the house, I enjoy it immensely as it free up my time for more important activities and allows me the luxury of having peace of mind, in knowing that certain things are already taken care of. I can't over emphasis the value of that as a single working woman. His happiness comes from knowing that he has helped me, and makes my life easier and perhaps that I've got a few wicked paddles that will meet his back side if he does a half-assed job!

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RE: Mistresses with low amount of sexuality - 4/3/2005 9:13:47 AM   
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Will a submissive male who advertises himself as being will to perform no string housekeeping and long term orgasm denial attract Dommes with low sex drive, or does being a Domme reading this board imply that the Woman has higher
than average sex drive?


There is no such thing as "no strings attached."
First and foremost, be honest.
You obviously want to get something out of it. Be clear about what it is.

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RE: Mistresses with low amount of sexuality - 4/4/2005 3:20:19 AM   
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Not everyone can be sex starved all the time.

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RE: Mistresses with low amount of sexuality - 4/4/2005 4:56:42 AM   
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Not everyone can be sex starved all the time.


All the time might be a slight exageration, but I know many Dommes who have a very high sex drive, myself included. That doesn't mean that all my Domme/sub relationships are all the way sexual, but there has to be sexuality in it for me.

There is a thread that is closely related to this topic. It is entitled A Domme's Sexuality. You might enjoy the read.

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RE: Mistresses with low amount of sexuality - 4/4/2005 6:50:23 AM   
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Status: offline 		A Domme's sexuality is not at issue, it is the sexuality of that particular relationship that is. I keep different slaves for different purposes, and although my sex drive is very high, a lot of it is not directed into, or fulfilled by, my Mistress/slave relationships. Which is not to say that there is not a sexual component to power exchange alone (or that I don't keep some slaves expressly for that purpose *wink*), but I think if you advertise yourself as very service oriented/domestic you will attract Dommes who are looking to fulfill that particular need, regardless of the intesity of their personal sexuality.

If the sexual component is important to you, you need to be very open and direct about that. Set a clear expectation, or don't be suprised when you are disappointed.

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RE: Mistresses with low amount of sexuality - 4/4/2005 10:10:52 AM   
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A Domme's sexuality is not at issue, it is the sexuality of that particular relationship that is. I keep different slaves for different purposes, and although my sex drive is very high, a lot of it is not directed into, or fulfilled by, my Mistress/slave relationships. Which is not to say that there is not a sexual component to power exchange alone (or that I don't keep some slaves expressly for that purpose *wink*), but I think if you advertise yourself as very service oriented/domestic you will attract Dommes who are looking to fulfill that particular need, regardless of the intesity of their personal sexuality.

If the sexual component is important to you, you need to be very open and direct about that. Set a clear expectation, or don't be suprised when you are disappointed.

~MsElle


Also, for those subs that envision themselves as a sex slave of sorts, who boast that their femdom's pleasure comes first and he fancies himself a "pussy slave" -- keep in mind there CAN be "too much of a good thing."

There are some subs that are so obssessed with giving oral that they can effectively turn their partner off to it. How can that be? How could a woman not LOVE having a man around who does not even care about his own orgasms, he just wants to please her?

Because he has turned the act of going down on a woman into a selfish one, believe it or not. He whines if she says she's not in the mood. He playfully "teases" her "oh you haven't had enough orgasms today!" and then gets downright mopey and passive aggressive if he doesn't get to go down on her x number of times a day. And it's never enough!

So many subs complain, "My wife isn't dominant at all, she doesn't even like it when I go down on her anymore....and all I want to do is please her, I don't understand!"

It's because you can burn her out on it, you can put your pleasure first and not take into consideration that she is sick of being asked and pushed into it.

I LOVE having a man go down on me when he's good at it -- but I get sick and tired of a guy who bugs me constantly to do it again and again. It's obviously a huge turn on for him, which is great, but when he starts to become a pest about it, you have to wonder whose pleasure it's really about.

Akasha

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RE: Mistresses with low amount of sexuality - 4/4/2005 6:46:21 PM   
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A Domme's sexuality is not at issue, it is the sexuality of that particular relationship that is.


Well it depends what spin you put on it. My sexuality is always the issue. That means that I have sex when I want, where I want, with who I want and on my terms.

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RE: Mistresses with low amount of sexuality - 4/4/2005 6:47:55 PM   
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Because he has turned the act of going down on a woman into a selfish one, believe it or not. He whines if she says she's not in the mood. He playfully "teases" her "oh you haven't had enough orgasms today!" and then gets downright mopey and passive aggressive if he doesn't get to go down on her x number of times a day. And it's never enough!


Yeah... those kind of subs last all of 5 minutes longer with me. I have very little patience for passive/aggressive boys and girls!

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