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TolerableCruelty -> RE: Online representation (3/16/2007 12:07:52 PM)

I'm just as big of a sunuvabitch in person as I am here.
~nuff said

T.R.



Wildfleurs -> RE: Online representation (3/16/2007 12:09:52 PM)

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ORIGINAL: FukinTroll

All righty here we go!
 
Do you feel you are giving yourself a fair representation of your personality, thoughts, and ideas in your posts?


Yes.  I've been told I come across bitchier in text, I think its because I tend to write literally (without smiley faces and such) and I'm also a very succinct writer while in real life I am more talkative and friendlier.  Or so I've been told.
 
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ORIGINAL: FukinTroll
Is the manner in which you post reflective of what people will see when/if they meet you in real life?


Yes, if we are talking about particular philosophical issues or meaty discussions.  Generally though face to face I tend to keep it much lighter.

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ORIGINAL: FukinTroll
 
Do you sweeten the pot when you post, chat, cam or phone?


No, but I've been told many things about how swee my pot is, but I guess thats a bad joke in the making.

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ORIGINAL: FukinTroll
And last but not least…. *drum roll*
 Have you met someone that was contrary to how they present themselves online?


Yes, hasn't everyone?

C~



CreativeDominant -> RE: Online representation (3/16/2007 12:10:22 PM)

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ORIGINAL: EmeraldSlave2

I'm also less like a shark and more like a bunny :)  This is my place for intellectual discourse, I devour it hungrily.  Offline I'm just a bouncy happy bunny chick going with the flow.


Groooooooooooooooooovy!!!![sm=cool.gif]

Sorry...couldn't resist...weird kind of mood today.



CreativeDominant -> RE: Online representation (3/16/2007 12:18:01 PM)

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ORIGINAL: FukinTroll

All righty here we go!
 
Do you feel you are giving yourself a fair representation of your personality, thoughts, and ideas in your posts?


Yes.  I tend to be a bit more self-censoring on here than I am in real life but not a lot.
 
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Is the manner in which you post reflective of what people will see when/if they meet you in real life?

As another said, you would see the "me" that you see on here but it would be a "me" that would begin to be colored by a lot of things that are not...for valid reasons...discussed on here.  Short example...I love my hot rods.  Love going to car shows where there are hot rods, like discussing them, even like watching T.V. shows about them ...American Hot Rod, anyone?...and I can do a fair-to-middlin' Tim Allen grunt when with a bunch of car folks but that has little to do with D/s and, as much as a I love it, it has a sane place in my life.  That's difficult to show in a D/s forum nor does it need to be but it is one more shade of me.
 
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Do you sweeten the pot when you post, chat, cam or phone?
  

Why would I need to...I'm as sweet as they come, Troll.................................................[:(][:(][:(]
 
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And last but not least…. *drum roll*
 Have you met someone that was contrary to how they present themselves online?


Yes...but I will be one of those that states that in at least one case, that was a good thing.



onestandingstill -> RE: Online representation (3/16/2007 12:23:22 PM)

Most people are totally shocked I talk just like I type.
LOL I'm shocked most don't seem to talk like they have typed to me.
I think a lot of people talk better one way or the other and it's more rare to have someone the in written and oral conversations to be the same.



windchymes -> RE: Online representation (3/16/2007 12:42:31 PM)

I'm a lot more articulate when I type compared to how I converse in real life, but the personality's the same.  If I was going to make up a personality to have online, it wouldn't be this one! [;)]



velvetears -> RE: Online representation (3/16/2007 12:48:57 PM)

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ORIGINAL: FukinTroll

All righty here we go!
 
Do you feel you are giving yourself a fair representation of your personality, thoughts, and ideas in your posts?

Toughts and ideas yes, pretty much i would suppose unless someone reacts to something i say emotionally because they misunderstand what i say. It is hard at times to convey what we mean completely through text.  Personality - i don't think you can know anyones personality completely or even 50% through online text - there is so much to someones personality that will never really surface through this medium.  i have met my fair share of people and they have told me i match very well their impression of me from knowing me online. 
 
Is the manner in which you post reflective of what people will see when/if they meet you in real life?

From what i have been told yes, though they say i am quieter then they would have expected.
 
Do you sweeten the pot when you post, chat, cam or phone?

No, there's no point. i don't want to misrepresent myself . If people like me they like me, if not that's ok to.  What do you do if you sweeten this pot and then they find out your a sour bowl of soup real time? [&:]
 
And last but not least…. *drum roll*
 Have you met someone that was contrary to how they present themselves online?

Yes i have, but i think we perhaps have to ask ourselves - how much of what we thoguht we knew about whoever was simply our projecting our own expectations on them, setting ourselves up for disappointment. 



LaTigresse -> RE: Online representation (3/16/2007 12:51:14 PM)

edited to add: HOLY SHIT!!! I am not even going to try and fix this mess. You get the general idea.

