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RE: How do you feel about crying? - 4/3/2007 8:46:19 AM

junecleaver

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I think it's hot. He's only pushed me close to that point once and he backed off because we were both not in the right frame of mind to take the scene where he wanted to take it.

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RE: How do you feel about crying? - 4/3/2007 9:06:20 AM

RanchMaster

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I like it when a slave cries, most of the time.

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RE: How do you feel about crying? - 4/3/2007 9:18:38 AM

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Oh my lord, are you kidding? Tears are very often the goal! Because I know my girl well enough, and we've discussed the release it gives her, I absolutely adore it when she breaks down crying. It's my cue to push just a little bit harder, to send her completely spinning. And when she cums while crying, I swear to God it seems like she's about to pass out. I almost envy the release, but I assure you it's just as splendid for me to carry her to and throught that point.

And when the tears subside, and she's all curled up in my arms, she has go tto be the most content little kitten you've ever seen.

I love it.

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RE: How do you feel about crying? - 4/3/2007 10:54:19 AM

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for me crying cleans my soul and i feel better afterwards...plus i get off on them in a scene...me crying that is...giggles

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RE: How do you feel about crying? - 4/3/2007 11:38:12 AM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: sillygirl09

We have a thread in "ask submissive/slave" do you cry from being whipped? What do the Masters and Mistresses feel about their subs/slaves crying?

Greetings

At this time, Master only uses a whip on me for severe punishments. During those, crying or whining is not permitted. To do so, brings more punishment.

I wish you well

melissa

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RE: How do you feel about crying? - 4/4/2007 5:38:34 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: sillygirl09
What do the Masters and Mistresses feel about their subs/slaves crying?

It's honest. I love it.

It's important to make a distinction, though. I enjoy my slaves crying when they feel that way. I do not enjoy making my slaves cry. It's quite important for them to understand that.

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RE: How do you feel about crying? - 4/5/2007 2:20:44 AM

aldompdx

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Many forms of expressing all of one's feelings are fundamental to an open hearted relationship.

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RE: How do you feel about crying? - 4/5/2007 3:09:21 AM

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It is a total turn on-

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RE: How do you feel about crying? - 4/5/2007 3:29:02 AM

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I am curious as well. as I have not used a safeword either...

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RE: How do you feel about crying? - 4/5/2007 3:56:34 AM

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Honestly, as a sub, it scares me to cry. Not from crying itself, because I'm not afraid to cry. It scares me because someone I trust with, well, ALOT, would push me that far without discussing it first.

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RE: How do you feel about crying? - 4/5/2007 4:28:55 AM

Elorin

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As a top I have brought two different play partners to tears. One goes to that place repeatedly. We have discussed it, and sometimes she just needs to find a cathartic release, and I happen to be able to bring her to that place. When she starts to cry I always feel very protective, and very proud that she trusts me enough to let go in that way when scening with me. I hold her and comfort her, and if she needs to talk, we talk. Most of the time she knew she had something she needed to let out, and she could not find her tears alone, so I led her there. Once the tears burst, she experiences the emotional release she needed.

The other one was a switch, and happened to be watching M play with his sub at the time. The combination of a sadistic top (me) and watching his girl with someone else just brought about a combination where he broke down. He wanted to continue playing, but since we hadn't discussed tears, I brought him off of the bondage device and cuddled and talked with him. We haven't played since but again I felt very nurturing, comforting, and protective.

The thought of a bottom who wants to endure ~so much~ pain for me that he/she will reach the point of tears from pain rather than using a safeword is VERY hot. Having a bottom or sub who keeps enduring, knowing that I am feeling sadistic, enduring the pain to please me, out of submission to me, despite tears running down their face? YES PLEASE!!

As for anyone who is concerned about being "pushed that far" without prior discussion? There is mutual responsibility there. That is what safewords are for. If you feel you are being pushed farther than you can handle, rather than keep going, cry, and blame the top for pushing too far, use the safeword. Especially since emotions can STRONGLY affect how you experience pain, and the Top might not know how bad it is for you unless you communicate with them.

~E

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RE: How do you feel about crying? - 4/5/2007 8:44:58 PM

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Yeah, you are right on that count. With that Mistress I did not think she would challenge me, push me near that far, so we didn't have a safeword in play. Now we do, and I give my safeword to anyone I play with now.

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RE: How do you feel about crying? - 4/5/2007 9:01:39 PM

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It depends on why they are crying, and what my relation to them is.

As far as my life partner goes, it's a mutual turn-on, although it is also a warning that one is getting close to the edge. I pay very close attention to her body language and apparent state of mind when she is crying. It is also sometimes a reassurance during hard play, severe punishments or aversive conditioning; in these cases, silence can be a very bad sign.

For me, it's a turn-on with others, too, but also a stop sign, unless we know each other very well and have agreed that this is a good thing. I'm not about to put my satisfaction over the personal safety (mental or physical) of a partner.

Tears are related to laughter, in some ways, and crying can be a powerful experience that is desireable in some contexts.

Of course, it makes for very intimate aftercare, too.

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RE: How do you feel about crying? - 4/5/2007 11:19:32 PM

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The reason I posted that in the 'ask a sub/slave' forum was to see if it happened alot in BDSM. But as I have thought about it and everything it seems to me that it brought us closer and that is a way it was cathartic for me.

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RE: How do you feel about crying? - 4/7/2007 6:48:00 AM

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When my submissive cries it's like a catharsis for her. I love it when she cries because that means she is completely open to me on a emotional level that in my experience is truly amazing to witness. Crying also adds to the intensity of the scene and it shows trust and emotional vulnerability. it cannot be forced with her because it would turn into a negative. If I caused her to cry from punishment or for any negative reason that is just not good on so many levels.

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RE: How do you feel about crying? - 4/7/2007 8:17:08 AM

Padriag

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Well I try to avoid doing that in public... oooooh... you mean the submissive crying....

quote:

ORIGINAL: sillygirl09

We have a thread in "ask submissive/slave" do you cry from being whipped? What do the Masters and Mistresses feel about their subs/slaves crying?

In some cases I'd be surprised if she didn't cry. Its not a turn on for me, but neither do I find it objectionable.

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RE: How do you feel about crying? - 4/7/2007 8:21:00 AM

arayofsunshine55

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He loves to lick up my tears. And making someone cry makes me wet. Makes me want to hurt him a bit more. So open to me. So moved by us.

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Is it not most transformative, most earthshaking, to pierce the veils of self-deception and illusion, and crack the eggshell of ignorance, to most intimately encounter oneself? Lama Surya Das

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RE: How do you feel about crying? - 4/7/2007 1:31:13 PM

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I would also say it would have to depend on the situation. If while playing I caused someone to cry, then i'd have to stop and ask why. If they are actually crying through enjoyment, then by all means...i'll continue. As for crying with punishment....ummm, kinda comes with it don't ya think?

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RE: How do you feel about crying? - 4/7/2007 9:18:41 PM

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As a submissive I actually do not mind and if I dare say it..enjoy being brought to tears by my Master..it pushes my limts to a plateau that I would not have experienced otherwise. I have always been an overly emotional being and part of it obviosuly carries over into my submissiveness. I have no shame in it however it still takes quite alot to bring me to that point..but I treasure the time when it arrives.

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RE: How do you feel about crying? - 4/7/2007 9:36:31 PM

N4SDChastity

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Well, I cryed when my pet-rock died, back in '73, but that was the last time, I think...

Hope that helped

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