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violetaelf -> RE: subs who don't know their place (3/26/2007 7:38:37 AM)
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I've been looking through the profiles, and I have found that there are ALOT of subs who not only don't know their place, but think that it's ok for them to be openly hostile. I've decided to put this up as a Dom who is thinking about you subs and don't want to see you get yourself into trouble.
Listen, Doms and Dommes alike have earned the title of Sir, usually through intensive training and study. You'll find that a Dom who hasn't will be looked down upon and you will be shown that he is not worthy even of the title Dom. For that reason, upon first speaking to ANY Dom, call them "Sir" or "Madam". This is not something beneath you. You're a sub! You're supposed to enjoy service and humility.
I heard one sub say "I will not be a doormat!". Well, believe it or not, that's sort of stupid. Thats like saying, "I love sunny days, so I better hide from the sun under this rock". What is the problem with people like this? They aren't subs! They are just girls who want a real man. There's no problem with that, but at least let us know what you REALLY want by not calling yourself a slave. Most of the girls like this I've seen quallify only as a "Switch".
Any other Masters who want to comment or expand feel free.
Ok, so this is absolutely insulting ... but I must say not shocking. I've heard this several times before. There are sadly many who call themselves ‘Dom’s who have waved a whip for a year or 5 and expect to be called “Sir” the moment they say 'hi'. I don't know you upon the first approach... you haven't earned your title with the whole world. You earn the title of 'Dom' with every sub you encounter.. Individually! I don't automatically respect you because you claimed yourself to be Dominant...
But I think the problem in this original post lies elsewhere... The problem is that you think that -your- way is the -only- right way to live and behave within the lifestyle, for EVERYONE. And that is utterly preposterous. There is no one right way to be or live or participate in the lifestyle. There is no 'by the book'. The only right way to live the lifestyle is how two consenting adults who choose to enter a relationship agree between each other. And that way is right for them. Another way is right for another couple.. and so on!... Single subs and Doms figure out what is right for them and then seek those who match them... That's it! And if you don't like strong submissives... just don't contact them... no one is forcing you.
Those who you say that qualify as a switch are most likely Switches -In Life- but not in a -Life Style- They are strong and dominant in their everyday jobs, schools, = in a vanilla world.. But they choose to submit to their partners when they are not in the -vanilla- world. Think about that...
And lastly... I think your idea what a "doormat" is might be different from what others think. In speaking with many , "doormat" is a submissive with no personal thought and mind, that is psychologically speaking. Many Doms prefer strong submissives with a mind of their own and a will... And my be if you stop to think about it for a moment.. You'll figure out why.
I really hope that despite you welcoming only Masters' feedback in your post, you are not close-minded enough to view those of subs because that's whom you are addressing!
'violet'
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