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slave,s and hitting - 3/13/2007 1:59:51 PM   
dom40


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Status: offline 		i like to know why some slave,s what to be hitt and do things to try to get you to do it and or say when i do or say something bad  you need to hitt me
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RE: slave,s and hitting - 3/13/2007 2:03:31 PM   
littleone35


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Status: offline 		Well that get some girl aroused and then ther are the pain sluts.  Pain sluts love pain and get off on it. 

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RE: slave,s and hitting - 3/13/2007 2:04:41 PM   
SweetSarijane


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Status: offline 		The way you phrase it comes through as a sub/slave manipulating the Top to get what they want and enjoy. I am a masochist and love pain play, but I just ask for it when I want or need it. I don't agree with manipulation of that kind to get what you want, especially when being direct and asking is a lot faster and leads to much more mutual enjoyment in my experience.

That's not to say that role play of that type can't be fun.

< Message edited by SweetSarijane -- 3/13/2007 2:05:53 PM >

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RE: slave,s and hitting - 3/13/2007 4:05:51 PM   
zindyslave


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Status: offline 		I know that I am not allowed to ask for certain things since My Master wants to be the one that decides when we have fun so I have to 'misbehave' to get what I want. Some might do it for the same reason...but that is my opinion and, my situation.

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RE: slave,s and hitting - 3/13/2007 4:48:01 PM   
hisannabelle


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Status: offline 		i'm in sarijane's "ask for it" camp. i definitely LOVE pain, but if i want some, i just ask for it. lately He's been in a denying mood - a faceslap or two, maybe a few seconds of choking, but nothing heavy. but usually all i have to do is ask (or beg) nicely for it. :) it works a lot better than topping from the bottom.

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RE: slave,s and hitting - 3/13/2007 6:57:17 PM   
MasterFireMaam


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Status: offline 		Some people, whether they be Dom, sub, Master, slave, Top or bottom, find it sexually exciting to be hit. Some people find experiencing pain to be a spiritual process, too. It's just the way we are wired.

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RE: slave,s and hitting - 3/13/2007 9:30:18 PM   
viperess


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Status: offline 		Greetings,

As for the hitting, yes as a pain slut it is a turn on...okay a big one at times. But i don't know if it is because of how i was raised as a slave or if it is due to some of the things i have been through in past years but i was taught if Master feels you need it then and only then will you get it. While many slaves i know will misbehave just to get the punishment or they will ask for it, i find that is something i can not do. For one i would feel i was trying to top from the bottom and for another it would feel as though i was trying to manipulate my Master which goes against all i have been taught. i am in no way saying it is wrong to do these things only that it is something i would not feel comfortable in doing.
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RE: slave,s and hitting - 3/14/2007 12:54:46 AM   
MasterNdorei


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Status: offline 		The only time i dare attempt starting something is if i can intice Him in a very flirty manner, when there is nothing else going on. Even then i am playing with fire... there is no guarentee He will be kind.

To answer the OP, i like the after sensations more than the strike itself.

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RE: slave,s and hitting - 3/14/2007 4:06:05 AM   
Rumtiger


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quote:

ORIGINAL: dom40

i like to know why some slave,s what to be hitt and do things to try to get you to do it and or say when i do or say something bad  you need to hitt me


What the fuck are you saying?

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RE: slave,s and hitting - 3/14/2007 4:25:00 AM   
Kana


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Status: offline 		I never strike in anger, ever. I am too good at fighting to even contemplate striking one who serves with a closed fist for punishment or as a responsive reflex. Its too easy to do severe damage so I just skip that whole thing. Matter of fact I don't even react when I am emotional, I wait till I am calm before I start contemplating/dealing out consequences.

With that said, there are times hitting can be very erotic in BDSM play. The thing I try to do is be very aware of a few things. The first is pick my spots carefully, meaty parts of the body, thighs, shoulders, upper arms. I never do anything close to the abdomen (front or back) and the face. I also tend to strike with a balled fist, but with it sideways, so that the blow comes with the fleshyy bottom part of my hand instead of with knuckles. Again, damage considerations, for me, and for her. Lots of floating bones in the hand so I am cautious. I don't hit hard, more like a thump than an actual strike,somewhere along the lines of  the blows I receive when getting a serious deep tissue massage. If she can see it coming ( as opposed to being hooded ), lots of time I will just bring it in fast and then pull at the last second. Like so much else, the thought, and the threat,contains the essence, its not always the blow, but the fact that I can do it that sets her riding high. Watching her eyes when she sees the blow coming, and then watching her body unwind after receiving it is a mesmerizing experience.

