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RE: Online representation - 3/16/2007 2:36:20 PM   
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RE: Online representation - 3/16/2007 2:40:02 PM   
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ORIGINAL: FukinTroll

All righty here we go!
 
Do you feel you are giving yourself a fair representation of your personality, thoughts, and ideas in your posts?
 
Is the manner in which you post reflective of what people will see when/if they meet you in real life?
 
Do you sweeten the pot when you post, chat, cam or phone?
 
And last but not least…. *drum roll*
 Have you met someone that was contrary to how they present themselves online?


Actually, yes, I do.  I find this to be very fair representation of Myself.  Though at times, I have longer to contemplate answers to particular questions.  Many of the responses that I write on some of the boards are given serious deliberation.  More than I would require r/t.
 
Yes, it is absolutely reflective of what I am like in real life.  I am blunt, and I do tend to voice My opinion when asked for it.
 
Do I sweeten the pot?  No, I don't think so.  I consider Myself congenial, but not especially sweet.  What point would there be to be sweet here?
 
Unfortunately, yes.  Not everyone looks at using the venue the same I do.  Some are here to be completely a fantasy version of themselves.

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RE: Online representation - 3/16/2007 2:42:56 PM   
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Do you feel you are giving yourself a fair representation of your personality, thoughts, and ideas in your posts?
 
Is the manner in which you post reflective of what people will see when/if they meet you in real life?
 
Do you sweeten the pot when you post, chat, cam or phone?
 
And last but not least…. *drum roll*
 Have you met someone that was contrary to how they present themselves online?


I think i say just what i feel on my posts, so if i look smart, stupid, silly, bitchy or whatever, it's probably what i am, at least that day.

Most people who meet me think i am a stuck up bitch until they get to know me. Then they learn i am a very down to earth bitch....

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RE: Online representation - 3/16/2007 2:44:19 PM   
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Status: offline 		I always attempt to put my ideas and thoughts forth in my posts.  But I am not always that great at getting what I am feeling in the right words. Most often I do find that other people here in CM and other places understand where I am coming from.  Why sweeten the pot when I post or chat with others...  It took me till I was in my 4o's to find out just exactly who I am ( still making discoveries there :) ) , and I am proud of who and what I am . I don't feel I have to write something that is now me.
And yes I have met people who are far from how they presented themselves.  But it doesn't take long to see threw this though.


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RE: Online representation - 3/16/2007 2:49:53 PM   
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Status: offline 		Do you feel you are giving yourself a fair representation of your personality, thoughts, and ideas in your posts?

Yes, for the most part. If not, it's unintentional.
 
Is the manner in which you post reflective of what people will see when/if they meet you in real life?

Yes.
 
Do you sweeten the pot when you post, chat, cam or phone?

No. In fact, I think I have a tendency to cut people out more easily if I haven't met them in person.
 
Have you met someone that was contrary to how they present themselves online?

Numerous times, but not in years. I'm much better at reading people now.


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RE: Online representation - 3/16/2007 2:51:09 PM   
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ORIGINAL: FukinTroll

All righty here we go!
Do you feel you are giving yourself a fair representation of your personality, thoughts, and ideas in your posts?

 Absolutely!  I would like potential Friends and Subs to get a "glimpse into my character" and, honestly sharing my opinion on a variety of different topics can give those that take the time to read my forum posts, just that (a glimpse).

Is the manner in which you post reflective of what people will see when/if they meet you in real life?

Yes.  My manner is "Honest and Concise"
 
Do you sweeten the pot when you post, chat, cam or phone?

No.  There is not much that I can say online or over the phone that could be Sweeter than experiencing the physical Me. 
 
And last but not least…. *drum roll*
Have you met someone that was contrary to how they present themselves online?

Not Yet.


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RE: Online representation - 3/16/2007 3:05:12 PM   
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Status: offline 		I'm about the same I think, though I've been told I come across as much more submissive in person than I do online. I think that has more to do with the nuances of body language and tone of voice than anything else.

