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First anal - 3/13/2007 9:12:21 AM   
TheSirJim


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Status: offline 		I'm very inexperienced with BDSM, and have always been with very innocent girls in the past, and am looking at soon having my first anal experience, which I'm very excited about. But what things do I need to know? I've sort of brought it up with a couple friends before, but all we've talked about is that lube is absolutely necessary. Any general info would be appreciated. Would also like info from the perspective of the receiver, as she will want to know more too.
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RE: First anal - 3/13/2007 9:32:00 AM   
onestandingstill


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Status: offline 		Start with a well lubed finger to loosen her anus up some.
Move to the well lubed head of your cock and enter slowly.
I'd recommend doggie style and you letting her push herself back on you so you move at a speed she can take.
If you reach around & stimulate her twat it will help he be more relaxed and hot instead of all tight and just waiting for you without any pleasurable distractions for her.
Once you've got the head of your cock in there just sit still and wait a munite or two to give her muscles time to adjust to the penetration befor you try to go in more or move around too much.
After that it's to each his/her own as to the pleasurable or non-pleasurable experience.
Be absolutely sure NOT TO cross contaminate her and give her an infection.
Nothing that goes in her butt should go near her twat as the bacteria will pollute her.
Just consider anything that went in her butt contaminated till it's washed at minimum with warm soapy water.

A side note.
If you don't want to be dipping in poo she should do a little enema about 30 munites before you begin.
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RE: First anal - 3/13/2007 9:54:14 AM   
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Status: offline 		Although fingers are a good starter, for the most part unless you use 2 or 3 you won't match the size of the head of your penis.

My advice is to:
  • Start out with a warm enema and a shower, and possibly a bath.  Wash her ass after the enema so that she is comfortable with you being in her rose garden and not getting grossed out.
  • move on to some intense foreplay to further relax and put you both in the mood
  • have some type of Anal Lube available and use lots of it  (I recommend astro glide)
  • start with your fingers then move to a graduated butt plug...something that starts out pretty narrow and gets larger toward the base.  This will allow the sphincter to slowly adjust to being stretched
  • slowly introduce the head of your penis and let her body language and verbal cues guide your progress, once the head of your penis enters the sphincter, apply more lube and again let her body language and verbal cues guide your progress.

This may take a few hours.  I am hoping your goal is to make her love it not hate it.  Take your time and don't rush the progress.  It will be worth it in the long run.

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RE: First anal - 3/13/2007 11:27:22 AM   
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Status: offline 		YES! Lube is utterly essential!  The anus does not make it's own lubricant like a vagina does. The more lube especially at first the better. Go slow and be patient. Work her with fingers first (also helps get lube inside well). YOu will feel her open up.

If when you first start she says it hurts too much, stroke her back and stay still for a few moments. She should relax around your cock and then when you stroke it will feel good.

One bad experience can mean a lifetime of her saying "no way".  Make it a good one and you can enjoy for a long time.

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RE: First anal - 3/13/2007 11:38:24 AM   
TheSirJim


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Status: offline 		Thanks for the info, sounds like great advice. :)

So it sounds like an enema would be a very good idea, but I have no experience with that either... Can I get an intro to that too?

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RE: First anal - 3/13/2007 12:03:48 PM   
hereyesruponyou


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Status: offline 		Enemas can be a very sensual part of play and ritual in and of itself. You won't get really good cleaning with an over the counter type, like Fleets, but you also can't do much harm with those if you follow directions.

If you want to go farther the key is a good old fashioned regular enema bag filled with warm water. For the first fill she may only take half and it needs to go in VERY slowly. She will have some cramping and you should be encouraging to her. Use lube on her ass and the tube you are inserting and it will make it easier and be less likely to cause tearing. Allow her to purge for a bit on the toilet. For my partner and I, we love this time. Holding each other and stroking during such an intimate moment is very emotional.

We go for 2-3 fill/empty cycles before serious play, with each one filling a tiny bit faster and being forced to hold a bit longer each time.  For real fun do one of the last ones in the tub and make her hold until she can't and release in there. Weird sensation, especially mentally. She can then shower and be ready to go.

