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tips for short dommes? - 4/4/2005 1:14:49 PM   
piratefish13


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Status: offline 		I am guessing that most of being Domme is in the attitude, but it still sounds daunting, being a top over someone who towers over me by more than a foot. Any suggestions? Shall I buy some KISS boots? :)
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RE: tips for short dommes? - 4/4/2005 1:21:07 PM   
EmeraldSlave2


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Status: offline 		I don't see the problem with height when he's kneeling or laying on the ground kissing your toes? That's kinda like a guy asking about the size of his penis...who cares when they make such fabulous dildos?

He's there to serve, use his height to your advantage and make him do things that are more difficult for you due to height. Make him walk you around on a pallet like a queen...lots of fun things here.

You're right, it is all about attitude. If you are dominant, naked, alone, with no toys, then you are dominant anywhere. However, clothes and toys can help set the mood and attitude, so if they make you feel yummier, then by all means, enjoy!

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RE: tips for short dommes? - 4/4/2005 2:30:30 PM   
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I'm 5'6". My tallest sub was 6'5". I had no problems Domming him, other than needing a stepladder for strap on play. (Seriously, it was like a beagle trying to mount a great dane...) Other than that, you can reach his hair.. you can pull him down to where he belongs. *smiles* It is all in the attitude. Napoleon was a short lil shit, and look what he did. *smiles*

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RE: tips for short dommes? - 4/4/2005 4:33:50 PM   
ShiftedJewel


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Status: offline 		I'm 5'2" tall and my submissive is 6'5"... the only problems I've come across has been suspending in the archway of our room.... I have to get a step stool...lmao Ok, maybe the kneeling thing is a problem sometimes too, if I am sitting down and he kneels he is still taller then I am... so I make him sit on his butt.

But to me the fact that he is so tall is a perk... I don't see it as making me feel any less of a Domina, in fact just the opposite... the idea that such a big man willingly kneels to me is a glorious feeling.

Jewel

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RE: tips for short dommes? - 4/4/2005 6:52:28 PM   
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But to me the fact that he is so tall is a perk... I don't see it as making me feel any less of a Domina, in fact just the opposite... the idea that such a big man willingly kneels to me is a glorious feeling.


Oh I agree 100% with this! To be honest, height is not a huge issue for me. I'm 5'5" and my main boy is 5'9", so anything over 4" heels and I am taller then him. But most of the boys I've dommed have been over 6' tall. I feel the same way ShiftedJewel does when she describes her glorious feeling.

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RE: tips for short dommes? - 4/4/2005 7:09:54 PM   
piratefish13


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Status: offline 		lol, thanks E/everyone. It is not someting I have tested yet, but with me at 4'10" and him WELL over 6', it seems like a bit of a challenge.

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RE: tips for short dommes? - 4/4/2005 7:14:37 PM   
Archer


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Status: offline 		The first order of business is to have him in this case design and build the equipment that will make your play easier for you to accomplish, the things that make it physicly easier for you to reach where you want on him. Beyond that Domination is much more about bending their mind to your will than bending their body to it. Take care of the mind and the body will follow.

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RE: tips for short dommes? - 4/5/2005 9:47:36 AM   
Mlicious


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Status: offline 		Stilettos are a good start but not necessary. I'm sure other ideas may include trampling and having the sub crawl and grovel at your feet. You can walk your sub on a leash as he crawls along behind you. Use him as your footstool, chair or table.

Overall, the concept of a petite Domme dominating her sub is a very powerful one and quite sexy. Play with that idea! I am 5ft 1 and 105 lbs. My pet is built like a body builder and very strong. It turns me on to no end that I can have him swooning at my feet and begging me to torture him whenever I want.

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RE: tips for short dommes? - 4/27/2005 5:00:30 PM   
MsIce


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Status: offline 		I get a huge kick out of dominanting tall men. At 5'4" Im quite short by comparison to most males. So of course always start in High heels.
If you cant reach them get them to kneel or lie down.
I also have 2 chairs in my dungeon, one for me and one for the submissive (at the dressing table). I made sure that the chair that the submissive sits on had 4" taken from the legs so that when sitting they would be lower than me.
My slave would never sit in a position where he was higher than me and will often automatically sit on the floor even in a non scene or vanilla enviroment

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RE: tips for short dommes? - 4/27/2005 5:16:21 PM   
MHOO314


