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LadyEllen -> a good man really is hard to find (3/23/2007 10:12:16 AM)
Is it just me, I'm wondering, or is it a general thing? I mean, I get anything from zero to ten mails a day from guys, plus a similar number of guys viewing my profile. They're all either nutters, looking for a mom, well beyond any sensible limit of depravity or living on the other side of the world. There's been a few meets too though, that came out of the horde. Promising up to that point, they then turn out to fall into what one might impolitely call, losers. From what I read here, such is the general lot - but I'm wondering. Are the majority of guys really like this, or is it some sort of front, that's perceived to be how they ought to be, that would place them in one of a few categories? "I'm pathetic, please pity me (mommy)" "I'm a bit weird (honest) because I dont want to seem boring" "I've done it all (well, actually not) so my tastes are now extreme" E

onestandingstill -> RE: a good man really is hard to find (3/23/2007 10:34:27 AM)
Male or Female it's hard to find someone you share enough commonality you'd wish for more than casual chatter with. It does not mean you're better or worse off than any of the people in here searching. It just means finding a partner is indeed hard work, especially in this venue. Good men are indeed out there just like good women are out there. Good luck finding your needle in the haystack. suzanne

thetammyjo -> RE: a good man really is hard to find (3/23/2007 10:39:39 AM)
I have very very very low expectations for finding anyone online. Maybe that's why emails don't usually surprise me, disappoint me, or do much of anything. I have a few people I correspond with with from here but I frankly expect nothing else and didn't even expect that.

mstrjx -> RE: a good man really is hard to find (3/23/2007 10:59:36 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: onestandingstill Good luck finding your needle in the haystack. Here's one for you. How about 'being' a needle in the haystack looking for ANOTHER needle in the haystack. Talk about improbable. Jeff

ToGiveDivine -> RE: a good man really is hard to find (3/23/2007 11:08:14 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: LadyEllen Is it just me, I'm wondering, or is it a general thing? I mean, I get anything from zero to ten mails a day from guys, plus a similar number of guys viewing my profile. They're all either nutters, looking for a mom, well beyond any sensible limit of depravity or living on the other side of the world. E Wow, I fall into a couple of those categories (maybe three since I don't know what you consider a "sensible limit of depravity"). Yet another blow to my fragile male ego ;-) Well, not really - I never really thought I was a great catch anyway (possibly adequate though) - quite a few of the emails and conversations I've had here on CM seem to justify my thoughts on this particular topic. We can't all be everything to everyone - now can we? On a positive note - since I am half way around the world (or so) - I'm only a perceived disappointment instead of an actual disappointment (yep, I'm stretching for that silver lining :-P)

Unrepentant1 -> RE: a good man really is hard to find (3/23/2007 11:23:29 AM)
There are plenty of men around I am sure, do you seek a masculine type of guy? You obviously do not go for whimps or sissys. You also want a guy with a brain, which I can understand, but being a switch sort of puts you a bit inbetween and you do not seem to actually like a lot involving BDSM, which is strange on a BDSM site! Perhaps you are looking down a very narrow path.

LadyPact -> RE: a good man really is hard to find (3/23/2007 11:26:14 AM)
I wouldn't really venture to say. I've received a few good e-mails, but they are all in the beginning stages. I've yet to meet anyone for a real meet from CM. I've been pleased with some of the correspondence. A few have been rather friendly and have potential, but nothing has panned out yet.

onestandingstill -> RE: a good man really is hard to find (3/23/2007 11:36:23 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: mstrjx quote: ORIGINAL: onestandingstill Good luck finding your needle in the haystack. Here's one for you. How about 'being' a needle in the haystack looking for ANOTHER needle in the haystack. Talk about improbable. Jeff LOL I can easily beat that. I'm the blind one who can't see any needles for all the blindfolds I place over my own eyes preventing me from even finding the first haystack to begin my search. I just sit back not seeing anything because I'm not willing to look at all. Two neeldes would just need a magnet between and poof they'd be stuck together pretty quickly. suzanne

LadyEllen -> RE: a good man really is hard to find (3/23/2007 11:56:49 AM)
Now TGD - I'm not including you in those descriptions OK? (well apart from the halfway round the world thing maybe). I didnt mention the exception to the rule for fear of embarassing you. E

FukinTroll -> RE: a good man really is hard to find (3/23/2007 12:00:02 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: LadyEllen Either nutters: Looking for a mom: Well beyond any sensible limit of depravity: Living on the other side of the world: Check! No Check! Check! Check! Thats enough to stick you on my favs! Slurp!