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RE: Online representation - 3/16/2007 3:05:55 PM   
sublizzie


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Status: offline 		I am pretty much me where ever I am whether it's here on this forum or other places I go on-line or if you meet me real-time. I've only met a couple of people who post on the boards and they've been themselves when I met them. You'd have to ask them if I am the same on the boards as I was real-time. *I* think I'm the same.

But you do need to stop to realize that we each read different nuances into other's posts. We filter other's thoughts through what we mean when we say the same kinds of things adding our own inflections etc. It's possible that I am exactly how I am in my head as I think about this response but someone else may read this through their filter and have me saying something very different because of the inflections and nuances they put on my words.

Just my thoughts....

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RE: Online representation - 3/16/2007 3:27:32 PM   
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Status: offline 		I just realized.........Troll didn't answer his own questions! Bad Troll, bad bad bad.

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RE: Online representation - 3/16/2007 3:29:44 PM   
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Status: offline 		Do you feel you are giving yourself a fair representation of your personality, thoughts, and ideas in your posts?
Yes, fair, I tend to remain somewhat reserved in most posts.

Is the manner in which you post reflective of what people will see when/if they meet you in real life?
Yes, though I speak somewhat more casually than I type like some, joke more in person, and flirt more.
Do you sweeten the pot when you post, chat, cam or phone?
I don't think that I do.

And last but not least…. *drum roll*
 Have you met someone that was contrary to how they present themselves online?
Yes, I have, and learned from it.

 

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RE: Online representation - 3/16/2007 4:18:23 PM   
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ORIGINAL: FukinTroll

All righty here we go!
 
Do you feel you are giving yourself a fair representation of your personality, thoughts, and ideas in your posts?
 
Is the manner in which you post reflective of what people will see when/if they meet you in real life?
 
Do you sweeten the pot when you post, chat, cam or phone?
 
And last but not least…. *drum roll*
 Have you met someone that was contrary to how they present themselves online?


yes
yes
no
yes

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RE: Online representation - 3/16/2007 4:42:39 PM   
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Do you feel you are giving yourself a fair representation of your personality, thoughts, and ideas in your posts?


i hope so. i often spend an inordinate amount of time composing them, so it would be a shame if they still conveyed nothing.

quote:


Is the manner in which you post reflective of what people will see when/if they meet you in real life?


Not really. i communicate very poorly in person, especially with people i don't know well.

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Excellent point BR.  I think I’m an excellent actress because I have VERY low empathy, can’t stand mingling, small talk, socialization, but I have to do it every day so I’ve learned how to do it well.  Fake interest in others lives, fake understanding, where they are coming from, fake comfort and happiness, fake connections.


i know what you mean, but i envy your ability to "get along"... i have a lot of mental scripts that i follow to fake normal conversation, but once i get knocked off one, i'm screwed. Although i can discuss computers and cars (got your back, CreativeDominant ) at length.

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ORIGINAL: FukinTroll
Do you sweeten the pot when you post, chat, cam or phone?

And last but not least…. *drum roll*
 Have you met someone that was contrary to how they present themselves online?


i think i post an excessive amount of humor (well, i amuse myself) to balance out my bitterness, but i'm not sure if that counts... the rest of the question isn't applicable

...dave

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RE: Online representation - 3/16/2007 4:59:28 PM   
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I just realized.........Troll didn't answer his own questions! Bad Troll, bad bad bad.


Yes, but we already knew he was a very naughty Troll.  And I don't know about you, but I still haven't seen those spiffy new boots.




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RE: Online representation - 3/16/2007 5:03:08 PM   
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Do you feel you are giving yourself a fair representation of your personality, thoughts, and ideas in your posts?


Yes.
 
 
quote:

Is the manner in which you post reflective of what people will see when/if they meet you in real life?

Most definitely!
 
quote:

Do you sweeten the pot when you post, chat, cam or phone?


No..."I is what I is"...
 
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And last but not least…. *drum roll*
 Have you met someone that was contrary to how they present themselves online?


I've been very very fortunate and have met many people from online to real life in the past 8-9 years...all were exactly what they represented to be and more. 
 