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Status: offline 		Its only a challenge if you don't feel and carry yourself as a Domme, if that's intact you could lead an army of giants-- and I agree with My Sisters, kneeling does wonders---

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RE: tips for short dommes? - 4/27/2005 6:36:36 PM   
kc692


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ORIGINAL: BeachMystress


I'm 5'6". My tallest sub was 6'5". I had no problems Domming him, other than needing a stepladder for strap on play. (Seriously, it was like a beagle trying to mount a great dane...) Other than that, you can reach his hair.. you can pull him down to where he belongs. *smiles* It is all in the attitude. Napoleon was a short lil shit, and look what he did. *smiles*


What a mental image that evoked, lol!!!! I agree, I'm 5'4", and my tallest was 6'3". And just for the record, Beach, (if I may call you that?), I've found it easier to grab their hair, bend them over a bed or something, and then the mounting problem is solved....

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RE: tips for short dommes? - 4/27/2005 6:38:22 PM   
kc692


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ORIGINAL: LadyAngelika

quote:

But to me the fact that he is so tall is a perk... I don't see it as making me feel any less of a Domina, in fact just the opposite... the idea that such a big man willingly kneels to me is a glorious feeling.


Oh I agree 100% with this! To be honest, height is not a huge issue for me. I'm 5'5" and my main boy is 5'9", so anything over 4" heels and I am taller then him. But most of the boys I've dommed have been over 6' tall. I feel the same way ShiftedJewel does when she describes her glorious feeling.

- LA


Ditto, ditto, ditto!!!!!

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RE: tips for short dommes? - 5/12/2005 6:53:24 PM   
trymeout


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Status: offline 		Personally as a young male submissive one thing that turns me on most about serving is serving a more petite Dominant figure. Granted almost all female dominants are shorter than me becuase i am six fout. But still somone a foot shorter than me ordering me around turns me on like none other.

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RE: tips for short dommes? - 5/13/2005 4:56:11 PM   
MaitresseEden


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Status: offline 		I wish I could relate to this problem.. I have the opposite one.. I tower over most men.. at 5'9" I'm 6"2 in heels.. Not that I'm complaining.. but it makes some people give funny looks.

Ms. Eden


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RE: tips for short dommes? - 5/14/2005 8:24:22 AM   
StephOfLarimar


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Status: offline 		Gotta say, I agree with 99% of what's been said here.

My Sub is only about an inch taller than me, which isn't quite the gap that some of you have described, but like a lot of others, I make sure her head is always bowed or she sits either in a lower seat or (more often than not) on the floor at my feet.

I've never really been one for heels etc., so when we go out I simply have her slouch a little and bow her head so that even if it's just a few inches, she's still always "below" me (if that makes sense).

With hugs,
TTFN,

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RE: tips for short dommes? - 5/14/2005 10:16:30 AM   
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Status: offline 		i am 6'2" and 220 lbs, my Owner is 5'2" and considerably less weight and Her dog quirt does not care about who is taller or heavier- She still raises me to my toes at will.

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RE: tips for short dommes? - 6/21/2005 5:54:37 PM   
MissToria


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Status: offline 		The only problems I've found as a short domme is with kit, everything from floggers, tawse to cross and whipping bench are just the wrong height for me to use comfortably...solution, make my own or have them made to my specs, it's a real gap in the market for someone with the time and patience to fill

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RE: tips for short dommes? - 6/23/2005 2:54:58 PM   
MadameDahlia


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Status: offline 		I don't mind if a young man is shorter than I am. However that's a bit hard to do when you're only five foot two.

But I must admit that having someone taller and physically stronger whimpering and begging for all that I can dish out and then some is quite a heady rush.

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RE: tips for short dommes? - 6/24/2005 9:59:19 PM   
MistressFire70


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Status: offline 		Let him know that you're just that much closer to his jewels if he steps out of line. No problem, see? ;-)

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RE: tips for short dommes? - 6/24/2005 10:28:12 PM   
GoddessDustyGold


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Status: offline 		I am another at 5'2", and on the petite side. For some reason taller boys are attracted to Me, and seem to have just as much a heady experience as I in being the big strong boy who is turned into mush by the tiny Domina.
My sweet daughter (who has no idea, BTW) always laughs and asks Me if I have a penchant for being part of a couple that looks like "Mutt & Jeff".

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