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ORIGINAL: SimplyMichael

Letters of intent, collars of consideration, buttplugs of curiousity and nipple rings of enchantment ....

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  A good Dominant should never accept that submission from a submissive until the moment they feel that the submissive is right for them and also that the relationship is going to be as they want and are prepared to accept. A good submissive should realise that they are giving their consent during this period of consideration, but what they are ultimately giving their consent to is what is going to happen after the Dominant has accepted their offer of submission, and they should accept that after this point, when the Dominant has accepted their submission, they have no further right to negotiate and withdrawal of their consent does mean the end of the relationship.

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  A good Dominant should never accept that submission from a submissive until the moment they feel that the submissive is right for them

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  A good Dominant should never accept that submission from a submissive until the moment they feel ... that the relationship is going to be as they want and are prepared to accept.

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  A good submissive should realise that they are giving their consent during this period of consideration, but what they are ultimately giving their consent to is what is going to happen after the Dominant has accepted their offer of submission

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and they (the submissive) should accept that after this point, when the Dominant has accepted their submission, they have no further right to negotiate .

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 withdrawal of their consent does mean the end of the relationship.

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ORIGINAL: Kana

...I make them do things like read Aristotle, or learn how to change a tire...

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ORIGINAL: Attendedkarma

I want to know if its common place for a Dom or Domme to punish a sub/slave during the consideration period? I had this experience not that long ago...I was under consideration by a Dom from this site (i retracted the offer last night) and I did something that was innapropriate(not getting into it though) and he was trying to think up a punishment for me, well at the time that I did this innaproprate thing i thought that he had accepted me into training and was more than willing to accept what ever punishment he gave me...well then during the course of our conversation i asked him if in fact he had accepted me and he told me no that I was still under consideration and then i asked him then how is he going to punish me if im still under consideration and he told me that its like a job interview....anyways.. back to my question..i would like to hear from both Dominants and submissives.. thanks

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ORIGINAL: SimplyMichael

STELLA,

Sorry, couldn't help it!  Anyway as a proud BAD dominant, I just have to say not only did I find the following to be complete bullshit, I can't even understand exactly what sort of bullshit it is, nor exactly when each level of bullshit starts or ends, but trust me, I am really sure it is all bullshit.

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  A good Dominant should never accept that submission from a submissive until the moment they feel that the submissive is right for them and also that the relationship is going to be as they want and are prepared to accept. A good submissive should realise that they are giving their consent during this period of consideration, but what they are ultimately giving their consent to is what is going to happen after the Dominant has accepted their offer of submission, and they should accept that after this point, when the Dominant has accepted their submission, they have no further right to negotiate and withdrawal of their consent does mean the end of the relationship.

Okay okay okay, the stench is to much for me and I am going to have to tear this apart as I believe this sort of muddle headed bullshit fucks up more relationships and causes more heartburn and ruined buttplugs of curiosity than this county can afford.

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  A good Dominant should never accept that submission from a submissive until the moment they feel that the submissive is right for them

Okay, so if he can't accept the submission how then can he experience it?  Also, if that is the case, that would certainly take a year or two for most serious human beings, or say 3-6 months for most of us perverts.

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  A good Dominant should never accept that submission from a submissive until the moment they feel ... that the relationship is going to be as they want and are prepared to accept.

Oh but so many of us fantasize about all the training and molding we were gonna do, fuck what they hell do I do with that 80 page list of rules?

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  A good submissive should realise that they are giving their consent during this period of consideration, but what they are ultimately giving their consent to is what is going to happen after the Dominant has accepted their offer of submission

But wait, I thought that the dom only took the sub if he knew she was perfect for him so if they aren't giving consent for the way it is happening now but only in the way it will happen after, how do they know know what will happen later?

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and they (the submissive) should accept that after this point, when the Dominant has accepted their submission, they have no further right to negotiate .

Oh god that sounds so hot, I just want to go and wank off right now!  You know, that MIGHT be true for a few but anyone new who signs on to that sort of shit is heading for trouble and anyone who asks it of someone who doesn't have some serious QUALITY experience is a fucking moron (yes, I made an absolute that I back 99.9% of the time)

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 withdrawal of their consent does mean the end of the relationship.

Okay, we end in agreement..