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RE: All slaves/subs.....Do Doms constanly ignore your p... - 3/17/2007 5:14:30 PM

amaidiamond

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My profile is set to seeking friends only - means I hardly come up on searches so it isnt an issue anymore - however those that do contact me do seem to assume that I am looking, even though it's clearely stated that i am not...

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RE: All slaves/subs.....Do Doms constanly ignore your p... - 3/17/2007 5:31:28 PM

Vendaval

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Exactly, sweetnurseBBW! I enjoy it when someone sends
a nice e-mail and we chat about subjects of mutual interest.
The wankers get ignored, blocked and booted.

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ORIGINAL: sweetnurseBBW
I have my filter set up so unwanted email goes to bulk folder. It isn't only doms that sometimes can't read it is submissives as well. Sending a nice unsolicited email is nice but I can't stand trolling.

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RE: All slaves/subs.....Do Doms constanly ignore your p... - 3/17/2007 5:34:02 PM

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My profile states at the top who I am owned by, but I still get occasional emails from dominants who are trying to get a foot in the door.

What I don't understand is why a well known "dominant" from the message boards would read my profile, then email my Master asking if He owned me and if I was available.

After I explained about this person, Master thought it odd, but amusing. I just found it odd.

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RE: All slaves/subs.....Do Doms constanly ignore your p... - 3/17/2007 6:10:46 PM

mystiquenz

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Greetings,

Without being rude, nor abrasive, my only complaint, when my profile was up, before I was instructed to deactivate it, was that often Dominants in the main, failed to read and comprehend:.

"situated in New Zealand as a pre-requisite" was somehow an open invitation from North Hemispherian Dominants.

Good hunting!!

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RE: All slaves/subs.....Do Doms constanly ignore your p... - 3/17/2007 6:42:20 PM

cariad

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what gets me is that it says on my profile i am talking with a Dom and am currently NOT available to talk with other Doms, but yet i got an email the other day that said "I have yahoo, lets us talk." hehe being in a bad mood i replied with "learn to read and get back to me."

usually i don't respond to those who have not filled out a profile or one that is lacking in the interests area but there have been a few that i have had to laugh at and respond in kind with things like "when you can read the entire profile and include something from it that shows you have read it great, otherwise any more emails showing lack of interest in the full profile will get flushed with the daily taxes"

i too would love a site with no trolls or trollettes but sadly as one poster said, "it would give us nothing to talk about on the forums."

~smiles softly and dashes off to test her blood sugar and forage for food~

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RE: All slaves/subs.....Do Doms constanly ignore your p... - 3/17/2007 6:54:04 PM

subrob1967

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I've gotten exactly two emails, both from Pro Domme's letting me know they were coming to Indianapolis, and I was fortunate enough to have been selected to book a session with them.

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RE: All slaves/subs.....Do Doms constanly ignore your p... - 3/17/2007 7:24:01 PM

hisannabelle

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ORIGINAL: ncmaster75

Do Doms send you messages ignoring what you've said you're looking for? The reason I ask is because I've been browsing alot of profiles and almost all of them have a million disclaimers and complaints about unwanted people bothering them. I'ts a shame because I feel like a few non-profile reading stubborn male doms have made the females alot more apprehensive. It also means that we have to read a mile long list of "no's" on every profile. I also wonder how many messages does a slave/sub with a pic receive every day? I read alot of profiles that say they get too many to even answer.

i often get emails from people who haven't read my profile, do not pay attention to the fact that i am owned, don't bother even noting whether i am in the category of what they're looking for or they are in the category of what i'm looking for, etc. etc. this was much worse when i had my pics up.

when i had my pics up, i received at least a few messages a day. most were ignore-worthy for the above reasons (and others), but even the ones i wanted to reply to, i didn't always have the time to invest the energy into. since i have taken down my pics, i get a few messages a week or so, but more of them apply to what i'm looking for and actually take into account who i am and what my profile says.

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RE: All slaves/subs.....Do Doms constanly ignore your p... - 3/17/2007 7:25:01 PM

Llyren

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*sneaks off to send mash notes to Valyraen without first reading his profile*

People send me notes constantly without reading my profile. What I find amusing is when they claim they have, but don't show up as having done so. If you can't take two minutes to read something, why should I be expected to spend ten seconds reading your demands?

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RE: All slaves/subs.....Do Doms constanly ignore your p... - 3/17/2007 9:26:25 PM

ncmaster75

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Maybe they'll read this thread and stop doing it.

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RE: All slaves/subs.....Do Doms constanly ignore your p... - 3/17/2007 11:42:39 PM

MagiksSlave

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Yeah oh yeah... I had an age limit and location limit in my profile I was beeing realistic about who I could have a realationship with, Men didnt bother careing about it I was getting messages from men 2x my age and half way cross country..

