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RE: Online representation - 3/18/2007 3:46:52 AM

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LOL... You are only given certain choices... The nearest choice to my correct height is 6'-1... I am actually 6'-0 3/4... So I chose the one nearest to my correct height... that is not a lie, it is choosing what is available.

LOL, if only the misrepresentations ended at 1/4 of an inch.

What person wouldn't forgive that? M

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RE: Online representation - 3/18/2007 5:03:18 AM

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All righty here we go!

Do you feel you are giving yourself a fair representation of your personality, thoughts, and ideas in your posts?

Yes and no. As one person stated, I’ve come back later and read something I’ve posted and thought, what the heck was I thinking at that particular point in time.

I’m moody in such a way that it sometimes factors into the way I respond. I strive for betterment, both online and off. When I reflect backwards on my life, it has different outcomes and meanings to me today than it did the day before, as different parts of me are recalled and other memories fade with time.

If I've had a day filled with nothing but having to light a fire under peoples butts to get them to move 1/2 inch, then I might be a bit bitchy.

If I've spent a day talking about great fun times with a sibling, then I'm more into that frame of mind.

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Is the manner in which you post reflective of what people will see when/if they meet you in real life?

No, I think different people will view me differently, just as my response might differ at any given point in place, or time in my life. Case in point, I would probably respond differently to my best friend than I would to my Mother, or the man who comes to fix the hole in my roof, the person who delivers a package to my door and the person I meet for coffee.

Each of these people might ask you, “how are you today?” and each will get a different response, just as I would get a different response from them if I asked that question of them. After the hole in the roof has been fixed, then ask the same question. Everything has changed.

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Do you sweeten the pot when you post, chat, cam or phone?

Yes, though I think where I’m more inclined to ‘sweeten the pot’ is in the long term relationship. Just because I choose to have the final say, does not mean that I have no concern for them, or their feelings.

When I post, I do try to spell correctly and get my awful punctuation correct. I think that is a form of sweetening the pot, as well as striving for self betterment.

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And last but not least…. *drum roll*
Have you met someone that was contrary to how they present themselves online?

Yes.

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RE: Online representation - 3/18/2007 5:07:55 AM

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I think im very much myself in my posts as I am in reali life. My opinions and questions are just the same. And from all the people I have met by talking online first, and there arelots of people ive met clubbing from chatting in forums, I think therer has only been a handfull that were nothing like in reality how i percieved them to be online.

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RE: Online representation - 3/18/2007 6:02:59 AM

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All righty here we go!

Do you feel you are giving yourself a fair representation of your personality, thoughts, and ideas in your posts?

Yes and no to be honest. I'm naturally shy but good at faking the outgoing thing all the while writhing on the inside. I suppose I sometimes pretend to be more stable than I am. Not all the time mind you. I'm honest to a fault and it has occassionally screwed me in the past. I'm insecure but at times I seem more confident than I am Etc so on and so forth.....I convey part of who I am at all times because to some extant fantasy is as much about who you are as reality is...(Qoutes the devout reader and writer).

Is the manner in which you post reflective of what people will see when/if they meet you in real life?

Yes for the most part though I am not nearly as sexual in person as I appear to be online. I have my off periods. I fantasize at all times but I do not always have the inclination. I seem stronger willed on here than I am in person but shhhh don't tell anyone.

Do you sweeten the pot when you post, chat, cam or phone?

Yeah in some ways I guess I do. I give my former modelling pics out. I play on the phone alot. It depends on where I'm posting and to who. Same goes for chat. This is not the only place I go. Though this place tends to reflect more of who I am than anywhere else I go.

And last but not least…. *drum roll*
Have you met someone that was contrary to how they present themselves online?

Too many times to count but then I draw Drama to me like bees to honey. I don't do it purposely either. ~shrugs~ Cest la vive.

So there ya have it that's me. At least this way you have a clearer picture of who I am. Yes I do say I try to be honest and open as possible but I AM human. Unfortunately humans have faults.

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RE: Online representation - 3/18/2007 6:54:43 AM

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Do you feel you are giving yourself a fair representation of your personality, thoughts, and ideas in your posts?
Well, i don't speak typo... other than that...

Is the manner in which you post reflective of what people will see when/if they meet you in real life?
Voice inflection and body language help me out alot. Believe it or not, i can spot sarcasim in real life... contrary to popular beliefs here (and for good reason i might add!) There were 2 posts recently where i responded harsher than i ever have in real life, but i have not run into those discussions and people in real life so who knows?

