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dumb puppy - 3/20/2007 5:26:11 PM

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i just dont get it,..or quite fully understand,..but how do bdsm relationships work? are you still boyfreind and girlfriend,...or...becuase you're also master/sub,..i dont get it,..explain it to me please

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RE: dumb puppy - 3/20/2007 5:32:27 PM

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There is no one size fits all.

We are lovers and best friends as well as Dom and sub. This isn't a role we play. He naturally takes the lead in relationships and I naturally don't. Personally I prefer intimate long term relationships to other kinds.

Other people prefer to keep their intimacy for a vanilla partner and just have D/s and S&m with someone else. If it works for them, that's great.

The important thing here is that you figure out what it is you need and then don't settle for someone who has different needs because that's a train wreck waiting to happen.

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RE: dumb puppy - 3/20/2007 5:34:14 PM

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it varies from person to person. Some can have a Dom/sub titled-relationship, while a Master and slave can be married. Each is different depending on what the people involved are looking for

me, i was D's gf before i was His slave, so i am both..

as well as other things

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RE: dumb puppy - 3/20/2007 5:45:18 PM

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i guess that works,...it's whatever we think it is.....*meh* (shrugs and runs off to play)

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RE: dumb puppy - 3/20/2007 6:18:46 PM

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We're just starting exploring the D/s aspect(s) of our relationship. But I'm his girlfriend, his lover, the person that ties him up, his sub and his puppy (and more). I'm all of these things all of the time, just more of one depending on what's going on. This is how I'm viewing our relationship right now, and it seems to be working really well for us. I believe that it depends on the people in the relationship (and also who you're talking to hehe).

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RE: dumb puppy - 3/20/2007 6:22:46 PM

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I'm his girlfriend, his kitten, his lover, his friend, his submissive, his whore, and maybe someday his wife. All rolled up into one.

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RE: dumb puppy - 3/20/2007 7:00:05 PM

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I'm His wife of 38 years, His best friend; His lover and His submissive.

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RE: dumb puppy - 3/20/2007 9:34:33 PM

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Um, Packmaster and Mate works for me, but legally speaking, husband and wife or BF and GF also work for me.

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RE: dumb puppy - 3/20/2007 9:42:43 PM

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When I first met M, we were friends...and he was my Dom. Which meant that we hung out, watched movies, sometimes went to bars or parties together. And he gave me structure and direction which I craved, while I gave him service. We mutually filled the others' S&M cravings - for spankings, bondage, humiliation, and exploration.

We came to love one another. Fell in love, if you will. We weren't "just friends" but we were not lovers. He had a primary relationship and so did I.

In the course of our relationship, his primary and mine have split from each of us. He is now my primary partner. He is now my boyfriend, as well as my lover, as well as my partner in crime (we like to co-top willing victims!), as well as my Top, Dom, Owner, Master, Daddy, and best friend.

In public, it looks like we are boyfriend and girlfriend. Except I ask him if I can have a beer, I always hand him food or drinks with my right hand and my eyes on my offering until he thanks me, I say "Sir!" rather than use his name to get his attention.

At home, I ask his permission to get into the bed, I address him as Master. I request permission before putting clothes on, and he always gives final approval to what I wear if we leave the house. I serve his drinks from one knee or both (normally I go to one knee at parties, as it's easier to rise, but kneel fully at home) with my right hand. We talk about what we both want to do for an evening - but he makes the final decision.

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RE: dumb puppy - 3/20/2007 9:46:03 PM

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BDSM relationships all work differently depending on who is involved in them. Mine has gone through several different stages, so far, and we seem to have settled finally. How long this one wil last, who knows.

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RE: dumb puppy - 3/20/2007 10:14:55 PM

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ORIGINAL: Skarredwolfpuppy

i just dont get it,..or quite fully understand,..but how do bdsm relationships work?

Um, your profile says "owned" and "currently in a relationship." How does *yours* work? lol

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