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amused - 3/21/2007 11:41:21 PM   
sublizzie


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Status: offline 		I find it amusing that when I do screw up the courage to write an email to a dominant who seems to fit my parameters and that I seem to fit his he chooses not to respond. After all the men on here who say they like being contacted and all of those who say they are offended when someone doesn't respond to their emails, it's just amusing when they don't practice what they preach.

Seems like it wouldn't be that difficult for a male Dominant to respond to an email from a submissive female.
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RE: amused - 3/22/2007 12:16:33 AM   
SusanofO


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Status: offline 		I'm sorry to hear that, sublizzie. How many days have you given it (so far)? Because it's possible he's just busyw/work or something; maybe give it a week?

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RE: amused - 3/22/2007 1:46:47 AM   
cariad


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Status: offline 		greetings sublizzie:

i too have written to Doms whom i thought i fit their "parameters" and not heard from them. i usually give it 3days to a week because they could be busy working, dealing with r/l issues, their computer could be down for a few reasons, a family emergency may have come up.

give it 3 days to a week and if no reply then move forward, dust yourself off, and get back up on the horse so to speak and weed through those that are not your ideal Dom.

Blessed Be
cariad

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RE: amused - 3/22/2007 2:05:48 AM   
eyesopened


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Status: offline 		It IS strange isn't it?  i've had exactly the same kind of experience.  The only time i've had any response when i initiated contact was from a Dom who turned out to be married (wasn't stated in his profile).  i even tried sending just a friendly hello to a Dom who was on the boards whining about never getting responses to his emails!  He never responded to mine.  *shrug*

So i stopped initiating emails, i chuckle when i hear the Doms whine, and keeping that sprinkle of hope, i have now found the One i serve with joy.   And yes, HE initiated contact with me.



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RE: amused - 3/22/2007 2:17:09 AM   
mstrjx


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Status: offline 		For my part, nearly all of the first contacts are ones that I receive, not send.  I'm glad of two things:  a) That there are some that even though they are 'submissive', 'woman' and 'submissive woman', they are willing to make the first move, and b) that I was the (or at least 'a') choice that they made - never hurts to feel wanted.

Except for one time when I took time out for a 'wall-to-wall Jeff' weekend and stayed away from the computer, I'm usually pretty prompt in replying, even if it does turn out to be in the negative.  I don't always know 'what' to say, but I do manage something.

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RE: amused - 3/22/2007 6:03:31 AM   
IrishMist


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quote:

ORIGINAL: sublizzie

I find it amusing that when I do screw up the courage to write an email to a dominant who seems to fit my parameters and that I seem to fit his he chooses not to respond. After all the men on here who say they like being contacted and all of those who say they are offended when someone doesn't respond to their emails, it's just amusing when they don't practice what they preach.

Seems like it wouldn't be that difficult for a male Dominant to respond to an email from a submissive female.

LOL, don't you just love double standards?



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RE: amused - 3/22/2007 6:07:35 AM   
KatyLied


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LOL, don't you just love double standards?


Yes, I got a chuckle too.
Anyway, you are on-line, if he doesn't answer there's probably a reason (but going into those reasons would fill another thread), no response is an answer, move on.


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RE: amused - 3/22/2007 6:17:20 AM   
BossyShoeBitch


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Status: offline 		Check your bulk email.  I was feeling badly because someone I had emailed a few weeks ago never replied.  I was SURE he would reply.. By chance I checked my bulk email and there it was!  I had my mail controls set a certain way and didn't realize I had filtered His!
Or maybe yours got sent to his bulk email?

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RE: amused - 3/22/2007 6:58:10 AM   
AquaticSub


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quote:

ORIGINAL: sublizzie

I find it amusing that when I do screw up the courage to write an email to a dominant who seems to fit my parameters and that I seem to fit his he chooses not to respond. After all the men on here who say they like being contacted and all of those who say they are offended when someone doesn't respond to their emails, it's just amusing when they don't practice what they preach.

Seems like it wouldn't be that difficult for a male Dominant to respond to an email from a submissive female.


It's quite possible that they just never check their collarme mail. I don't check mine as often as I should. Or maybe he's just not interested for whatever reason. Are you e-mailing dominants who have stated here that they are offended when somebody doesn't answer them?