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RE: slave,s and hitting - 3/14/2007 7:50:39 AM   
sub4hire


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Status: offline 		Some people like to control the relationship and what you are describing is topping from the alledged bottom.  The sub/slave is actually the dominant in the relationship.  The relationship is faulty but it works for the two of them.

As others have also stated, some people just like pain.  So they will manipulate/dominate whoever to get what they want when they want it.

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RE: slave,s and hitting - 3/14/2007 8:09:09 AM   
liljoy


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Status: offline 		i can't imagine acting out to try to get pain. even if i were a pain slut i wouldn't. To me there is NOTHING enjoyable about punishment no matter the punishment.
Just knowing that i've disapointed hrts like hell and NOT in a good way

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RE: slave,s and hitting - 3/14/2007 8:29:48 AM   
hisannabelle


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quote:

ORIGINAL: liljoy

i can't imagine acting out to try to get pain. even if i were a pain slut i wouldn't. To me there is NOTHING enjoyable about punishment no matter the punishment.
Just knowing that i've disapointed hrts like hell and NOT in a good way



my feelings exactly.

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RE: slave,s and hitting - 3/14/2007 10:05:39 AM   
dom40


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Status: offline 		yes she is a big masochist this i know . i can do any thing to her i like but the one thing  she dont like or injoy is whip,s or any thing like that she is in to any things were you can hitt the body butt arms  face and no i nevr hit the face with a closed fist   a open hand yes .and i think the thing is i contorl my angr very good and she just dont know how to make me so mad to hitt .......

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RE: slave,s and hitting - 3/14/2007 11:04:47 AM   
MsKatHouston


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Status: offline 		Why would you want to hit in anger?  If she wants you to hit her harder, then that is something you can work on to build up your strength and work up to a more severe beating.  However, when you hit in anger you are losing control and that is not something that is a good thing for a dominant.  You want to hit for pleasure. 

I would discuss her needs in a calm manner and work up to the level she enjoys.  However, if she is acting sammy so that she gets a reaction, that is something I personally would not tolerate.  I would punish for such a thing in a non corporal manner.  If she likes to be hit so much, remove it from play until she can behave and communicate in an appropriate manner to express her needs and desires. 

But...to each their own.  If that is the dynamic you like, great.  But I would be very careful about pushing the bounds of hitting for pleasure and getting angry enough to hit harder.  When you do that and are not in control, accidents can happen.

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RE: slave,s and hitting - 3/14/2007 11:06:49 AM   
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Yup!

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RE: slave,s and hitting - 3/14/2007 12:52:11 PM   
littleone35


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Status: offline 		Misbehave  To get hit if you want it?   That sounds like topping from thr bottom to get what you want.

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RE: slave,s and hitting - 3/14/2007 2:15:17 PM   
lonlyrossInNeed


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Status: offline 		I agree with this i know i am a pain slut and it is what i love

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ORIGINAL: littleone35

Well that get some  aroused and then ther are the pain sluts.  Pain sluts love pain and get off on it. 

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RE: slave,s and hitting - 3/14/2007 2:17:04 PM   
lonlyrossInNeed


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Status: offline 		Acting out and misbehaving to get punished i agree is like toping from the bottom

i know that i dont like getting punished
i like pain for reward.s

I ask for pain alot .

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RE: slave,s and hitting - 3/14/2007 2:29:15 PM   
sleazybutterfly


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quote:

ORIGINAL: dom40

i like to know why some slave,s what to be hitt and do things to try to get you to do it and or say when i do or say something bad  you need to hitt me


I am very free to tell Master when I need pain of any kind.  I have learned that if he doesn't want to give it though, he won't.

I don't see that acting out does anything, he is more likely to not give me any if I am asking for it in that way.

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