The most important thing is to remember that the intestines are delicate things and overfilling or filling too fast can cause a hernia or rupture the wall, which will result in surgery and possibly an inability to play that way ever again, or even death (very very rare).  Play safe and start slow and there's no where you can't go. She may even find out she loves it (like i did) and thank you for the experience.

Feel free to contact me on the other side for more specific advise and remember this is based on my own personal experiences. I am not a dr or expert!  Have fun!

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RE: First anal - 3/13/2007 2:37:18 PM   
TheSirJim


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Status: offline 		Ok, so where can I find the tools for that, and more importantly does it come with detailed instructions? I have zero knowledge of enemas, I only know the basic concept and what I just read from that last post.

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RE: First anal - 3/13/2007 3:10:57 PM   
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Status: offline 		See:  www.puckerup.com/  which is Tristan Taormino’s website; she is queen of anal!  LOL  …and you can find her wonderful book there, too.
 
Oh…and I’d not take Fleets…unless it’s just the saline stuff; the chemicals in the rest are nasty!!!  I just empty the things and use warm water.  Even soap is unnecessary….as is a quart of water.  I get all crampy so easily…I just use a ball-thang and a cup of water and don’t hold it very long; sort of like “rinse and repeat till clear”.  This works a lot better for me than a whole enema.  ugg
 
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RE: First anal - 3/13/2007 4:07:17 PM   
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Status: offline 		u don't have to bother witrh enemas unless ur dealin with someone constipated... just make sure its not close to a bowel movement... like right after a meal... lube is good and fingerin if u like that but can also just let the head of ur dick rest against the anus so it gets used to the idea and relaxes... but i would say for a 1st time... start vaginal sex missionary style...then work the dick back there... its not as deep a penetration as doggy in fact if its her 1st time u don't want to go real deep... don't scare her just play with it till she WANTS it deeper...

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RE: First anal - 3/13/2007 4:20:05 PM   
TheSirJim


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Status: offline 		Sounds like good advice on the positions. Though do others agree that we can get away without needing an enema? I really don't want any surprise brown stuff, really not in to that. Rather have to deal with it in enema form than surprise it's on your dick form.

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RE: First anal - 3/13/2007 4:31:13 PM   
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Status: offline 		I would say some people like enemas and the best way to my knowledge to not get any 'surprises' is to do an enema or to do it a while after she has had a bowel movement. I know when I have an enema it is a while before I have another bowel movement. Just my opinion tho.

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RE: First anal - 3/13/2007 4:47:38 PM   
azzmaster


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Status: offline 		2 many enemas r not good for a person...and u only want to assfuck a very clean person and always use a condom... always...

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RE: First anal - 3/13/2007 6:15:42 PM   
TheSirJim


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Status: offline 		Why is a condom necessary for anal? Just for the cleanliness?

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RE: First anal - 3/13/2007 6:27:18 PM   
azzmaster


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Status: offline 		for cleanliness, but also for not spreading HIV or other STDs... but just in case there is a "surprise" it won't bother u as much if it gets on a condom... also if its someone ur exclusive with u could assfuck her with a condo on and after u nit if u want to fuck her pussy u can go for it without washing off etc... for a smooth flow... never ever put ur dick up a womans pussy after its been in her ass without a condom or without washing ur dick off WELL... any fecal matter that gets in her pussy will give her a bladder infection because of the bacteria... same goes for fingers... if its been in her ass wash it off b4 u put it anywhere else

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RE: First anal - 3/13/2007 10:46:30 PM   
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Status: offline 		You can obtain a basic enema kit from WalMart.  It is cleverly disguised as a hot water bottle/douche kit.  It can range from $5.00 to about $7.00 so its not a big expense and it is reuseable.

When I do an enema, I do it in 3's.

  1. peppermint castille soap (1 T in 2 qts of warm water)
  2. baking soda (1/4 cup in 2 qts of warm water)
  3. Clear Warm Water

This takes a couple of hours, but it can be used as foreplay and relaxation.

