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RE: profiles.... - 3/28/2007 7:48:48 PM

Missokyst

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I agree.

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ORIGINAL: Lorelei115
To me, an actively negative profile would be one about.. say.. how all the Dommes on here are money-grubbing whores, or how its impossible to find a "real" submissive on this site. To me, making your boundaries clear is not negative. The negativity comes in when it seems the author of the profile has an active grudge and is using their profile to air it to the community at large.

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RE: profiles.... - 3/28/2007 7:58:05 PM

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Ah... but the real question is, do profiles that start out like that actually result in less time wasting emails? I am certainly not sure. I tell people not to message me if they want to be a human toilet yet I repeatedly receive emails asking to eat my shit. I can't figure it out.

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RE: profiles.... - 3/28/2007 8:15:19 PM

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I'm down to probably receiving only 1 useless e-mail a week.

Though I can't say if it's because of my profile or because I'm old *winks* hehe what ever the reason its's nice not to be assalted by hordes of HNG mail.

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RE: profiles.... - 3/28/2007 8:30:09 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: redsky
hello A/all, i am just wondering.... do some profiles on here seem to be a little 'aggressive'? & i dont just mean the Dom/Dommes....a few submissive profiles i have seen on here are actually quite outrageous & forthcoming about what they WANT.im just thinking, how is anyone supposed to feel comfortable messaging someone else if their profile starts off with 'DONT WASTE MY TIME'

in my opinion some profiles are just down right mean & sour, before i met Master Jake i used to be afraid to contact some Doms incase they thought me unreal or fake. i know there are fakers on here, we all know that, but by ranting about what or who you demand or do NOT want to message you, doesnt that kinda make you unwilling to give everyone a chance?
it may just be me......
thanks for reading this...

Red sky having been one of those that have been accused of having an angry profile i will assure you that i mean nothign rude or nasty. I simply have had my FILL of my mailbox haing greater than 100 emails a day in it from men and women that in my opinion didnt read my profile at all...and fromt hose that were blatantly nothign more than script writers....and then of course there are the dastardly Doms....those that think that a submissive means a slut.... and well i resent being lumped with anyone....I just wrote mine out so that it was clear and concise and honestly anyone that can make it through my entire profile and i can tell when someone has read it...I always send a courteous reply even if i feel ther eis nothiing . It is all a matter of respect.

so Perhaps just be yourself and enjoy the happiness that you experience by being your own true self.

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RE: profiles.... - 3/28/2007 8:48:40 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: redsky

hello A/all, i am just wondering.... do some profiles on here seem to be a little 'aggressive'? & i dont just mean the Dom/Dommes....a few submissive profiles i have seen on here are actually quite outrageous & forthcoming about what they WANT.

im just thinking, how is anyone supposed to feel comfortable messaging someone else if their profile starts off with 'DONT WASTE MY TIME'

in my opinion some profiles are just down right mean & sour, before i met Master Jake i used to be afraid to contact some Doms incase they thought me unreal or fake. i know there are fakers on here, we all know that, but by ranting about what or who you demand or do NOT want to message you, doesnt that kinda make you unwilling to give everyone a chance?
it may just be me......
thanks for reading this...

Forgive Me for not reading the whole thread. Just chiming in.

Actually, I have next to nothing on My profile. Part of the reason for this is that it was just something that I whipped up quickly (forgive the whipping pun) to be able to talk with other people in the lifestyle. I figure that those who want to know about Me will ask Me those questions by email. Afterall, since when is a Domme expected to do all of the work?