I could fill up the positive experience section...(grin)...

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RE: Online representation - 3/16/2007 5:09:55 PM   
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Status: offline 		As far as what I think about things, and the way I say them, I'd say it's about the same as I am in real life. Although, I am basically an introvert who has learned how to fake extroversion in self-defense. As far as "skeletons", no, although I do have things I have experienced, and possibly things I think or feel, that I will not talk about here, and consider deeper get-to-know-you stuff more appropriate to a deeper relationship.

As far as physical appearance resembling my pics yes (I am now in my "streaked hair" phase, so that is the on that most closely resembles me now).

I genuinely like people, and like to socialize, but not all the time, and if you saw me at a social event, I'd definitely be someone who would tend to talk to just a few people more in-depth, instead of gadding about the room chatting w/everyone (although I might say "hi" to everyone else).

I am very capable of doing that kind of thing, though, and if I am in a group of folks where nobody else is being extroverted, I will act like one, just to get people talking to eachother, if for no other reason. I have some hobbies (like singing) that some seem to associate w/extroverted personalities.

I can do the small talk thing, and sometimes I enjoy it, but sometimes I'd rather get into a little more in-depth conversation with particular folks. On the other hand, I like to stay connected w/people, and I seem to get asked quite a bit to help organize group projects and events, or be an officer of a group, etc. (I've learned how to say "no" to the stuff I don't want to do, over the years, too).

I am not sure what would be considered "sweetening the pot". I am usually genuinely happy to hear from someone who contacts me, and try to express that, and tend to be a little shy at first. As fas as relating to the person as much different than I am, or would be if we met in person, I'd say no. As I've become older, I've become more direct, but am still basically a "feeler" type.

I haven't met anyone who has seemed that different in real-life than they did on-line, no. I don't have a huge basis for comparison (a few folks), but no. Although I've certainly gotten what I consider a more well-rounded view of someone in real life, as opposed to on-line communication, because like Creative said, there can be so much more to a person and their interests, etc., that I'd just not known about before.

- Susan

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RE: Online representation - 3/16/2007 5:14:33 PM   
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ORIGINAL: FukinTroll

All righty here we go!
 
Do you feel you are giving yourself a fair representation of your personality, thoughts, and ideas in your posts?
 
Is the manner in which you post reflective of what people will see when/if they meet you in real life?
 
Do you sweeten the pot when you post, chat, cam or phone?
 
And last but not least…. *drum roll*
 Have you met someone that was contrary to how they present themselves online?


Good thread Troll.

I am me whether it's on here or in person. Basically what you see is what you get. I do tend to be shy in person at first until I'm comfortable with people and then I relax and go with it and let myself out.

The way I post is pretty reflective of me offline. I may be a bit more wordy in what I say online but not different from my self offline.

I don't sweeten the pot in those instances, I am simply and always me. Take it or leave it.

Yes I've met a couple offline who didn't match their online selves. Live and learn. Believe it when you see it.

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RE: Online representation - 3/16/2007 5:16:16 PM   
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Status: offline 		Do you feel you are giving yourself a fair representation of your personality, thoughts, and ideas in your posts?
Not entirely but in the main.
 
Is the manner in which you post reflective of what people will see when/if they meet you in real life?
No, im flirty and easy online, just flirty in real life.
 
Do you sweeten the pot when you post, chat, cam or phone?
Nope. 
 
And last but not least…. *drum roll*
 Have you met someone that was contrary to how they present themselves online?
I didn't have to meet them to find out that the person i thought i was knew was actually an 'ice pick wielding' maniac!


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RE: Online representation - 3/16/2007 5:19:55 PM   
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Status: offline 		I apologize for not reading all of the respondents prior to me, but something tells me this thought will be original to this thread.

The obviously correct reply for myself is that I do represent myself fairly well in my posts.  By my admission, if I do anything I understate myself.

In short, everything (that I can think of or that is important) that I say here is the truth.

Except for this little factoid.  And I do not believe that any of us are exempt from this.  It's just that I'm usually more aware of it than others.

