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WiseCracknSadist -> Talking to your Dom (4/3/2007 6:41:59 AM)

I was wondering what if any rules you had when speaking to your Dom. Even if you were never told to speak to Him or Her a certain way did you yourself decide that you needed to change the way you adress them?

Also to any Doms who might be reading this post. Are you more inclined to let your sub have his or her way if they approach you with the right tone and speak to you a certain way?

I love speaking to subs who understand how to speak to a Dom. There's a beauty and a dance to it. It's quite fun.



sweetnurseBBW -> RE: Talking to your Dom (4/3/2007 6:45:01 AM)

Always be respectful. If I need to talk being nasty is one going to make him defensive and two get me into trouble. I don't have restrictions on my speech as long as I am respectful.



sambamanslilgirl -> RE: Talking to your Dom (4/3/2007 6:48:57 AM)

i don't have any speech restrictions and/or rules when talking to Daddy. i speak to Him as i would with anyone else like a person.



StellaByStarlite -> RE: Talking to your Dom (4/3/2007 7:05:19 AM)

Hello. =)

My owner is less concerned with tone then he is with action. Yes, sometimes I forget myself and get a little snippy, he'll more or less remind me to watch my tone. It's no big deal to him.

It helps that I'm not by nature a very bitchy person, too.

Stella



hisannabelle -> RE: Talking to your Dom (4/3/2007 7:10:04 AM)

greetings wisecracknsadist,

as i mentioned in the thread on restrictions, "please" is no longer an acceptable part of my vocabulary, nor is, 95% of the time, "i don't know." i have only snapped at Him once in the entire time we've been together; that's also something i avoid doing. generally, i speak with respect, and try to let my love for Him show in what i say. i also try to only open my mouth when i have something useful or worthwhile to say, which is difficult for me. He encourages me to talk a lot, though.

annabelle.



Mustardseed -> RE: Talking to your Dom (4/3/2007 7:14:12 AM)

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ORIGINAL: StellaByStarlite

My owner is less concerned with tone then he is with action. Yes, sometimes I forget myself and get a little snippy, he'll more or less remind me to watch my tone. It's no big deal to him.

It helps that I'm not by nature a very bitchy person, too.


That's about where I am with Daddy. I have to be pretty damn upset by something to let my tone slip, and I'm usually quite good about it even when venturing into a conversational minefield. When I do slip, depending on how he's feeling he'll either remind me to watch my tone or suggest that we take a break.



littleone35 -> RE: Talking to your Dom (4/3/2007 7:17:23 AM)

I hane no restrictions on talking with my Master.  If i am being bratty or teasing too much Master will give me ONE warning.  If i don't stop what i am doing then i get displined.  He says most of the time i am HIS good girl.

Matt's littleone



Mercnbeth -> RE: Talking to your Dom (4/3/2007 7:29:18 AM)

as a posession of Master, the words "me, my, mine, I" are no longer appropriate, therefore, this slave strives to eliminate those words from her speech and written thoughts to everyone, especially Master.
 
this slave must always speak to Master in a respectful way--which includes a pleasing tone and no mockery or disdain.
 
recently, Master has instructed this slave to eliminate the word "fuck", and it's derivatives, from her vocabulary... especially at the dinner table.



Aileen68 -> RE: Talking to your Dom (4/3/2007 7:31:16 AM)

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ORIGINAL: Mercnbeth

recently, Master has instructed this slave to eliminate the word "fuck", and it's derivatives, from her vocabulary... especially at the dinner table.



Oh fuck....that would be so hard for me.  It's my favorite word.



OsideGirl -> RE: Talking to your Dom (4/3/2007 7:31:54 AM)

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ORIGINAL: sambamanslilgirl

i don't have any speech restrictions and/or rules when talking to Daddy. i speak to Him as i would with anyone else like a person.


We're the same way. He has no patience for dancing around a subject to fulfill some formality. Reality is that we're a married couple and when it comes to the decisions that effect the rest of lives, we need to be able to speak to each other frankly.



viperess -> RE: Talking to your Dom (4/3/2007 7:33:04 AM)

Greetings,

It would all depend on the cercomstances surrounding what i needed to speak with Him about. If it is something important to me then i will kneel at my Masters feet until being granted permission to speak. If it is something i need to just talk about then i will ask when He has time may we please talk and then i try wording whatever i need to say in a proper and gentle way and  not in a forceful or demanding manner.

Respectfully,



LuckyAlbatross -> RE: Talking to your Dom (4/3/2007 7:35:55 AM)

Honesty is a must- half truths, dancing around, avoiding the issue, all that is not allowed.

We prefer to not fight and go to the yelling, but I'm most often the one who breaks down and lets my emotions take over and gets shrill.

As long as the respect for eachother and the commitment to making things work is there, it seems to be fine.



drawntothedark -> RE: Talking to your Dom (4/3/2007 8:43:57 AM)

I always try to be respectful. We have a very playful relationship and neither one of us takes most things too seriously. So I can be goofy or silly or down right bratty if I want to be. However, there are times when I know that I should not be. As long as I am respectful and mindful of my place than it's excepted.



MasterFireMaam -> RE: Talking to your Dom (4/3/2007 9:03:02 AM)

I have speaking protocols. I like "Ma'am" used rather like the military. I also have a specific way to end conversations. That ending feeds me as a Master.

Master Fire



junecleaver -> RE: Talking to your Dom (4/3/2007 9:03:24 AM)

Well...I am pretty sure that if I demanded something, I wouldn't get it for being bratty.  If I asked respectfully, he would be more inclined to say yes. It is also a huge turn on for him to be spoken to respectfully.  He loves to get on my nerves/be annoying and watch me struggle to remain respectful.



MsKatHouston -> RE: Talking to your Dom (4/3/2007 9:13:58 AM)

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Also to any Doms who might be reading this post. Are you more inclined to let your sub have his or her way if they approach you with the right tone and speak to you a certain way?


Absolutely.  I may have been inclined to grant whatever regardless but if it is presented to me in a manner I deem disrespectful, it's not going to happen.

I have no speech or time restrictions for talking unless we are in a high protocol situation.  Then I have rituals, methods of address, etc.  But for every day life, the only rules I have is that he must communicate something to me if he needs to for whatever reason...no keeping things secret or bottled up and that he must be honest with me.



gypsygrl -> RE: Talking to your Dom (4/3/2007 9:14:03 AM)

Thats what I was thinking.  I chuckled when I read that.



blushingflower -> RE: Talking to your Dom (4/3/2007 9:15:23 AM)

I'm not allowed to whine, and he (understandably), doesn't appreciate it when I use what he calls my "dumb-ass voice", which is the tone that implies that I think the person I'm speaking to is a moron.  I don't ever do either of those things on purpose, of course.  Those are my only "speech restrictions"



ownedgirlie -> RE: Talking to your Dom (4/3/2007 9:21:00 AM)

Be respectful and get to the point.  :)



jauntyone -> RE: Talking to your Dom (4/3/2007 9:26:25 AM)

Greetings
 
I am always respectful when speaking to Master. One rule we have is that I do not speak unless spoken to; but, if I have an issue that is extremely important, I am to ask permission to bring it up. If permission is given, I am allowed to speak freely, as long as I remain respectful.
 
I wish you well
 
melissa
 
edited for spelling



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