LadyEllen -> RE: a good man really is hard to find (3/23/2007 12:01:47 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Unrepentant1 There are plenty of men around I am sure, do you seek a masculine type of guy? You obviously do not go for whimps or sissys. You also want a guy with a brain, which I can understand, but being a switch sort of puts you a bit inbetween and you do not seem to actually like a lot involving BDSM, which is strange on a BDSM site! Perhaps you are looking down a very narrow path. I have to agree with you really there. The guy I want is actually one I know very well and personally, and but for his alcoholism and understandable preference for 21 year old heroin addicted girls..... He's masculine, he has a brain and though he's submissive, he's also quite sexually aggressive (but in an acceptable way). I'm really looking for a non alcoholic version of him I guess, which is likely impossible. E

LadyEllen -> RE: a good man really is hard to find (3/23/2007 12:03:03 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: FukinTroll quote: ORIGINAL: LadyEllen Either nutters: Looking for a mom: Well beyond any sensible limit of depravity: Living on the other side of the world: Check! No Check! Check! Check! Thats enough to stick you on my favs! Slurp! Troll drool..... what a compliment! E

ToGiveDivine -> RE: a good man really is hard to find (3/23/2007 12:06:41 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: LadyEllen Now TGD - I'm not including you in those descriptions OK? (well apart from the halfway round the world thing maybe). I didnt mention the exception to the rule for fear of embarassing you. E Since when do you start caring whether you embarrassed me? When did you start thinking I would mind if you were to embarrass me? Go ahead, tell everyone I'm your Bitch Boy and enjoy the dominance you have over me. (Oh yes, I am QUITE the pain, aren't I? ;-D)

openmindedslave -> RE: a good man really is hard to find (3/23/2007 12:07:16 PM)
Let me share some thoughts here. I find that there are times when a man talks to a Mistress that they are honestly intrigued by them. That in fact guys can get excited and arroused by getting emails from someone they seem to connect with.Not so much , the sexual aspects , but sometimes a form of realizing someone actually is out there who gets them. In some ways we find that we are almost willing to drop everything to meet. Sometimes, because we get so hammered on what we think is a fantasy to be fullfilled we go a little bit further with the promises that are made. And then something happens...Call it reality..or maybe hes thinking ,"Wake up man..Are you really a slave ? Am I willing to live this life 24/7 ? Am I only here because shes with in an hours drive from home? " or I really can't see this being anything more than play time..no ltr" (You can fill in the blanks to why they can not go through with it) Yes there are the ones you might be so strange that you don't ever want to take them back to your place. There are the players and liers. The married guys . The guys you clearly don't want that you talk about in your profile but try to hide it. I think the problem is that many guys just don't think it through.The excitement of meeting or being apart of what they can't get on their own ,is so controlling that they don't realize what they are doing to a Mistress. This is no excuse mind you , its just they're not thinking about anyone but them selves. Is it selfish for some guys to take up your time and lie about their interest...Hell Yes. But what is their cost to them selves...Well, very little. The question about is a good man hard to find? Yes it is .And a good Mistress is hard also to find. And a good friend who accept you for who you are inside. But when you find them...well, doesn't it make all of this worth while?

MyMasterStephen -> RE: a good man really is hard to find (3/23/2007 12:11:05 PM)
quote: LOL I can easily beat that. I'm the blind one who can't see any needles for all the blindfolds I place over my own eyes preventing me from even finding the first haystack to begin my search. I just sit back not seeing anything because I'm not willing to look at all. Two neeldes would just need a magnet between and poof they'd be stuck together pretty quickly. suzanne I might be a needle, but I resent being called a poof...

ToGiveDivine -> RE: a good man really is hard to find (3/23/2007 12:13:21 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: LadyEllen He's masculine, he has a brain and though he's submissive, he's also quite sexually aggressive (but in an acceptable way). E What is "acceptable sexually aggressive"? Does that mean he doesn't require you to pleasure him, but he will go full out to pleasure you in whatever manner you deem enjoyable? (which may require him to take a shower / brush teeth afterwards!?!?!?) (NOTE to LE: Remember I mentioned on another thread that I can NOT lick my own eyebrows - so I'm not sure to what extent I'd be "acceptable" - wow, did I say that out loud?!?!?! LOL)

LadyEllen -> RE: a good man really is hard to find (3/23/2007 12:49:11 PM)
What did I mean by acceptably sexually aggressive? (I knew I'd have to explain that one) Its the way he doesnt ask or pussyfoot around, but just grabs hold and takes what he wants! Especially when youve spent the last half an hour teasing and humiliating him..... On an unrelated matter, I now have to go take a cold shower. E

mnottertail -> RE: a good man really is hard to find (3/23/2007 12:51:37 PM)
This may be the crux of your current problem...........seeing your cold shower as somehow unrelated to the prior matter. Just sayin' L!

ToGiveDivine -> RE: a good man really is hard to find (3/23/2007 1:16:40 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: LadyEllen What did I mean by acceptably sexually aggressive? (I knew I'd have to explain that one) Its the way he doesnt ask or pussyfoot around, but just grabs hold and takes what he wants! Especially when youve spent the last half an hour teasing and humiliating him..... On an unrelated matter, I now have to go take a cold shower. E Maybe it's just me, but if the above words (in bold) had said "does what I want", I'd be disabling the hot water in my house too - LOL

Bearlee -> RE: a good man really is hard to find (3/23/2007 1:29:08 PM)
* looks at the LadyE * * looks at her pal, Divine * * breaks out in a HUGE smile and says * "Aaawwwwwwwwwwwwww..." ...then giggles & runs...

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