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Master? - 3/23/2007 6:48:08 PM

SimplyTrue

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What a huge task. Do Masters want partners? I want a partner - not a master. I have carried the weight of the world upon myself - I want a friend and lover that will be there to hold me - there will be no problem with me returning the favor.

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RE: Master? - 3/23/2007 6:51:09 PM

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I personally am looking for a partner in my slave as well as a huge other list of labels.

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RE: Master? - 3/23/2007 7:05:41 PM

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Some of us do indeed want a partner. I don't feel the two are mutually exclusive.

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RE: Master? - 3/23/2007 7:26:19 PM

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I want lots of different kinds of partners...spiritual, sexual, primary, Ms...it'd be nice to find a few of these in one person, be that slave or whomever. I don't expect to find one who is all.

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RE: Master? - 3/23/2007 7:43:58 PM

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ORIGINAL: SimplyTrue

What a huge task. Do Masters want partners? I want a partner - not a master.

Perhaps, I am missing a point here...and if so, please enlighten me..

However, I do not seek a Master that wants a partner...I do not want a partner, I want a Master..

I don't want to see eye-to-eye, I want to be on my knees looking up for His Control and Him looking to me for my obedience.

**Edited to add*- If you are NOT looking for a Master...why did you start a forum thread with just one word.."hello", in the Master's Forum?

http://www.collarchat.com/m_907249/tm.htm

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RE: Master? - 3/23/2007 7:44:38 PM

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SimplyTrue,

First and foremost, welcome to the boards, and if this is your first entree into the lifestyle, welcome to that as well!

The most important thing to know is that there is rarely any one answer that fits everyone, and there is rarely one label that applies completely.

For example, there are probably as many definitions of master as there are people defining it. A master can be someone who is skilled at something, or skilled at a lot of things, or someone who wants a relationship with a slave, or someone who has been around for awhile and has earned the respect of their community. In this context it doesn't make sense to ask "Do Masters want a partner?" For some masters, what you are looking for is exactly what they want. For others, it is something else, or completely the opposite.

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RE: Master? - 3/23/2007 9:06:07 PM

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Some do, some don't

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RE: Master? - 3/23/2007 9:22:35 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: SimplyTrue

Do Masters want partners? I want a partner - not a master.

SimplyTrue,

The two are not mutually exclusive! Certain styles of Master may not
be compatible with what you call a partner, others will be.

My belief is that if you put me in a room with a lot of couples at a
vanilla party or whatever, I can tell you at the end of the evening who
in each relationship runs things. It has been my experience that bottom
line someone is always in charge. And if they say "Oh no, we're equals"
That does not match my observations.

The thing I like about this site is that here it is overt and in the open.
Now, as to how the pair structure that, it is up to them.

So welcome to the boards, be open, be patient!!!! Learn to ignore and
fight off the ones who will assault your email because your a good looking blond.
Read male profiles and contact the ones that appeal to you. I know it is a cliche
for dominants to say this here; but "trust me" they won't mind.

And maybe, with luck, you will find the one
with whom you can build what you want.

Good Luck
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RE: Master? - 3/23/2007 9:39:16 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: SimplyTrue

What a huge task. Do Masters want partners? I want a partner - not a master. I have carried the weight of the world upon myself - I want a friend and lover that will be there to hold me - there will be no problem with me returning the favor.

Sounds logical to me. Except - if you don't want a master, why are you posting on a BDSM forum? I realize that there are dom/dom relationships but you want to have a sub?

*is genuinely puzzled*

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RE: Master? - 3/23/2007 9:40:25 PM

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ORIGINAL: FukinTroll

I personally am looking for a partner in my slave as well as a huge other list of labels.

That makes sense. Valyraen and I are very much equals and partners, though he still owns me and I want that.

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RE: Master? - 3/23/2007 9:42:56 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: SimplyTrue

What a huge task. Do Masters want partners? I want a partner - not a master. I have carried the weight of the world upon myself - I want a friend and lover that will be there to hold me - there will be no problem with me returning the favor.

if you do not want a master, or someone who is dominant over you, why do you identify as a submissive?

that said, there are plenty of masters who want partners as well as slaves. mine wishes me to be His partner as well as His slave, but my submission to Him comes first, always. being a slave doesn't preclude the fact that we love each other, that we are friends, and that we care for each other deeply. i am His property first and foremost but i am also many other things to Him; He is my owner first and foremost, but He is also many other things to me.