Do you sweeten the pot when you post, chat, cam or phone?
No.

Have you met someone that was contrary to how they present themselves online?
I have. The difficult part is determining their intent, because that is what matters to me. Did they lie to me because they are also lying to themselves? Did they purposefully misrepresent themselves because of an insecurity? Are they just struggling with a first meeting? Or did they really think i am that stupid?
I have also met plenty of people who are exactly as they appeared online, and a few who saved the best about themselves for real time.

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RE: Online representation - 3/18/2007 8:34:31 AM

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ORIGINAL: FukinTroll

All righty here we go!

1. Do you feel you are giving yourself a fair representation of your personality, thoughts, and ideas in your posts?

2. Is the manner in which you post reflective of what people will see when/if they meet you in real life?

3. Have you met someone that was contrary to how they present themselves online?

1. Yep, what you read is what you get.

2. More or less. I have a very dry sense of humor which I shun using on the net because too many people would not be able to realize what I was stating was a joke. I also have a much greater passion for life and living than I tend to put into my posts.

3. This was a joke, right?

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RE: Online representation - 3/18/2007 10:10:07 AM

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Men often lie about their height, and everyone but my Daddy did lie about this

LOL... You are only given certain choices... The nearest choice to my correct height is 6'-1... I am actually 6'-0 3/4... So I chose the one nearest to my correct height... that is not a lie, it is choosing what is available. Depending on which shoes I am wearing I can actually gain up to 2 inches in height.. but my most common shoes have 1 inch heels.

Someone who claims to be 2 or 3 inches taller than they are is either delusional or lying. When they go out of their way to state how tall they are in instant message or in an email they are lying twice.

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RE: Online representation - 3/18/2007 10:18:34 AM

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ORIGINAL: FukinTroll

All righty here we go!

Do you feel you are giving yourself a fair representation of your personality, thoughts, and ideas in your posts?

yes

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Is the manner in which you post reflective of what people will see when/if they meet you in real life?

yes

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Do you sweeten the pot when you post, chat, cam or phone?

nope

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And last but not least…. *drum roll*
Have you met someone that was contrary to how they present themselves online?

fuck yes i have! a recent one presented himself as the confident, self-assured, domly one, when in fact he was the biggest, whiney, cry-sissy-baby with no self-control that i've ever met in my entire life and he looked nothing at all like his supposed recent picture! another one from a few months prior to that couldn't even make eye contact with me, and was so passive/aggressive that he would have been better off listing himself as a submissive with switch qualities...

there's not very many more than that though because usually i can weed them out prior to meeting them.

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RE: Online representation - 3/18/2007 4:56:17 PM

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All righty here we go!
Do you feel you are giving yourself a fair representation of your personality, thoughts, and ideas in your posts?

I certainly try to. In reading back over them I think I come off as waaaaayy more serious than I am irl. But that's probably a combination of the subjects I choose to respond to, plus the fact that I'm a huge perfectionist about my writing and so the style of my posts often ends up more formal and over-thunk than the average verbal response I would give. However, I always feel that my posts represent me better than my profile(s). As I mentioned once before, I'm thinking about reworking mine, but since I'm never happy with any profile I've ever written I haven't bothered yet. lol
[Tho I'd be happy to take suggestions and input on profile writing privately (either in general or pertaining to me specifically) if anyone has a mind to meddle...and so long as they have something more constructive to offer than 'post nekkid pikshurs"]

Is the manner in which you post reflective of what people will see when/if they meet you in real life?

No, in real life I'm a kind, loving, cuddly, funny, nurturing bitch.

Do you sweeten the pot when you post, chat, cam or phone?

I'll do a hair & makeup check before cam, but that's for my own piece of mind.

And last but not least…. *drum roll*
Have you met someone that was contrary to how they present themselves online?

I would say yeah, but more in the sense that they thought they were presenting themselves acurately, but didn't really seem to know themselves so well after all.

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RE: Online representation - 3/18/2007 5:15:09 PM

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I just realized something, and feel silly for not having realized it sooner. Of course we're all going to claim we're real. Especially those people who aren't. I'm starting to think a much better way to determine is to read the posts made. Even the most manipulative game player will let something slip if they get caught up in a thread, and everyone drops little hints and clues as to their true nature eventually. So claiming to be open about who you are is all well and good, but it's better to prove it by your words and actions.

This is NOT directed at anyone in particular. It's merely a thought I had on the topic.

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