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blushingflower -> RE: subs who don't know their place (3/27/2007 11:11:24 AM)
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I'm coming a little late to the party, I know, but I can't resist putting my two cents in.
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ORIGINAL: Aslanemperor
I've been looking through the profiles, and I have found that there are ALOT of subs who not only don't know their place, but think that it's ok for them to be openly hostile. I've decided to put this up as a Dom who is thinking about you subs and don't want to see you get yourself into trouble.
Listen, Doms and Dommes alike have earned the title of Sir, usually through intensive training and study. You'll find that a Dom who hasn't will be looked down upon and you will be shown that he is not worthy even of the title Dom. For that reason, upon first speaking to ANY Dom, call them "Sir" or "Madam". This is not something beneath you. You're a sub! You're supposed to enjoy service and humility.
I submit to those worthy of my submission. I've not encountered any dominants online who've can claim "intensive training and study". Years of experience, perhaps, but it's not like you get your Doctor of Dominance degree from BDSM U and then everyone has to call you "Sir". It is beneath me to humble myself before those who aren't worthy of anyone's submission, and it cheapens the value of my submission and my obedience if I give it freely to anyone who claims to be worthy of it without questioning whether or not they truly are.
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I heard one sub say "I will not be a doormat!". Well, believe it or not, that's sort of stupid. Thats like saying, "I love sunny days, so I better hide from the sun under this rock". What is the problem with people like this? They aren't subs! They are just girls who want a real man. There's no problem with that, but at least let us know what you REALLY want by not calling yourself a slave. Most of the girls like this I've seen quallify only as a "Switch".
Any other Masters who want to comment or expand feel free.
A submissive is not a doormat. A submissive is a person who gains pleasure and satisfaction from submitting her (or his) will to another. A doormat is something you walk all over and wipe your shoes off on. There is no reason that a Dom should not treat his submissive with respect. A D/s relationship is built on communication and trust. These things require that both parties also treat each other with respect.
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