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sierranights -> RE: How to become a pain slut?? (4/13/2005 12:52:21 PM)
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After reading the posts I think you have your answer. Yes positive reinforcement, and Pavlov's theory, suggest you can condition living things. Maybe a good place to start. Also, perhaps you can talk to the specifics of those on the board here who have underwent it. Padriag's regiment makes sense to me and it doesn't only apply to the BDSM world.
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I'll also stop to massage her ass. I've found that during pain sessions a massage of the "injured" area helps to transform the pain into something more pleasant, the often described "warmth" or "glow" that you sometimes hear about.
I love that counter feeling! In fact sometimes you can endure more just waiting for that feeling. (well for *me* anyways)
I just thought I might add a couple of practical in the moment things, and a few of my own opinions. Not all pain is equal!! And I am not talking about intensity. There is a different sensation when you do it from one part to another on your body. The feel of electricity is different then a flogger. Even so much to say there can be a difference in how you sit/stand or lay when recieveing. So, I would suggest you find the one that is not necessarily painful but annoying, or perhaps irritating. I also started laying down, it is easier to relax when you dont have to try and stand (that was just my personal preference, and I am not averse to pain...IM just thinking of the pain I dont like as much lol). I would also think, that the more of your body affected, the less the initial pain would be..start bigger then reduce it or increase it as it may be. Same with intensity. Do not try to go for hours on your first attempt, start small and take pleasure in the small incremements. But the actual conditioning process I am thinking it is better for those in a dominant position to comment on, and def ones with more experience then I. But as sub, let me add a couple things of practical nature, that probably has a physiological basis for it. Breathe.....deep and steady. Breathe rythmycally (this is used in cults among other things, in meditation, and a variety of other activites legal or not to induce a different state) Anytime a person is in pain, whether in labour, or after a tramautic accident...you are told to breathe. More oxygen, it requires you to focus, and it propbably does other thigns too. Visualizations (can be done with breathing) as you breathe out, let all the pain go, and focus on the after feelings ( I find them exquisite), or if you dont like the feeling, breathe out and let it go, and think wow I did it. Whatever [:)], use it to let go, use it to affirm yourself, use it to know that you just gave your Dom/me a thrill. Or I have focussed on the actual pain, feeling the sting as it lands and how it spreads across my body. (but I am not sure if that would work for you). Find the pleasure in whatever. Your mind is a powerful tool~ use just have to learn how it ticks. Finally, be RELAXED. Tense muscles do not handle stress as well or as easily. Breathing helps with this, wanting it helps with this, committing yourself helps. It also help with focus, cause then you focus more on the act of relaxing. Perhaps eventually, you will feel yourself slip away. Also, warm yourself up, and if you like "fear" play or if you and your partner are sexual together become aroused. It might be easier. Your body will already have endorphins rushing through it. (Nothing like a good does of adrenaline, lol to buffer the pain) But I think, time, gradual build up, trust, pleasure/pain combined, and using your mind to alleviate discomfort is the way to go.
~Best wishes and good luck
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