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GoddessDustyGold -> RE: do married guys have much luck here? (3/16/2007 1:12:34 AM)
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ORIGINAL: azjojoba
<snipped>Perhaps where I live in Arizona there just aren't that many femdoms, or women are too traditional in terms of playing with married men. I haven't any luck at collarme.
Bold emphasis Mine...
*laffing* NOT! There are plenty of us around. And we even meet on a fairly regular basis (FemDom/submale munches), but I am sure you could not or would not come to one of those.
I am sorry to say that I have seen your profile in passing before, as I have the Az folks come upon My list, so I see profiles whenever I sign in. And, yes, I would pass you right by. Not only because you are married, but your profile really does make it quite clear that you are looking for simple role play at your convenience and as a freebie to boot. You also make it more than clear, not once, but twice, that it is highly likely your marriage that necessitates this "discretion". If this is not so, then I would strongly suggest you find another way to word your profile.
And this has nothing to do wtih the state you live in. It has to do with the fact that, just because we (The Ladies, all of Us, from Alabama to Wyoming) are on an alternative lifestyle site, it does not mean that we are desperately seeking a BDSM play buddy.
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Most of the women seem to want serious relationships instead of just adult play.
Bold emphasis Mine.
Yes...
And with this line in your OP, you make it clear that you do seek only play, and that is not an interest for most Ladies. We can snap our fingers anytime we want that. So, your next hurdle would be to determine how you might want to be chosen for that disposable playtime. You can't just put up a profile and a less than appealing photo that is obviously a "here I am Ladies! Use me, use me..." and expect your inbox to be filled with offers for BDSM *discreet* dates. If you want to be realistic, we get offers like that every day, all day long.
What is more difficult to find is the boy who is seriously submissive and willing (and available) to invest the time into an actual relationship, instead of a couple of hours a week, after which he runs home to his vanilla wife and his vanilla life.
Okay...'nuf said. I just really wanted to clear up the whine about the lack of Az FemDoms.
Betcha I will never see you at one of My munches. Or you could try The ArizonaPower Exchange (APEX). That's a pretty big organization, and practically in your backyard. Of course, that may not work for you either, since you need to be discreet.
So be honest...all you are really looking for is someone who is willing to meet with you on a somewhat regular basis to feed your need, without you really having to put forth any effort regarding a relationship, or actually participating, realtime in this alternative lifestyle. It is your little secret that must be kept secret.
Even referring to your lack of success as "I haven't has any luck at collarme" sounds very trollish to Me.
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Could it be there is a better place for me to list myself?
You should check out some of the other suggestions that have been given in all sincerity. It would be really nice if you came back and addressed some of the questions and thanked the people who are trying to steer you in the right direction.That would be the polite and classy thing to do, rather than just hit and run.
Just the opinion of one Az FemDom in this very dry state.
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