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RE: Master? - 3/24/2007 1:52:13 AM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: SimplyTrue

What a huge task. Do Masters want partners? I want a partner - not a master. I have carried the weight of the world upon myself - I want a friend and lover that will be there to hold me - there will be no problem with me returning the favor.

Partners come in all shapes and sizes with differing levels of participation and ability to function in life. Ask yourself why you choose the roll of submissive. Although I think I understand what your saying is that you have ran into only Dominants that want to play rather then help you grow. By all rights we all carry the weight of ~our~ world on our shoulders, but expecting another to lift our weight and carry it for us is a fantasy.

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RE: Master? - 3/24/2007 4:08:47 AM

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Are you stating affirmatively that you don't and perhaps never do want a Master?

On reading your profile, probably all of what you seek would work fine with any sub/slave I'd claim as mine. I make reference in my own profile that being Dom doesn't mean I'm always in "Dom mode" - I like sharing many things as vanilla/adult equals, too!

Still, your personal geography sux, IMO.... ;-)

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RE: Master? - 3/24/2007 7:32:56 AM

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Master and I are partners, lovers, friends, life mates etc. Be patient they are out there.

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RE: Master? - 3/24/2007 7:59:11 AM

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Because of the situation i am in, i have tried to find others that are in a similar situation. What i have found is that every relationship is different. Different aspects, goals, dynamics, etc.

In my situation Daddy and i live together. We are mostly in Daddy/baby girl mode, however we also have D/s (strict) mode. How i refer to Daddy depends on the mode i am in. in strict mode i call him Master, in all other modes i call him Daddy.

Regardless of what i call him, he is everything to me. my Daddy, my Master, my partner, my lover, my friend, my protector, everything.

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RE: Master? - 3/24/2007 8:06:45 AM

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It does seem huge however when you do find it you will know it was well worth it

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RE: Master? - 3/24/2007 8:14:44 AM

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i don't know if i was very clear in my point or not, but the point i was trying to make was that there is some one out there that is a good match for you.

In my opinion the most important thing is to figure out who you are, what you want and what you need. It makes it much easier to find it when you know what your looking for.

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RE: Master? - 3/24/2007 8:20:32 AM

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Mine said he wanted a partner and friend…and to that end is taking his time getting to know me. We have very much in common in the ‘vanilla world’…and yet there is a strong D/s component in our (new) relationship. I want TPE in my life…but realize we must also be partners; partners/ lovers/ friends/. I’m lucky he feels the same. He may own me and insists on obedience, but even in D/s we are partners.

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RE: Master? - 3/24/2007 9:37:16 AM

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i'm trying to understand what you mean. more information would be helpful. otherwise people will make assumptions. perhaps what you mean is you want a Master who is also your partner. this is possible with the right type of Dominant. but you'll have to be quite careful in explaining your desire upfront. not all Doms want 'partners'. many absolutely do not want a partner. communicate about this at the outset of the relationship.

perhaps you mean you want a Master but not a 24/7 situation. this dynamic could allow the two of you to set clear boundaries as to when you are partners (equals?) and when you are not .

perhaps you just want a top to your bottom (in regards to sex) who is a life partner the rest of the time. this is totally acceptable. and don't let anyone on here tell you otherwise.

any of these situations are available to you given enough time. but you must decide what it is you're looking for and communicate that.

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RE: Master? - 3/24/2007 10:45:38 AM

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What a huge task. Do Masters want partners? I want a partner - not a master. I have carried the weight of the world upon myself - I want a friend and lover that will be there to hold me - there will be no problem with me returning the favor.

Finding someone who is compatible with us, and that we can be in a committed relationship with can be a huge task no matter what type of relationship dynamic we seek (vanilla, BDSM, etc)

From your profile (which is no longer found) and your post, I get the impression that you are more interested in finding your 'soft place to fall' and the strong arms to hold you. (I can defintely relate to that part :) That you're willing to accept a bit of kink in the bedroom and to show a bit of submission if that's what it takes.

I would ask you (and understand I am NOT criticizing you in any way), if you are truly seeking a dominant man or if you are really just looking for a strong man of good character who will be there for you, support you and lift that "weight of the world" from your shoulders? Perhaps you've had difficulty finding that in the vanilla world, so you thought it might be easier to find here and you're willing to accept being a bit submissive and a bit of kink to get it?

You may certainly find what you seek here, but I'd venture a guess that it will be just as difficult to find here as it would be in the vanilla world...., not because what you seek is the slightest bit unusual, but because I think it's just plain hard to find our "special someone(s)" and make it work. But I wish you the best of luck.

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