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RE: profiles.... - 3/29/2007 2:39:38 AM

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Ive only been here a few days and my own profile comes off as aggressive, in fact i make comment on that myself at the end of it.
When you have been around awhile, specially within the online community it all gets a bit old.
ive had numerous profiles on numerous sites, ive done funny ones and harsh ones and ive said 'im taken' in so many ways it borders on ranting. (and the amount of doms who try to 'steal' you is shocking)
I like chatting, sharing experiences etc but i dont want a dom, domme, play partner blah blah.........this in itself gets you abusive messages. True to form i received a message from a 'dom' in response to my profile along the lines of 'well why are u on collarme, fuck off u fuckin timewaster'.......and i (as i always bite) sent my usual sarky message back.
i do appreciate a well laid out, informative profile...................but for bitter/twisted jaded me ive found that whatever i write i always get the online 'kneel bitch' masters, the 'wanna meet up for sex' guys, the haters et al....so i admit to being lazy and not providing a thought out profile but i do respond to all but the most offensive messages i receive.
i persevere with online sites because i have found a few diamonds, those poeple who become true friends and (to date) all the other crap you go through to find those few has been worth it.

a little note to those people who may read my profile and wonder why i have a 'sexy' pic up if im not looking for anyone...................what woman dosent want to be adored? lol

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RE: profiles.... - 3/29/2007 9:35:16 AM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: madcatlady

Ive only been here a few days and my own profile comes off as aggressive, in fact i make comment on that myself at the end of it.
When you have been around awhile, specially within the online community it all gets a bit old.
ive had numerous profiles on numerous sites, ive done funny ones and harsh ones and ive said 'im taken' in so many ways it borders on ranting. (and the amount of doms who try to 'steal' you is shocking)
I like chatting, sharing experiences etc but i dont want a dom, domme, play partner blah blah.........this in itself gets you abusive messages. True to form i received a message from a 'dom' in response to my profile along the lines of 'well why are u on collarme, fuck off u fuckin timewaster'.......and i (as i always bite) sent my usual sarky message back.
i do appreciate a well laid out, informative profile...................but for bitter/twisted jaded me ive found that whatever i write i always get the online 'kneel bitch' masters, the 'wanna meet up for sex' guys, the haters et al....so i admit to being lazy and not providing a thought out profile but i do respond to all but the most offensive messages i receive.
i persevere with online sites because i have found a few diamonds, those poeple who become true friends and (to date) all the other crap you go through to find those few has been worth it.

a little note to those people who may read my profile and wonder why i have a 'sexy' pic up if im not looking for anyone...................what woman dosent want to be adored? lol

Awomen to that, couldn't have said it better.

Luci

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< Message edited by MistressLucyFurr -- 3/29/2007 9:48:37 AM >

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RE: profiles.... - 3/29/2007 4:38:47 PM

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Ah, heck, you are all profile sluts reading profiles all the time.

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RE: profiles.... - 3/29/2007 4:41:41 PM

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Guilty!

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RE: profiles.... - 3/29/2007 4:44:12 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: ExSteelAgain

Ah, heck, you are all profile sluts reading profiles all the time.

Hell, I have no shame to admit it! I'm a complete male whore when it
comes to reading profiles. I love reading the really trashy or twisted ones
the most.

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RE: profiles.... - 3/29/2007 4:55:35 PM

ExSteelAgain

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quote:

ORIGINAL: WhiplashSmile

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ORIGINAL: ExSteelAgain

Ah, heck, you are all profile sluts reading profiles all the time.

Hell, I have no shame to admit it! I'm a complete male whore when it
comes to reading profiles. I love reading the really trashy or twisted ones
the most.

Me, too, to be truthful. So if others see where I'm viewing them, don't take it personal. It is a habit being the profile slut I am.

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RE: profiles.... - 3/29/2007 6:15:46 PM

OsideGirl

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A few thoughts:

1) If you don't know what you want, how will you get what you want?

2) Would you want to be with someone that that doesn't know what they want?

3) Until a submisisve has consented to submit, they have every right in the world to have wants.

I certainly wouldn't start a profile with "Don't waste my time". But, I certainly understan the frustration that has brought it on.

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RE: profiles.... - 3/29/2007 6:37:42 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: akisha

I'm down to probably receiving only 1 useless e-mail a week.

Though I can't say if it's because of my profile or because I'm old *winks* hehe what ever the reason its's nice not to be assalted by hordes of HNG mail.

I am starting to believe that HNG's don't know how to read, or they truly don't know what they are as I still get at least 3-5 a day. What part of "I don't cyber screw" don't they understand?

