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ORIGINAL: LadyEllen

There are nearly 407,000 registered profiles. Ignoring the trans profiles and assuming a 51% female and 49% male ratio as in the wider population, this should mean that there are
207,570 female profiles
199,430 male profiles

So, from the off it would appear that there are more female profiles than male in a ratio of 1 male to 1.04 female.

But, if we were to assume that 10% of the male profiles were linked by way of the same originator, to a female profile, this would remove 19,943 profiles from the female side of the equation, giving 187,627 remaining female profiles.

The relative numbers then become
187,627 female profiles
199,430 male profiles

And males now outnumber females by 11,803, perhaps explaining why precisely 6% of the male population rarely get any.

This 6% is a recurring theme; for each 1000 new male profiles, 60 of the males to whom they belong will never get any and will resort at some point to initiating a female profile with the aim of acquiring thereby, "inspiration" of some sort.

The number of males pretending to be females therefore, is expressed by the equation m x 1.1 + n x 0.06, where m is the existing number of male profiles and n is the number of new male profiles added in any given time period.

In this way, we see that the number of such fake profiles will rise over time, both in actual numbers and by proportion to the entire membership and in relation to the number of genuine female profiles. This means that sometime around 2012, every female profile on CM will in fact be a male pretending to be a female, and also explains why it is becoming ever more difficult for males here to get any, over time.

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ORIGINAL: pancho2009

I can understand why receiving a "demand" to go on cam would, under certain situations, feel insulting.

However, I would think most people would react positively to a polite request, posed at the right time in the unfolding relationship, along the lines of: "You know, so much important information gets lost when we rely on just email - things that are said by the eyes, smiles, hands ... can we pick a time to chat by web cam? It would seem so much more real and intimate?"

Who's going to turn that down? And it gives everyone an opportunity to get out of their pajamas and fix themselves up a little.

I'm not totally a green bean with this D/s and BDSM, but you can count my sessions on your two hands. Enough to sense that so often things get seen in black and white, whereas I see most people are operating in the gray areas - a thread I saw here had forum users going off (rather viciously) on a Domme who was sharing an experience with a married sub where the wife didn't know about his sexual proclivities. It was brutal. Based on a smidgeon of information CM users piled on about how unfaithful, it's cheating, ... mostly sounding like saying "Have you no shame?"

Without belaboring it, I can think of scores of reasons why a decent responsible spouse would eventually turn to getting some basic human needs met outside the marriage without wrecking havoc on the marriage and everyone impacted by it.

So it is, I have observed, for many forum users here, where everything can be B & W ... no grays allowed in some people's worlds. Won't agree to no stinking web cam; you're a slutty pro domme if your married sub hides it from his wife; Dommes are in full control and repeatedly pronounce "NO SEX" in profiles, yet sex is a pervasive (and erotic) theme integral to BDSM. IMHO, speaking as a man, I can't fathom what Dommes think as they post on a web site that injects everywhere ads for brutal BDSM (a la "Training of O") where freakish men with clipboards make a living mostly by tying up women in various positions and fucking them. No sex in BDSM?

Life is complicated. We make tradeoffs all the time.

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ORIGINAL: pancho2009

I can understand why receiving a "demand" to go on cam would, under certain situations, feel insulting.

However, I would think most people would react positively to a polite request, posed at the right time in the unfolding relationship, along the lines of: "You know, so much important information gets lost when we rely on just email - things that are said by the eyes, smiles, hands ... can we pick a time to chat by web cam? It would seem so much more real and intimate?"

Who's going to turn that down? And it gives everyone an opportunity to get out of their pajamas and fix themselves up a little.

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ORIGINAL: fergus

I've seen a few folks complain here that they run into men pretending to be women on this site.  I probably have also, but not in real time (thankfully).

Any one have any estimates and/or anecdotal evidence as to HOW MANY men are pretending to be women on this site?

fergus