The reason for a condom is for cleanliness, but also to prevent you from getting something nasty in your urethra that can cause you problems.

Just an FYI, getting fecal material in the vagina will not cause a bladder infection but it will cause a vaginal infection that can make your partner say no to any kind of sex in the future...NOW if you get fecal material in her urethra then you can cause a bladder infection.  It is HIGHLY Important not to cross contaminate the pleasure zones.

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RE: First anal - 3/13/2007 11:08:29 PM   
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Status: offline 		i was fucked in the ass for the first time when i was 21.  No one had ever put anything into my ass before that.  my exhusband and first Master fucked me in the ass on our first date.  He was 37 and very experienced.  i trusted Him and He used no lube, except His own finger that he wetted with His own saliva first.  Of course, i was pretty well "lubed" with some good Italian wine, first, but that's all.   i didn't even realize what He was doing until He was already inside me.  If i had known beforehand, i'm sure i would have tighten-up out of fear.   His position of choice was to have me on my back with my legs in the air and He pushed them back toward my head which raise my hips up and gave Him good access.  He didn't plunged right in, He took His time, which helped ease me open and felt really exciting to me, also. 
 
i've never used any lube, except saliva or the juices that run down between my thighs.  Enemas are fine, but not necessary and neither is lube.  It's a matter of personal taste.  The key is to relax and enjoy.
 
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RE: First anal - 3/14/2007 12:46:01 AM   
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ORIGINAL: TheSirJim

I'm very inexperienced with BDSM, and have always been with very innocent girls in the past, and am looking at soon having my first anal experience, which I'm very excited about. But what things do I need to know? I've sort of brought it up with a couple friends before, but all we've talked about is that lube is absolutely necessary. Any general info would be appreciated. Would also like info from the perspective of the receiver, as she will want to know more too.


take your time with first time anal play and let your Dom/Master know when it gets to be too much for you to handle. And be patient with it, i've finally been able to take a small vibrator up to the on/off switch . But it did take me a while to get used to it, and now i love it. And especially have fun with your Dom/Master when anal training.

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RE: First anal - 3/14/2007 12:53:30 AM   
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Status: offline 		I finally had my first anal experience...YAY me...lol anyways, LOTS AND LOTS of lube thankfully i was with someone who was experienced and knew what he was doing..it seemed like he was squirting the lube right into my ass, then while i was doggie style and he was standing behinde me he started playing with my clit and that made me forget about everything then the next thing i knew he was fucking my ass with his finger, and it really wasnt that bad so then he moved on to his penis and of course made sure that there was lots of lube again, he positioned the head of his cock right at my ass and kinda pushed a little then when i said ow (mainly out of fear of the pain) he stopped and just kinda stayed where he was at and told me to push back when i was ready, the only thing i was really imbarressed about was "farting" after he had washed himself off and was fucking me again normally...so beware that this can and probably will happen...i couldnt stop laughing cause i was so imbarressed but what made it ok was that he didnt make a big deal out of it even though he was on top of me and i had a pillow covering my face....  ... just remember the tips that you have gotten and you should be good....  

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RE: First anal - 3/14/2007 1:02:06 PM   
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Status: offline 		Gloves! I suggest gloves while handling the lube. You can always peel one or both right off to play with her clit etc... that way. And if anything brown come out on the glove it won't be as yucky to you. I like the purple nitile, but i am allergic to latex. Besides they are so cute!

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RE: First anal - 3/15/2007 7:54:08 PM   
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Status: offline 		the best way to instill an enema, is for the person to be lying ontheir left side, with knees pulled  towards the chest, and actually best, if the butt end is resting on a folded blanket or something similar to raise that area, rather than the person being totally flat.  i am an RN and many years ago, that is how most enemas were given (soap and water...ie something similar to castille soap, and not very much of it.)  on the other hand, just plain warm tap water will just as nicely.  it needs to be given slowly so that the person will be able to tolerate it.   but really you only need to clearn out the lower part of the gut..maybe half a liter, and then maybe another half liter.

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