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ORIGINAL: popeye1250

I have any number of times.
It's extremely rude, it's disgusting and it's sick! And, it's having your time wasted by these sick fucks for their own sick twisted pleasure.
You can repay money but you can't repay time.
This is a good and legitimate site, it's too bad Admin. can't do something to keep them and the Nigerian scammers and other miscreants out of here. 
They must think, "ah, a B&D site, surely they'll put up with my sickness!"
The best thing to do is get phone numbers as quickly as possable to verify that someone *is* who they say they are!
I noticed that there is one thing that they all do which gives them away.

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ORIGINAL: pancho2009

I can understand why receiving a "demand" to go on cam would, under certain situations, feel insulting.

However, I would think most people would react positively to a polite request, posed at the right time in the unfolding relationship, along the lines of: "You know, so much important information gets lost when we rely on just email - things that are said by the eyes, smiles, hands ... can we pick a time to chat by web cam? It would seem so much more real and intimate?"

Who's going to turn that down? And it gives everyone an opportunity to get out of their pajamas and fix themselves up a little.

I'm not totally a green bean with this D/s and BDSM, but you can count my sessions on your two hands. Enough to sense that so often things get seen in black and white, whereas I see most people are operating in the gray areas - a thread I saw here had forum users going off (rather viciously) on a Domme who was sharing an experience with a married sub where the wife didn't know about his sexual proclivities. It was brutal. Based on a smidgeon of information CM users piled on about how unfaithful, it's cheating, ... mostly sounding like saying "Have you no shame?"

Without belaboring it, I can think of scores of reasons why a decent responsible spouse would eventually turn to getting some basic human needs met outside the marriage without wrecking havoc on the marriage and everyone impacted by it.

So it is, I have observed, for many forum users here, where everything can be B & W ... no grays allowed in some people's worlds. Won't agree to no stinking web cam; you're a slutty pro domme if your married sub hides it from his wife; Dommes are in full control and repeatedly pronounce "NO SEX" in profiles, yet sex is a pervasive (and erotic) theme integral to BDSM. IMHO, speaking as a man, I can't fathom what Dommes think as they post on a web site that injects everywhere ads for brutal BDSM (a la "Training of O") where freakish men with clipboards make a living mostly by tying up women in various positions and fucking them. No sex in BDSM?

Life is complicated. We make tradeoffs all the time.

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The best thing to do is get phone numbers as quickly as possable to verify that someone *is* who they say they are!
I noticed that there is one thing that they all do which gives them away.

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ORIGINAL: subtlebutterfly

why the hell do first posters need to be such gawd dam ......dumb crayons

This one was pretty good, too.

Sorry, but I got up too early and I'm a bit sleep deprived.  I found this ridiculously funny. 

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ORIGINAL: pancho2009

Actually, the truth is I made the horrible error of not noticing the date.

What skin is it off your back anyway?