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MadameDahlia -> RE: An difference i often see between male and female Doms. (4/4/2005 11:58:20 AM)
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ORIGINAL: nella
i can understand the problem of many saying they are sothing they are not, and many are just after kinky sex. But it is werry common to get rude replies if a sub speaks of any of his or her fantasies from female Dominants. Usualy it is the you are not a real submissive becouse you have some desires yourself reply. It can get werry frustrating, i have not often had that exact rsponse myself, sinse i usualy dont discuss my desires like that and i have a Dominant and are not realy looking for a partner. But i have been called un submissive for defending some of the poor boys that come in here and have their heads bit of.
Hi there nella! I'm going to toss in my $.02 here. The loving, informed FemDoms have a hard time of finding a good match because they're faced with people who have watched too much porn. They get people who come to them pleading, "Please Mistress - take this worthless slut and make his depraved tongue clean your toilets. Then force this horrible whore to pleasure you for hours and hours - giving you extreme pleasure!" I for one don't want someone's first email to be something they've pulled out of a sex tape or erotic book. I want to see the real person. I want to see the man or woman before I even think about contemplating a relationship with the person.
Now if I (or other FemDoms) were to ask a submissive individual, "What sort of fetish activities are you interested in?" it would be an indication of interest. But to have them approach us on virtual hands and knees telling us that they are worthless (not the other way around!!) then I get annoyed... I get disgusted. I get turned off. I mentally shut down communication. Why would I want someone who considers him/herself worthless?
Let me turn it around a bit... Suppose a Dominant male approached you and said, "Slut! You're mine. That means you don't have any say. You are to lick me until I wake up in the morning. Then you finish me off so I can go shower while you get your ass in the kitchen and make me some breakfast!" Now suppose that this is his first letter to you. He hasn't shown you respect. He hasn't tried to get to know you. He doesn't care about YOUR needs or desires. He wants his satisfaction first and foremost.
Turn it around just once more. Suppose you're a Dominant Lady and a submissive male/female approached you - offering you their fantasies in the same fashion. Rather than complimenting your profile, rather than getting to know you they spill everything they want YOU to do for THEM! Wouldn't it be a bit of a nightmare?
I've had the type who approach me, calling themselves worthless and disgusting. I tell them I'm not interested in something worthless. Would I own a broken lamp? Would I keep a shattered coffee mug? Nope. Why then would I want a "worthless slut" in my home? I ask them that. They tend to disappear after I reply in that way.
They want the porn FemDom reply. They want to hear, "Oh good god where have you been all my life? Clean my floors you nasty boy... mm... with your tongue. Oooh baby... now clean me."
As for you being unsubmissive ignore the idiots. They don't know you. They haven't bothered asking the right questions to get to know you. A submissive male or female doesn't mean weakness or stupidity. Submissive individuals are very strong, passionate people. Don't let anyone tell you otherwise.
Pardon the rambling. I'm sleepy.
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ORIGINAL: BeachMystress
Putting up a profile as a Domme doesn't make someone a Domme. It means they are able to type.
-laughs- I do read the profiles sometimes when I'm bored or when I've been reading the posts of other people and want to get a peek at them on a more personal level.
And let me tell you... -impish grin- Putting up a profile doesn't necessarily mean they can type!
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