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ORIGINAL: FukinTroll

All righty here we go!
 
Do you feel you are giving yourself a fair representation of your personality, thoughts, and ideas in your posts?
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I think so. I am probably more reserved upon first meeting me than some might imagine.I am one of those people that can quite comfortably be quietly watching on the sidelines or smack in the middle of the crowd. Just depends on the crowd and my mood.
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Is the manner in which you post reflective of what people will see when/if they meet you in real life?
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see above.........in addition, there are many activities and interests that occupy alot of my time that I think might somewhat surprise people if they spent time with me.

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Do you sweeten the pot when you post, chat, cam or phone?

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I am not as blunt and forthright as I am in person sometimes. I have learned over time that body language/facial expressions are VERY important to my style of communication.
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And last but not least…. *drum roll*
 Have you met someone that was contrary to how they present themselves online?


Yes, far too much. Only once was it actually a good thing. She was much sweeter and more shy than she had been miles away.

The others....... older, missing teeth, heavier, pregnant, more married, weirder, just looking for something free that is work related for me..... etc etc etc

Please note that I tried doing the multiple quote thingy on this and it may have gotten seriously screwed up........won't know until I hit the OK button......[:D]



marsman -> RE: Online representation (3/16/2007 12:53:43 PM)


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ORIGINAL: FukinTroll

All righty here we go!

Do you feel you are giving yourself a fair representation of your personality, thoughts, and ideas in your posts?

Is the manner in which you post reflective of what people will see when/if they meet you in real life?

Do you sweeten the pot when you post, chat, cam or phone?

And last but not least…. *drum roll*
Have you met someone that was contrary to how they present themselves online?


I took a photography class years ago and the teacher said, "A photograph always lies".

The same thing is true of online profiles, email, chet, etc.

It is the nature of symbols to never exactly represent the underlying reality.

And so, I am a big believer and actually physically meeting people. Online communication is only good
for getting to the point of a physical meeting.

Of course if you are just interested in fantasy, then online communication may be perfect in and of itself.



akisha -> RE: Online representation (3/16/2007 12:56:40 PM)

I always try to be as real and like myself online as I am in person. I think there is no point in pretending to be something you are not if you are honestly trying to meet someone for a relationship. You can't start a relationship, even just a friendship, based on a fantasy.

I'm outgoing, straightforward and have a tendancy to say what I'm thinking *S*

The way I write is pretty much how I speak *S* 



happypervert -> RE: Online representation (3/16/2007 1:34:16 PM)

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Is the manner in which you post reflective of what people will see when/if they meet you in real life?

Not really. In person I'm a lot more reserved in groups than I am here, and I would never discuss some issues that I am more open about here. Also in group social settings I rarely let loose with sharp comments because I just stay clear of the ninnies.



stockingluvr54 -> RE: Online representation (3/16/2007 1:43:06 PM)

My profile is accurate and I try and come across in my posts as I do in person. Right down to the saying "ain't" instead of "are not" ,etc. The only thing I really try and hold back is telling someone how I may really feel.... like saying "Eat shit MF'er!" because this is a public place and sometimes I need to be PC to avoid controversy.

Underneath the sometimes "ruff", blunt, direct exterior....there's actually a somewhat shy soft guy inside... That's the straight poop.



Llyren -> RE: Online representation (3/16/2007 1:46:30 PM)

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ORIGINAL: FukinTroll


Do you feel you are giving yourself a fair representation of your personality, thoughts, and ideas in your posts?

Absolutely.  I see no point in lying about it.  I've actually been called arrogant and intractable by those who have viewed my profile, and told I'll never find anyone unless I make myself more approachable.  Which rather negates the whole point of my profile.  I am a firm believer in weeding out the 'faint of heart'.
 
Is the manner in which you post reflective of what people will see when/if they meet you in real life?

I think so.  I like to play with words and ideas, and I don't tend to alter how I speak and think when typing. 

 
Do you sweeten the pot when you post, chat, cam or phone?

Well, if someone takes the time to talk to me and they're really lucky, I might send cleavage shots.  [sm=flying.gif]

And last but not least…. *drum roll*
 Have you met someone that was contrary to how they present themselves online?

Oh yes!  Between the people who claim to be one age on their profile and are in fact much older, those who beg you to meet them and then go poof, and the so-called Dom's who couldn't spell their way out of a wet paper bag, yet think I should be desperate to submit to their hirsute selves.    Which is why I really do try to be completely honest  about who and what I am.  No offense to the furry and those who love them, it's just a recent experience I've had. 



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kyraofMists -> RE: Online representation (3/16/2007 1:51:00 PM)

My posts very accurately reflect my thoughts, ideas and a part of my personality.  When you meet me face to face what you see will vary depending on circumstance. 