Whennmy sister had her profile here as a Domme (she desided to take it down and deside what she really really wanted first) she had an age limit as well but was getting messages from men in their 60's (she is 18) LOL I told her to tell them "If they couldnt even obay her profile what would make her think they where good enough of a sub to even consider"

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RE: All slaves/subs.....Do Doms constanly ignore your p... - 3/18/2007 5:43:33 AM

StellaByStarlite

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Not at all. I have a clear "Friends Only" disclaimer in my profile, and the messages I recieve from male doms have been very respectful and friendly. Sure, some of them have been "sending out feelers", but not in an obnoxious way. I'm not offended if a maledom wants to investigate further, if he's polite and courteous. It just means he has darned good taste, lol

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RE: All slaves/subs.....Do Doms constanly ignore your p... - 3/18/2007 5:46:39 AM

StellaByStarlite

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quote:

ORIGINAL: AquaticSub

Yup. They contact me trying to own me when my dom is in my picture and I've got it written several times on my profile. The best one was a one-liner that just said "Are you owned?" I get these with varying frequency, but there is generally one or two a month at least. I would imagine that if I'm getting them, the uncollared and unowned subs/slaves are definately getting a lot more.

It's the cleavage. ;)

Heee!
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RE: All slaves/subs.....Do Doms constanly ignore your p... - 3/18/2007 8:49:14 AM

Badkitty0810

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quote:

ORIGINAL: ncmaster75

Maybe they'll read this thread and stop doing it.

One can only hope! :)

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RE: All slaves/subs.....Do Doms constanly ignore your p... - 3/18/2007 9:00:45 AM

HisSongstress

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quote:

ORIGINAL: BRNaughtyAngel
My profile states at the top who I am owned by, but I still get occasional emails from dominants who are trying to get a foot in the door.

I am not that specific in my profile, but when I respond in an e-mail that I am seriously progressing with One Man, they write..."please keep me in mind when you become available." ..... Like I am planning ahead for this connection to not work out. I lose respect for an individual that has an attitude like that. I am focusing on success...not a back up plan.

best!

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RE: All slaves/subs.....Do Doms constanly ignore your p... - 3/18/2007 9:19:40 AM

AquaticSub

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quote:

ORIGINAL: Llyren

*sneaks off to send mash notes to Valyraen without first reading his profile*

People send me notes constantly without reading my profile. What I find amusing is when they claim they have, but don't show up as having done so. If you can't take two minutes to read something, why should I be expected to spend ten seconds reading your demands?

Oh those are the best!

"I've read your profile, you sound really awesome. Are you owned?"

Clearly you haven't read my profile or you wouldn't be asking that question...

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RE: All slaves/subs.....Do Doms constanly ignore your p... - 3/18/2007 9:57:12 AM

Celeste43

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Men don't read profiles, they see there's someone new in their area so they send out generic emails. Hell I've even gotten one from a male sub 30 years younger than me begging to serve me. Now that was weird.

But my experience has been that most don't read profiles or forum posts, they just send out the same emial to everyone.

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RE: All slaves/subs.....Do Doms constanly ignore your p... - 3/18/2007 10:13:50 AM

popeye1250

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I don't do that stuff, I go the other way, I play hard to get.

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RE: All slaves/subs.....Do Doms constanly ignore your p... - 3/18/2007 10:23:36 AM

GeekyGirl

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I get emails all the time from those who don't read my profile.

A recent experience involved a man emailing me and getting into about a two hour yahoo conversation with me. We were actually getting along and he seemed to meet my basic criteria until he brought up the subject of one day "starting a family." Apparantly he failed to notice that my profile quite clearly indicates that I have my tubes tied and do not want any UMs in my life. He finally admitted that he not actually read all the way to bottom of my profile and apologized for wasting my time. I was very frustrated because I was actually starting to find the guy interesting up until that point.

And for me, it is NOT like a job ad. They are not "suggested" criteria. They are chiseled in stone and you meet them or you don't. No "ifs" "kinda's" "maybes" etc.

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RE: All slaves/subs.....Do Doms constanly ignore your p... - 3/18/2007 10:30:15 AM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: ncmaster75

Do Doms send you messages ignoring what you've said you're looking for? The reason I ask is because I've been browsing alot of profiles and almost all of them have a million disclaimers and complaints about unwanted people bothering them. I'ts a shame because I feel like a few non-profile reading stubborn male doms have made the females alot more apprehensive. It also means that we have to read a mile long list of "no's" on every profile.

i don't have issue with anything this petty...it is part of the territory. And in honesty, the number of Doms that contact me with courtesy and intelligent thought far outnumber the trolls and their one liners. i have only had issue with 2 c-mails that were downright vicious attacks from 2 seperate people that i had never seen or talked to before and they were about my profile of all things! Which i would chalenge anyone to find a negative thought on it! LOL! my only conclusion was that this individuals must be mentally unstable and ofcourse were blocked...

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RE: All slaves/subs.....Do Doms constanly ignore your p... - 3/18/2007 10:42:38 AM

DomMeinCT

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Interesting question, but while it's nice that you are concerned, anyone who was dissuaded by being on the site by a few jerks hasn't been online long enough to develop a thicker skin...

Yes, I'm contacted and it's clear my profile wasn't read, but it doesn't particularly bother me. Most of those I call "opportunistic" contacts - they'd never contact me unless I happened to be online. Most I politely decline and we all nicely part ways.

Frankly I find complaining about others in anyone's profile or journal immature and - to me - it shows a lack of resilience. I'd rather read a profile/journal where someone focused on and disclosed the positive aspects of themselves/life, rather than whining about someone who bothered them.

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