Psy

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RE: profiles.... - 3/29/2007 6:45:06 PM

gypsyfirefly

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Maybe those who post rude harsh antagonistic profiles are looking for the ones that are attracted to that type of "profile person"? Then again, some folks are just assholes <shrug>.

However, there is a huge difference between being antagonistic and aggressive - at least to me. Those folks that have been inundated by frivolous, ignorant and just plain stupid mail, as many here have stated, probably have just gotten tired of dealing with it and chose to be plain spoken and to the point to save time and aggrevation (and me thinks to lower their levels of frustration and extreme annoyance).

One nice aspect of profiles, you can either read them or pass them by. Some though, are quite entertaining reading no matter what you are looking for or what "first" impression they project.

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RE: profiles.... - 3/29/2007 6:52:27 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: WhiplashSmile

quote:

ORIGINAL: ExSteelAgain

Ah, heck, you are all profile sluts reading profiles all the time.

Hell, I have no shame to admit it! I'm a complete male whore when it
comes to reading profiles. I love reading the really trashy or twisted ones
the most.

Point me to the twisted people, I'm there!

Psy

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RE: profiles.... - 3/31/2007 2:39:18 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: gypsyfirefly

One nice aspect of profiles, you can either read them or pass them by. Some though, are quite entertaining reading

gypsy

Aha, so you admit it, gypsy, you are one of those dreaded profile perv readers ! (so am I, so are a lot of the visitors to this site, I expect).

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RE: profiles.... - 3/31/2007 3:26:04 PM

MasterHyde

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Your own profile starts with:

"Before You read my profile, please wipe Your feet and leave your bullshit at the door!"

Some people might say this was aggressive. At the very least, it presupposes that someone reading the profile has brought some "bullshit" with them, and the instruction to leave it at the door is a pre-emptive attempt to disarm the individual who may or may not actually have brought any "bullshit", regardless of what you are assuming.

Personally, I don't think it's aggressive. But on a small scale, it's indicative of the same sentiment that is displayed on much grander scale and with much greater intensity by those "aggressive" profiles you are talking about here. So why do you need to ask if the profiles are aggressive? Obviously they are. And obviously, it's because some people feel defensive because of some less than wonderful experience they had. When someone starts to believe that the best defense is a good offense, yes... they do get a bit aggressive.

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RE: profiles.... - 3/31/2007 3:29:21 PM

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quote:

Is this something seen on mainly female profiles? I can't imagine guys being so bombarded that they have to filter replies before they're even written.

I dunno. I almost never read any guy's profiles! LOL

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RE: profiles.... - 3/31/2007 3:37:54 PM

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I admit...my profile could be seen as a bit rude when it comes to what/who I want to talk to/about, but even so, people don't get the point. I've become very picky about the emails I respond to...things that just say "hello" get deleted, as well as messages from males wanting to know if I want to joing their 20 member online "stable." A kind, thoughtful email that lets me know that you did indeed read my profile will get you an equally kind thoughtful reply.
However, I do try to keep the "No this this or this" in the middle of my profile. High enough that it can be seen, but not the first thing in glaring red letters. I can see how those profiles might be disconcerting.

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RE: profiles.... - 4/6/2007 7:31:53 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: redsky

hello A/all, i am just wondering.... do some profiles on here seem to be a little 'aggressive'? & i dont just mean the Dom/Dommes....a few submissive profiles i have seen on here are actually quite outrageous & forthcoming about what they WANT.

im just thinking, how is anyone supposed to feel comfortable messaging someone else if their profile starts off with 'DONT WASTE MY TIME'

in my opinion some profiles are just down right mean & sour, before i met Master Jake i used to be afraid to contact some Doms incase they thought me unreal or fake. i know there are fakers on here, we all know that, but by ranting about what or who you demand or do NOT want to message you, doesnt that kinda make you unwilling to give everyone a chance?
it may just be me......
thanks for reading this...

Exactly. But there's a lot of people who feel that being aggressive is the same as being assertive and dominant, which is of course not true.

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