If you meet me while I am working the you will see one aspect of me.  I am highly knowledgable about my job, I speak with authority about it and I do not back down when I know I am right. 

If you meet me when I am with my Lord while we are following formal protocol, you will just be on the edge of my focus.  I will be polite and considerate, but my focus is on serving him.  In these times I am seen as extremely quiet and reserved by others. 

If you meet me when we are following casual protocol I am much more playful and witty.  I am not an extrovert, so I tend to be rather quiet, but when I am comfortable I can be very outgoing and I enjoy intelligent conversation.  Small talk drives me up a wall; I can only tolerate so much.

Do I sweeten the pot?  No, I don't think so.  I am probably more blunt in writing than I am in person.  The message boards are a chance to engage in intelligent dialouge for me.  Interacting in person is a time to have fun.

Yes, I have met someone in person that did not appear like they did online.  It was more that there was an aspect of them that did not come out online and not that they misrepresented themselves.  After meeting them, it was easy to see the underlying light-heartedness that I did not see before meeting.

Knight's kyra



BRNaughtyAngel -> RE: Online representation (3/16/2007 2:13:30 PM)

I wouldn't make a good actor because I don't know how to be anyone but who I am.  I don't really know how I come across online, but that's because I'm just being me.

There are other aspects of my personality that don't get played out here because they are related to how I interact with my family (who would be shocked to know I was submissive) and how I sometimes interact with people I work with.

I don't try to present myself as something different in chat, phone or webcam, although I have refused to get on webcam before because I coulda scared children and small animals. [;)]

As to online people not being the same in person...... the one person who was revealed to be something he wasn't, I never actually met in person.  He and I had gotten to know each other through Myspace and one day outta the blue, he revealed in a very strange way that he wasn't what he had been portraying. 

Everyone else I have met in my 10 years of being online has pretty much been the same in person and online.  But I don't allow many people in my life anyway and I'm very picky about the select few that I do.



EmeraldSlave2 -> RE: Online representation (3/16/2007 2:24:27 PM)

Excellent point BR.  I think I’m an excellent actress because I have VERY low empathy, can’t stand mingling, small talk, socialization, but I have to do it every day so I’ve learned how to do it well.  Fake interest in others lives, fake understanding, where they are coming from, fake comfort and happiness, fake connections.

Let’s just say I *get* what a lot of sociopaths mean when they talk about not understanding how others connect and have to learn how to “get along.”

But the reality is that it’s necessary.  As much as we all like to SAY we’re open and welcoming, the reality is that I don’t like most people, I don’t have much in common with most of them, and I can’t stand the social ice breaking process it takes to get there.

That doesn’t mean I don’t WANT friends.  I think that’s what keeps me from the edge- I WANT to love people, I WANT to connect, I WANT to be my full self.  I think that’s why I have so few friends- the people I can sincerely CHOOSE to share my life with, I don’t want to have to worry about ANY of the faking.

But I fake it REALLY well, because I understand its necessity in my life and functioning in the world.  I’m proud of how well I do it, even if it wearies me and saddens me at times.



LaTigresse -> RE: Online representation (3/16/2007 2:28:46 PM)

It's rather creepy how much I can identify with this post. 



MadRabbit -> RE: Online representation (3/16/2007 2:33:40 PM)

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ORIGINAL: FukinTroll

All righty here we go!
 
Do you feel you are giving yourself a fair representation of your personality, thoughts, and ideas in your posts?


Yes. This is actually something I pride myself on. When I sit down at this desk and begin to type, I simply type the thoughts in my head as they come and nothing more.

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Is the manner in which you post reflective of what people will see when/if they meet you in real life?
 

I dont know how I am going to come off to someone because people see people to be different things all the time. The way we see ourselves is always slightly or even greatly different then the way strangers will see us. This depends a lot on our self awareness. Confidence or arrogance? Asshole or stern? Nice or soft? Trusting or gullible? Paranoid or cautious? There is often a fine line between the pairs.

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Do you sweeten the pot when you post, chat, cam or phone?
 

When I was first getting started, I kind of stopped "being me" for awhile. One of the misconceptions dominants typically have to shed in the beginning is one where we beleive to be dominant, we have to take on a special persona. During my abscense from the collarme.com boards, I posted on another mailing list where my style of writing was more elegant and kingly. Finnally, I had that wakening where I realized I didnt have to be anyone except me. Now I am just embaressed when I think back on the posts.

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And last but not least…. *drum roll*
 Have you met someone that was contrary to how they present themselves online?


Oh...yeah. The ones who still wont drop the persona AFTER YOU'VE MET THEM AND SEE THEY ARE COMPLETELY DIFFERENT are the most annoying.



Aileen68 -> RE: Online representation (3/16/2007 2:34:36 PM)

I'm actually Domiguy in disguise.



domiguy -> RE: Online representation (3/16/2007 2:35:35 PM)

Our pussy smells awful.



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