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RE: Being Discreet - 4/15/2007 2:02:49 AM

mons

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greetings to all

i am a very private woman! i would not give out information on anyone if someone would ask and amany do they want to know who was the slave i last spoke to or if i am speaking to someone i do not give my name until i know they very well. it is so important that it is kept and not just spread around to others. i do not date married men it is a waste of time. as for writing about someone her i neversue their names i wil leave that out. if i have aprobelm no way would i shame that person i will speak on it but leave the name out. no one knows of my lifestyle my sister does and some of my fmaily but out sider no way and many would faint if they did. so i am very dsitreect

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RE: Being Discreet - 4/15/2007 6:27:24 AM

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I'd probably be considered indiscreet about myself and reasonably discreet about others.
My family, co-workers, and all of my friends know that I'm into kink and have done professional domination and fetish modeling.
Sir would prefer that I shared less about our relationship on message boards like this one.
When it comes to who I ahve played with in the past, I refer to 'a sub' or 'a Top' at a party unless someone has become part of my family and will be spending a great deal of time with me. Once that happens, I will specifically identify individuals in the local scene so that my family member knows who I avoid and/or why. I have used bad judgement on this in the past, thinking that someone who had moved in with me was going to be in my life for much longer than they were, but I do my best to be very particular about dropping names of people that I played with and such unless there is a need to know (i.e. I give information to Sir about parties I attend without him, but it isn't anyone else's business who was there or who I played with).
When it comes to my professional relationships, I might describe a delicious scene but I never give out information enough to identify who I played with or who the client was.

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RE: Being Discreet - 4/15/2007 7:07:05 AM

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being discreet is simply a matter of self control...nothing more nothing less.

the motivation for not being discreet comes directly form two places....

one is the same motivation as showing off... a need for external validation..

the other is the in your face...which translated means: i dont care how my actions effect other people...

a non discreet person is telling you through their actions what life will be like with them, "me me me me me meeeee"

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RE: Being Discreet - 4/15/2007 7:39:59 AM

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ORIGINAL: crouchingtigress
one is the same motivation as showing off... a need for external validation..

the other is the in your face...which translated means: i dont care how my actions effect other people...

a non discreet person is telling you through their actions what life will be like with them, "me me me me me meeeee"

I find that kinda funny, as my rationale for not being "discreet" as others define it is "I'm not ashamed."
I don't shove details of my sex life into my co-workers faces. Neither do I deny that I have done fetish modeling and professional domination. If they ask for details I will happily share, but the intention wasn't for things to be all about me, nor to be in their faces, nor to be exhibitionistic. Just honest, and unashamed.

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RE: Being Discreet - 4/15/2007 8:05:23 AM

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I am very discreet for a variety of reasons, I also enjoy being mysterious.
I tend to be a private person, so there is less that will come back and bite me.

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RE: Being Discreet - 4/15/2007 8:13:48 AM

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Elorin, in my definition that is being discreet...you can be unashamed and still be discreet.....what you seem to be desribing as what you are not is: being secrative. i see being disceet and being secrative as two totally differt things.

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ORIGINAL: Elorin

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ORIGINAL: crouchingtigress
one is the same motivation as showing off... a need for external validation..

the other is the in your face...which translated means: i dont care how my actions effect other people...

a non discreet person is telling you through their actions what life will be like with them, "me me me me me meeeee"

I find that kinda funny, as my rationale for not being "discreet" as others define it is "I'm not ashamed."
I don't shove details of my sex life into my co-workers faces. Neither do I deny that I have done fetish modeling and professional domination. If they ask for details I will happily share, but the intention wasn't for things to be all about me, nor to be in their faces, nor to be exhibitionistic. Just honest, and unashamed.

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RE: Being Discreet - 4/15/2007 8:24:20 AM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: crouchingtigress

Elorin, in my definition that is being discreet...you can be unashamed and still be discreet.....what you seem to be desribing as what you are not is: being secrative. i see being disceet and being secrative as two totally differt things.

Just another example of needing clear definitions before you can discuss something intelligently. ~smiles~ Since we didn't start out with a clear definition of what discretion is, it makes it hard to communicate about it.

Thanks for clearing up your viewpoint.

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RE: Being Discreet - 4/15/2007 8:46:30 AM

denika

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I am discreet when it is appropriate, other than that my life is pretty much an open book. I don't hide our lifestyle choices, but I don't flaunt them either. If I am asked a question I am very open but take into consideration we have those in our life who have unmentionables that don't need to get dragged into the limelight of our choices, or to pay a price for them.

"Discretion is the better part of valor" is an exceptional quote.

Rob and I both see it as a form of protection not omission,with each other nothing is omitted but with others, friends, family- we take into consideration their veiws/beliefs and act and speak accordingly to be respectful of their veiws as they are of us.

There a few I have come across that need a serious lesson in descretion, not to mention manners when it comes to interacting with others. It is a skill that gets over looked.

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