There is more than one truth in life.  As I see it, two.  What we 'say' that is the truth, but also what we 'don't' say.  The unspoken truth.

There can be many reasons for this.  Legitimately, we can keep whatever privacy is important to ourselves.  We can have secrets.  Some secrets might be construed as being 'bad' if they were to get out, but certainly not all.

Some parts of the truth are really not fit for public consumption.  There are certain threads that I absolutely will not participate in, because if I were to join in with 'the truth' it might not look well for me, for a variety of reasons.

Aside from my tagline below, there is also another famous philosophical phrase that covers this - "Knowledge is power".  We all see what that 'says', but there is also something about what this silently says.  "Giving up knowledge might mean giving up power."  That is something I don't easily or readily do.

So let's start over.  What I believe you really need or want to know about me in my posts are factual.  I really don't have any skeletons in the closet to speak of.  I am everything I purport myself to be (or more - I'm really not into the ego thing).  There might be things that I do not mention here that a partner might wish to know, but nothing illegal, unethical or immoral (except for that whole BDSM thing).  My views can be utilized for the betterment of my peers, but my life isn't necessarily yours to dissect.

Unless you want it to be.  In which case you know what to do.

Jeff

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RE: Online representation - 3/16/2007 5:21:54 PM   
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Status: offline 		I try to meet people as soon as possible so they can decide for themselves who and what I am.  I'm a lot different in writing though its not a matter of misrepresenting myself.  Its just that over the years, I've developed a writing persona and this happened way before the internet.

I know of at least one person (my ex-husband) who  preferred the written me.  Well, except for the misspellings.  Those always irritated him. 

I've never really been surprised when meeting someone else.  The real deal is always quite a bit different, but I can always make the connection with the on-line representation.




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RE: Online representation - 3/16/2007 5:35:37 PM   
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Do you feel you are giving yourself a fair representation of your personality, thoughts, and ideas in your posts?
Is the manner in which you post reflective of what people will see when/if they meet you in real life?
Yes, most of the time I feel that I do.   On here just as in real life, on occasion I have to stop and rethink whether what I meant to say was conveyed with the words that just came out.

Most days though, I'm not this open or talkative, and am pretty private about my life/sexuality.   I'm relatively shy in general, don't ever flirt unless I've become fairly comfortable with the person, and generally don't speak as much out there to strangers as I do here.   I speak a lot to my family, and a few close friends.   People who are close to me wouldn't be surprised/shocked by anything they read by me here, so I guess the answer is yes, I do give a fairly accurate representation of myself.

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Do you sweeten the pot when you post, chat, cam or phone?
No, unless you consider the outfit I'm wearing on profile.   It's is something I normally wear when going out; it is not the way I dress everyday...  So I suppose if someone thought that my pedicure is always done right on time, my hair always done, and pantyhose/shoes always on point, they would be disapointed to see me in everyday fairly flat shoes, slacks, blouse that doesn't reveal cleavage, etc.  

I don't cam.   I have had awkward phone conversations that never continued, because we simply didn't have much to say to one another, or disagreed on something fundamentally important.    Sweeten the pot when I post?   I don't think so;  I try to stear clear of things I don't know and can't learn with ease, and I represent my experiences in a limited fashion, but in a fairly exact fashion.  

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Have you met someone that was contrary to how they present themselves online?
Oh hell yeah!   The first time years ago, was falling for the nice (albeit 5+) year old face only picture, with described average height.   I won't refuse to meet someone because he's short, if I feel he's a decent human being; but for heaven's sake, don't tell me you're average height and build, and show up being 4'11, 350lbs; I don't think I'm being too superficial when I call that BS.  Than there is the basic presentability thing...  It would seem to me, that if I'm going to meet a new person, and I want him to like me, I'm going to go with the neat-took-more-than-a-few-seconds-to-put-together-look.     
I've been complimented several times as looking better in person than my picture; but I think it's only because they expect me to look worse, and are pleasantly surprised I actually look like my picture.   M

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