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SimplyMichael -> Most undominant order you give or got? (3/14/2007 10:43:48 PM)

I am curious to hear what "undomly" orders other have given or have been given.  I want to make a point, or at least think I can, that not all orders come out of the "uberdominant" coloring book. 

If my life is busy, I don't want to take my time to plan a pleasant evening with you.  I give you a couple of times I am free and I want you to pick one and set it up.  Sure it is hotter if I plan the whole thing out, pick what you are to wear (oh hell I can still do that, wear the red blouse) or what we are going to do.   I will enjoy your company which is my goal and just don't have time to deal with the minutia, make yourself useful to ME, which is your role.

Submissives get it in their head that only micromanagement is "real" dominance.  I hope to god LA doesn't do her drive by linking and actually posts something about her "reactive" style as I think that is along the lines of what I am talking about.

So tops and bottoms, doms and subs, and god knows what others, post away about your undomly orders!



hisannabelle -> RE: Most undominant order you give or got? (3/14/2007 10:46:41 PM)

usually it's something along the lines of "let me clear the table" or "let me do the dishes," which happens almost every single time we do not eat out (mainly because He is, at the moment, not all that comfortable with letting me take over His kitchen). is that undomly enough? i'm sure i could come up with some more :P



shadevarr -> RE: Most undominant order you give or got? (3/14/2007 10:54:55 PM)

Call me! Thats about the most undomly thing I could think of that I have actually ordered someone to do.



Driver1961 -> RE: Most undominant order you give or got? (3/14/2007 11:04:06 PM)

He dips His lid to all,

Umm, very subjective and to most I do not appear Domly cos I'm me and my Precious knows my expectations.-  so I'll pass on that.

BUT the most Domly words from my sub was when I was poly and my two Precious both wanted my immediate sexual attention after we'd taken a breather with a couple of shots.  The loud voice to begin recommence was 'Hey Dom' like calling a dog.  The shock on both the faces as it was said, and my laughter immediately afterwards.



SimplyMichael -> RE: Most undominant order you give or got? (3/14/2007 11:17:10 PM)

Wow, you are SUCH a stud, two women at once eh?  What's next you going to post a cock picture?

I don't think there are many of the regular dom posters who haven't had lots of threesomes, foursomes, or more so can you explain to me what the hell you added to this thread but a pile of oversized ego droppings?



ownedgirlie -> RE: Most undominant order you give or got? (3/14/2007 11:22:29 PM)

I'm not sure how expecting a submissive to make all the plans is considered undomly.  It's common in my world for me to plan, organize, research, etc.  Every expectation doesn't have to be "hot" all the time.  My job is to make his life more convenient, whether that's clipping his toenails or getting his ya-ya's off.



hisannabelle -> RE: Most undominant order you give or got? (3/14/2007 11:25:55 PM)

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ORIGINAL: SimplyMichael

Wow, you are SUCH a stud, two women at once eh?  What's next you going to post a cock picture?

I don't think there are many of the regular dom posters who haven't had lots of threesomes, foursomes, or more so can you explain to me what the hell you added to this thread but a pile of oversized ego droppings?


i must have completely missed the egotistical undertone in his post. like, by a mile. do you jump on everyone who posts about having multiple slaves at once, or just the ones who post in threads you've started?

quote:

I'm not sure how expecting a submissive to make all the plans is considered undomly.  It's common in my world for me to plan, organize, research, etc.  Every expectation doesn't have to be "hot" all the time.  My job is to make his life more convenient, whether that's clipping his toenails or getting his ya-ya's off.


i think this is a really good point.

getting used to being expected to make decisions in order to make His life easier was difficult for me. it's one of the many ideas about submission i had to let go of ;)



justmi -> RE: Most undominant order you give or got? (3/14/2007 11:34:45 PM)

Sir had taken some medication that He turned out to be allergic to. I was graocery shopping and came home to find Him scratching His back against the door jam. Upon walking in He immediately hollars "scratch my back NOW" I say it was undomly because it did not come from a place of control but rather desperartion. I scratched His back got Him some benedryl, rubbed Him down with Lotion. He finally got back to Himself with an off hand comment about" you are good for something slut" LOLOL



MasterNdorei -> RE: Most undominant order you give or got? (3/15/2007 12:12:17 AM)

i thought Driver1961's post glorified the element of humor when people step out of their assumed roles, and that it definately added to the spirit of thread. If LA has a string of links to share, i would love to see them, but then it's not my thread...

Master's dorei



Sadista -> RE: Most undominant order you give or got? (3/15/2007 1:08:11 AM)

Don't move.Pull it out.

I've been heterosexually celebate for 6 years. I'd met a handsome strong submissive male with what I consider being the most handsome penis I've ever seen, it was an average 7in uncut and average width.  During a particularly erotic session I decided I wanted to have sex. So I got into position with him behind Me.. it wouldn't go in. Then I lay down. Still it doesn't quite want to fit, so I say," put some back into it lazy bitch."  What I do that for I don't know, he leans all 284 pds into Me and I swear I heard a pop just before I go "SQEEEEEEEEEEEEEEE!" He took that as a good sign and pushed further, I couldn't breath, I couldn't see cause I couldn't open My eye's. Then I blurted "Don't move. Pull it out. Pull it out. Pull it OUT!"  and he does in one quite move. So somewhere in america there is a sub who is carrying My vagina with him.




Vendaval -> RE: Most undominant order you give or got? (3/15/2007 1:20:58 AM)

Does telling someone to "pull their head out of their ass" count,   [sm=moon.gif]
when a submissive says it to a dominant type?



