LadyEllen
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Joined: 6/30/2006
From: Stourport-England
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Yup. Aint they a pain in the neck, these blokes in frocks.............?
If youre talking guys pretending to be gals online, for kicks or whatever, then of course this is a problem - it happens here in the UK too, though for what reason they do it apart from kicks of some sort, I dont know. You can easily detect them normally though - in text they tend to have worse spelling and grammar and use male words and turns of phrase, on the phone they do these latter too even if they can feign a female voice (which is quite possible, without electronic assistance with the right training and practice), and when and if you meet them, its usually pretty obvious even if theyre crossdressed because of physical differences in faces, hands etc between male and female.
Thing is though, these sorts will never want to phone usually, and they will never want to meet usually, preferring to hide behind a PC and maybe post pics gleaned from websites etc that are obviously professional. Usually they claim to be 25 and pick an appearance and character that is more designed by their own image of a dream woman than any real woman - another giveaway often. In the UK, you can find dozens of such profiles on CM, some with and some without the stolen pic, and often too these are the ones who say they are online only and require tribute, and demand ridiculously grovelling approaches from those who contact them.
If youre talking someone like me then youre going to be pretty much in the dark until and unless I tell you, if youre anything like most. Most can look at my pics and have no idea, most could talk to me on the phone and have no idea, most could meet me and have no idea. So, none of your strategies are going to work there, but then if it looks like a duck, quacks like a duck and waddles like a duck, its a duck.
But what the heck - you should proceed unencumbered by such worries; to act otherwise might be to prejudice your interactions with her who might well be the one. Its a pain in the neck of course when hopes are scattered by a fake, but is it really any worse than when hopes are scattered for some other reason?
If it really worries you, then all you can do really is to go slowly and steadily. If things are going well, then if she's genuine the chances are she will want you to call her when she's ready, but I'd beware of a lady who didnt want a phonecall or meet if things are going so well that such is the next apparent step.
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