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RE: amused - 3/22/2007 7:08:22 AM   
sublizzie


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Status: offline 		Thank you for the responses. I'm not upset in the least. I figure if he's not interested, that's fine. I'm more than willing to move on. I get enough contacts to keep me happy, I just like to keep my options open. I know he read the email within 10 minutes of receiving it so that's not the issue. I have no mail controls on my email here so nothing ends up in my bulk mail. I just get very amused at men whining about not getting responses to mail when they don't respond either. Seems silly. "Double standards" are exactly it. I find it all very amusing and thought it was time for female submissives to have a chance to say that they go through the same thing as the male Dominants but we don't whine about it.

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RE: amused - 3/22/2007 7:23:54 AM   
drawntothedark


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Status: offline 		I have not had that problem. In the past sometimes it would take a few weeks for them to get back ahold of me. As someone said before they could be out of town, ligtning struck their computer, death in the family.............

And sometimes I read emailes and I fully intend on responding but wait so it's worded right, or wait until I have enough time to devot to it. Maybe he is pondering what he wants to say?

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RE: amused - 3/22/2007 7:28:41 AM   
LuckyAlbatross


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Status: offline 		Well for me responding has absolutely nothing to do with volume of email.

It's simply that I respond to what I feel like responding to and don't respond to what I don't feel like responding to.

It is amusing considering all the doms who gripe about not getting responses, but such is the irony of life :)

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RE: amused - 3/22/2007 7:36:47 AM   
lonlyrossInNeed


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Status: offline 		same happens with the women domme on here so i know how you feel

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RE: amused - 3/22/2007 7:38:39 AM   
akisha


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Status: offline 		It happens alot unfortunately and usually it's those that ignore the emails they get that complain that no one responds to the e-mails they send, or that no one e-mails them at all *shruggs*

Oddest one I had lately was a Gnt that messaged me first, said he liked my profile would like to chat more. SO I read his profile, agreed that we matched on alot of areas so wrote back saying yes I liked his profile to and would like to caht more as well.

LOL well he read my response a couple minutes after I sent it, and I haven't heard from him since. Maybe I wasn't subby enough when i responded lol

I figure it takes all kinds and it better to find out early on if someone is not compatible. Sometimes it's the first message that proves that *S*

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RE: amused - 3/22/2007 7:47:43 AM   
juliaoceania


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quote:

have no mail controls on my email here so nothing ends up in my bulk mail.


I would check it again, I emailed a submissive in the UK about her post on here, and she never responded. I looked under the bulk mail settings a month later and found that my settings had changed to block people from other countries. I had emailed with this submissive in the past, so I know that the settings changed themselves... it is worth hitting the button to find out, isn't it?

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RE: amused - 3/22/2007 7:54:06 AM   
sublizzie


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Status: offline 		Thank you for the suggestion, juliaoceania. I did check but there's nothing there.

I'm not interested in harassing anyone into being my Dom. (Like that would work!) If someone doesn't think I'm what they want, then I wish them well on their journey. Somewhere out there is a Dom who will appreciate my finer points and want me around. Just have to wait for him to drop into my shopping cart.


edited for stupid typo.

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RE: amused - 3/22/2007 9:36:45 AM   
littleone35


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Status: offline 		I always responded to all My mail even though when i first jopined it was A lot.  Even if was a "thank you for writing but i don't think we are a match"  i thought it was only polite to respond if they took the time to write.  The only time i did not respond if it was rude or insulting or a form letter.

I just find it rude not to respond to a polite letter.  Be it Dom or sub.

Matt's littleone

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RE: amused - 3/22/2007 9:41:15 AM   
agirl


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Status: offline 		That's just one dom. I don't see how it relates to other doms *practising what they preach*.

agirl

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RE: amused - 3/22/2007 10:35:33 AM   
mstrjx


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quote:

ORIGINAL: BossyShoeBitch

Check your bulk email. 



Oh, yeah.  Now there's a sexist feature if there ever was one.  (I realize it's NOT, but it might as well be.)

Men always need to cut down on their incoming traffic.

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RE: amused - 3/22/2007 11:50:32 AM   
toservez


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Status: offline 		There are no absolutes and there are people with different ideas and thoughts. People from both sides and genders have beliefs to answer most if not all messages and there are people from both sides and genders who do not feel it is necessary, to each their own.

Dominant men who complain about not getting returned message may or may not be in the majority so I do not think it is a double standard but just running into different people.




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