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How do you feel about crying? - 4/1/2007 7:10:50 PM   
sillygirl09


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Status: offline 		We have a thread in "ask submissive/slave" do you cry from being whipped?  What do the Masters and Mistresses feel about their subs/slaves crying?
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RE: How do you feel about crying? - 4/1/2007 7:28:05 PM   
DominaSmartass


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Status: offline 		The idea of someone crying from something I've done to him is extremely hot to me. That's if I know that he will be ok in the end. The idea of damaging someone emotionally is not hot. Many subs I know think the idea of being made to cry from extreme pain is enticing and cathartic and I would definitely like to get to this level someday. My sadism reaches there, in theory, just not in practice yet. I also get off on the part where I take him down from the cross or wherever he's tied to and kiss him, hold him, all that stuff till he stops crying.

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RE: How do you feel about crying? - 4/1/2007 8:11:02 PM   
Rafters


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RE: How do you feel about crying? - 4/1/2007 8:13:15 PM   
bludemonn


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Status: offline 		.....i feel ....sad .....about crying *sniff*..are you supposed to feel happy?

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RE: How do you feel about crying? - 4/1/2007 8:17:57 PM   
Rafters


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Status: offline 		If producing collecting glasses at the end of a tender cuddle and faux innocently asking them "not to stop crying" doesn't get a laugh, I'm not sure what will :)

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RE: How do you feel about crying? - 4/1/2007 8:20:33 PM   
MySweetSubmssive


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Status: offline 		I think crying is HOT!  It's something I push for.

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RE: How do you feel about crying? - 4/1/2007 8:58:36 PM   
MasterMataeo


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Status: offline 		in general if they cry before the safety word then it is what they craved out of the punishment that they desreved for misbehaveing , tears ,, Real tears is a sing for me to stop, because i feel that is my personal line, , now if the sub /slave has a fetish with them and lines have been discussed beforehand then those are the lines that i will push, so in overveiw i guess you could say i enjoy tears and push for them in punishments and rewards but dont have a fetish for them,


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RE: How do you feel about crying? - 4/1/2007 10:30:18 PM   
DominaSmartass


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Status: offline 		I don't think crying would be my goal in punishment. Just to clarify from above, I am referring to play. If someone were crying from being "punished" by me I think my softer side would take over and stop to make sure everything was ok. Considering I don't do corporal punishment anyway, only s/m play, it's probably a moot point. But IMO punishment would be hopefully a constructive activity and not something to cause trauma.

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RE: How do you feel about crying? - 4/1/2007 10:35:05 PM   
BabyNyla


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Status: offline 		When I Dommed ... mmmmm ... getting the poor lil subbie to cry from pain was such a freaking turn on.  Unfortunately ... Daddy feels the same way and he works me until I cry ... karma can be a bitch, lol.

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RE: How do you feel about crying? - 4/2/2007 1:19:26 AM   
his2pet


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Status: offline 		I like it.  It is hard for my Dom to accept my tears without worry of harm though.  Personally, the switchier I get, the more I crave him to push my limits and bring those tears.  It usually isn't the pain that brings about the tears but the release and catharsis I feel when I am pushed.  So, I ask for punishment at times to help me center myself. 

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RE: How do you feel about crying? - 4/2/2007 2:34:11 AM   
HalloweenWhite


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Status: offline 		Depends on how much she was crying. If a few tears were running down her face but she was otherwise calm, I'd think she was ok and that I may be reaching, or pushing her limits a bit (which is all good), but if it was more than that, I'd be listening out for her to safeword, I'd slow down too to see if that helped.

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RE: How do you feel about crying? - 4/2/2007 3:04:46 AM   
Daurazor


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Status: offline 		As a submissive, particularly recently, I have been desiring to go to that place where I can cry.  It isn't a physical place; mentally is what does it. 

When I topped, I loved it when my submissive was crying.  The intensity of the scene was fabulous.  Then afterwards, during the winddown, being comforting and nurturing was a beautiful and tender thing.  It bound us more tightly than any rope.

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RE: How do you feel about crying? - 4/2/2007 5:55:46 AM   
sillygirl09


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Status: offline 		Mataeo - do you always punish until the safeword is used?  What about during play?  I'm curious because I've never used a safeword, just endured.

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RE: How do you feel about crying? - 4/2/2007 8:02:56 AM   
MasterFireMaam


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Status: offline 		It depends on why they're crying. If it's from catharsis, I feel really good that I helped in that processes. If it's from pain or perhaps fear, it turns me on (that's a new discovery for me).

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RE: How do you feel about crying? - 4/2/2007 10:35:26 AM   
PONYSEEKER


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Status: offline 		I think its pretty damn HOT! 

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RE: How do you feel about crying? - 4/2/2007 12:15:49 PM   
MsKatHouston


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Status: offline 		I agree with Master Fire.  It depends on why they're crying.  I am not the most comfortable person when it comes to tears but when it happens, depending on the situation, I can feel compassionate, turned on, uncomfortable or completely ambivalent. 

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RE: How do you feel about crying? - 4/2/2007 12:47:18 PM   
WilliamWizer


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Status: offline 		If I make cry a person or even if I simply see a person crying I usually stop whatever I'm doing and ask "what's the problem?why are you crying?" and then act depending on his/her answer.
sometimes it's good to cry and sometimes is bad but always when a person cries it's because something big happened and it's always nice to have near somebody that listen to you.

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RE: How do you feel about crying? - 4/2/2007 3:25:53 PM   
liljoy


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may i ask how You know the difference? i mean sometimes with myself i don't even know the difference until afterwards. Of course since i can't really do the cleansing crying accept during a scene all the tears usually turn out to be cathartic
lil_joy

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ORIGINAL: MasterFireMaam

It depends on why they're crying. If it's from catharsis, I feel really good that I helped in that processes. If it's from pain or perhaps fear, it turns me on (that's a new discovery for me).

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RE: How do you feel about crying? - 4/2/2007 5:10:03 PM   
CreativeDominant


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quote:

ORIGINAL: sillygirl09

We have a thread in "ask submissive/slave" do you cry from being whipped?  What do the Masters and Mistresses feel about their subs/slaves crying?


I like tears.  I don't deliberately try to produce them but when they happen...in a good way, like from the pain/pleasure of what is going on or an emotional catharsis that leaves them feeling better in the end....great.  I can also be sadistic enough that I will make them want something, then beg for it until they are crying.  Another hot mode of tears.

When they are crying due to emotional upset and they come to me seeking to be held or cuddled or reassured, I feel the trust that they have within me.  Other types of tears...sad movie, sad song, etc....just make me offer my support whether it be a hug, a smile or a kiss with a whispered "It's O.K.".  If I met a submissive who never cried...and there was no physiological reason, I'll be honest...I'd be a bit leery.  Has life wounded them that much?  Are they that cynical?  Are they that cold that nothing ever touches them deep enough to make them cry?

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RE: How do you feel about crying? - 4/2/2007 6:28:06 PM   
MasterGremlin


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Status: offline 		My Master loves it when I cry.  He will often encourage me to cry when playing and definately goes for the tears during punishment.  For me, there are times I just need to cry and serious play can bring that out.  As for punishment, the tears just come naturally. 
Sincerely,
minxy

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