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RE: First anal - 3/17/2007 11:30:06 AM

willingsub18

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i have problems relaxing right after i have an enema.... but that is just me. trying to do anal right after an enema would be impossible for me.

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RE: First anal - 3/17/2007 4:44:50 PM

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love anal ...i think a woman wearing a strapon is very sexy indeed my mistress first took my ass cherry about almost 2 years ago ...first strapon she used was a 6in one ..now i can 10 in plus her fist no problem..smile i love bending over for her anytime she wants to take me ..call me crazy but it does feel good ..she has had 2 other bi men do me too and it seemed so natural doing that when i was with her ..boy can it be addicting smile ..gotta be honest yes i love it ..mal

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RE: First anal - 3/20/2007 11:06:45 AM

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ORIGINAL: Bearlee

See: www.puckerup.com/ which is Tristan Taormino’s website; she is queen of anal! LOL …and you can find her wonderful book there, too.

Oh…and I’d not take Fleets…unless it’s just the saline stuff; the chemicals in the rest are nasty!!! I just empty the things and use warm water. Even soap is unnecessary….as is a quart of water. I get all crampy so easily…I just use a ball-thang and a cup of water and don’t hold it very long; sort of like “rinse and repeat till clear”. This works a lot better for me than a whole enema. ugg

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Bearlee:
Why am I not surprised that you would be so knowledgeable in this area.

Thanx for the link.
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RE: First anal - 4/4/2007 9:38:18 PM

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As a receiver, my best advice would be to start training her at least a month in advance. My first Dom trained me with anal beads that started out very small and became very large toward the end. You choose the pace. Once He was ready to have me there, I was perfectly prepared.

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RE: First anal - 4/4/2007 9:45:33 PM

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Take your time...it is a fine art.

Lots of patience.

Lots of time.

Lots of lube.

Done right it is addictive and things will bnever be the same.

Done wrong and it takes patience to undo the wrong.

Ross
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RE: First anal - 4/6/2007 12:25:36 AM

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Getting her worked up in advance is also pretty essential for a first time. As someone commented elsewhere, "the second hole is the honest one", or something along those lines: it will usually hurt if she's not hot up front. If she's aroused enough, or can take the discomfort, going at it without lube can work for many, but it's not something I'd recommend for a first experience.

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RE: First anal - 4/6/2007 7:29:12 AM

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ive done all sorts to prepare for anal, ive done the enemas and i have to agree after all that messing about anal was painful.
my only prep now its to lube up a slim butt plug (prefer the silicone based lubes as they dont dry out) and insert it, i dont want to be stretched but..........not to gross anyone out but it pushes the contents of the rectum back so the passage is clear (preferably you would have a bowel movement so the passage is clear but i cant poo on demand lol...what goes up must come down so this is done as close to the event as possible)
using a lot of lube on the butt plug means the interior is lubed which also cuts down on anything adhering to the cock (like a barrier)
ideally you should be relaxed etc but im taken anally after heavy flogging, cropping etc and the last thing i am is relaxed so the first penetration hurts but after 1 stroke it feels yummy

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RE: First anal - 4/6/2007 10:44:34 AM

Aswad

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Yeah, enemas will tend to irritate the area. If you're concerned about fecal matter, I would suggest using a condom. Otherwise, getting a lot of vitamin C and urinating as soon as possible after enjoying it is a good idea for the penetrating party.

Anal sex can certainly be painful sometimes, particularly if the sub is tense or not aroused. Of course, for me, that is a turn-on, and part of the point when I do this with nephandi, although I do prefer anal sex in general as well, not just the rough stuff. It does get a lot easier for her after a little while, most of the time, but sometimes I go hard on her so it doesn't ease up. Depends on your preferences.

If the OP has a sub that would enjoy the pain, it can be worth giving that a go as well, but usually I'd recommend being very careful, using lots of lube, and doing it when the sub is really aroused and preferrably relaxed. Pushing out, as when passing a stool, is also something that helps, as this relaxes the sphincter muscle, but this also tends to cause urination if there is a significant volume in the bladder, and it can cause fecal matter to become more of an issue.

In either case, if there is a bit of pain, it's usually not a problem, except insofar as this is something the sub dislikes. But if there is a lot of pain, I'd recommend checking to see if there is any bleeding, particularly if the sex is rough. A little bit of blood is okay, apart from the STD concerns, as this just stems from tiny tears in the skin or mucosal membrane. Bleeding anything more than that, however, is a sign to stop, and significant bleeding or bleeding that doesn't stop should be dealt with by calling 911 (or 112 for most of the world outside the USA) immediately.

Our bowels can take a fair bit of abuse, particularly the first part of it (which is covered by a large muscle), but in general the intestinal wall from about 15cm in or so (to be on the safe side) is about as strong as a wet paper towel. If it is pierced, that absolutely needs to be treated immediately at a hospital, as sepsis can occur in a matter of hours.

In general, though, rough anal sex or anal play isn't a problem as long as the sub is along for the ride. Needless to say, though, this needs to be discussed with him/her up front. I know one of the main people behind the Norwegian BDSM organization SMIL actually went way over the line with regards to this, essentially going rougher when a vanilla partner started crying during anal sex. While I get the "turn-on", that hardly qualifies as consensual.

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RE: First anal - 4/6/2007 9:58:15 PM

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I enjoy anal play and penetration very much - from both sides - and I wanted to put in my 2 cents. First of all, don't make full-on anal sex a goal the first time. If it happens, great, but just spend some time exploring. Use a latex glove to help with cleanliness and make sure your fingernails are cut shorter than you normally think necessary. Massage her back, ass, and thighs, to help her relax cause the mental state really is the number one way to make it a great or terrible experience. In my experience, enemas are not necessary, just don't play with her when she feels like she needs to "go." Number one rule in life is also the number one rule in anal: shit happens. If it freaks you out, too bad. It's just part of it and you will inevitably see some at some point in your anal adventures. Does'nt mean you have to wallow in it or celebrate it. Just toss out that glove or condom and start fresh. Everyone else has given good advice as well. Especially Azzmaster. I think he might really be the master of all azzes.

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RE: First anal - 4/8/2007 1:22:44 AM

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I'm very inexperienced with BDSM, and have always been with very innocent girls in the past, and am looking at soon having my first anal experience, which I'm very excited about. But what things do I need to know? I've sort of brought it up with a couple friends before, but all we've talked about is that lube is absolutely necessary. Any general info would be appreciated. Would also like info from the perspective of the receiver, as she will want to know more too.

remember this COMMIT TO STICK...nothing is worse than hesitancy if you go soft the penetration is goignt o make things oh soooo not goood

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RE: First anal - 4/8/2007 3:00:13 PM

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ORIGINAL:
A side note.
If you don't want to be dipping in poo she should do a little enema about 30 munites before you begin.
suzanne
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A lubed condom is good at keeping poo off the pecker and should be considered good practice
anyway in this day and age. I do agree with suzanne about the enema though!

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