BitaTruble -> RE: Most undominant order you give or got? (3/15/2007 1:32:41 AM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: SimplyMichael

I am curious to hear what "undomly" orders other have given or have been given.  I want to make a point, or at least think I can, that not all orders come out of the "uberdominant" coloring book. 


So tops and bottoms, doms and subs, and god knows what others, post away about your undomly orders!


I really like this question, Michael. :)

I'll start by saying that 'most' of the orders in this house don't come from an uber dominant coloring book. Most are very benign couched as a polite request. I had a real issue with that in the beginning of our relationship (when we started to live together actually) because it seemed like it was too easy to deny a 'request'. Where's the fucking hair pull? I mean, if you are 'asking' me to do something a flip attitude comes fairly naturally if it's something I don't want to do so .. "You have legs, get up and do it yourself." Snotty, yes, rude, yes, but I wasn't always the picture of perfection you see before you today. ::chuckles::

Fortunately, (my) Michael is big on communication and when I explained my position and how difficult it was for me to seriously consider a 'request' as a command, he made things very easy for me. He simply said that no matter how polite he may be, how he may word something, I should never consider anything he 'asks' of me a request because he's not asking, he's telling and he's expecting. Well, duh. Just had to hear it once to get it. ::laughs::

That made all the difference to me.

So, that said, while I don't consider anything really 'undominant', whenever he says something like.. "Babe, pass me the salt" it has the same impact (so to speak) and meaning to me as when he say's "Slut, get on all fours so I can use you as a foot stool."

It's the same thing, comes from the same place and I'm able to process it as it's intended I should.

Maybe he if told me to dye all his underwear pink or something.. well, that might cause me to raise an eyebrow.

He looks horrible in pink. [:D]

Celeste



cloudboy -> RE: Most undominant order you give or got? (3/15/2007 2:36:56 AM)

Stepford submissives don't do very well on their own.

I would respond in more depth, but you didn't give me very clear instructions. [X(]

In my own M/S relationship, there are many times my own lead is what's best for us. Your question kind of presumes that being dominant is giving orders, instructions, or taking the lead ---- or that submissives are lost without micromanagment. This whole formula is right out of the stepford equation.

What dominants do (IMO) is supply a structure, and there are (and should be) a whole variety of architectural plans out there.

Just like the garden variety lover, a good submissive knows how to make relationship time a rewarding experience. If a submissive could not do this, they'd be akin to a vampire or a robot.

So, if you are asking can I function on my own in an M/S relationship, the answer is unequivocally YES. This skill is actually more important and vital than the rote ability to do "as you are told."

Overall, the tension between freedom and instruction is what makes M/S interesting and rewarding. The top surprises the bottom w/ instruction, and the bottom suprises the top with freedom.



Aileen68 -> RE: Most undominant order you give or got? (3/15/2007 2:49:17 AM)

I was ordered to top him.  And not just once, but on a regular basis from that point on.  I felt it was then time to reconsider the dynamics of the realtionship as I walked out of the door.



kyraofMists -> RE: Most undominant order you give or got? (3/15/2007 4:04:06 AM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: BitaTruble

I'll start by saying that 'most' of the orders in this house don't come from an uber dominant coloring book. Most are very benign couched as a polite request.


This is also how I receive many of my instructions from my Lord and they are instructions and not requests.

There are also times that he asks things in an indirect way and if alandra and I are feeling particularly playful we will have some fun with that.  However, I think that he does it because it is as much fun for him as it is for us.  One example is we are all sitting watching a movie and he will ask, "Is there any chocolate in the house?" (he is a chocoholic).  We only answer the question that was asked because we are not allowed to assume  *g*.  After multiple questions and answers like "when you do want it, where do you want it, how do you want it served" he shakes his head and mutters "bitches", and then we go get his chocolate.

Some might watch the interaction and consider it undominant, but one of the things he loves is playfulness at the appropriate time and when you put alandra and I in the same room together that is bound to come out in some way.

Knight's kyra



Dnomyar -> RE: Most undominant order you give or got? (3/15/2007 4:27:06 AM)

Aileen could you top me one more time before you leave. Bita I would have to say Im more the quiet type like your Dom. I dont believe that you have to bark orders at anyone.



slaveish -> RE: Most undominant order you give or got? (3/15/2007 5:26:18 AM)

Formerly from my Dom, and now from my Master, I don't consider any request, command, or order "undomly" although I had to chuckle when my Sir said "Come cuddle."



Lashra -> RE: Most undominant order you give or got? (3/15/2007 6:38:11 AM)

I gave my sub this order last week "Just pick a place for us to eat and thats an ORDER!" I was in a hurry, hungry and yapping on my cellphone and my brain didn't want to have to make a decision right there and then. lol He had the funniest expression on his face[:D]

~Lashra



tricia -> RE: Most undominant order you give or got? (3/15/2007 7:02:42 AM)

"Take a nice bubble bath"



aurora31 -> RE: Most undominant order you give or got? (3/15/2007 7:19:11 AM)

When I was still looking for one to serve and I was spending a lot of time with a very close Dominate friend and would often spend the night at his house. In the morning he would always get up and let his dog out and bring me coffee in bed even though he himself did not drink coffee. We often joked about what an undomly thing that was. But it brought him pleasure to do it for me so in the end at least in my eyes it was a very Domly thing. Of coarse I liked the pampering too [:D].

aurora



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