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confused - 4/3/2007 2:38:03 PM   
passionateBBs


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Status: offline 		i am putting this topic in this group and another in the ask a sub/slave group as well...how does one deal with the pressure from a Master who says that one will be His....how does one let Him know that it isn't what they are looking for, being respectful of course....(of course it has been explained that the distance is too great) but that does not stop Him from pressuring....i don't know what more to say...if there is any Masters/Sirs out there that have an idea oh how to handle this, please...
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RE: confused - 4/3/2007 2:43:19 PM   
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Status: offline 		Ignore and if that fails block, you have made your feelings known if he cant respect that or you then you owe him no repsect eather.


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RE: confused - 4/3/2007 2:44:19 PM   
mstrjx


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Status: offline 		Since there isn't any sort of relationship to 'protect' (it would seem), the direct approach would have to suffice.

'Sorry, but you can't 'have' what's not being offered to you to 'take'.'  I can claim an orange off a tree, or a box of cereal from the supermarket, but they don't put up much resistance.  It sounds like you're not quite that simple.  (Not that that's a bad thing.)  Those other things don't have opinions of their own, and you do.

You can couch NO in any language you wish, but you ought to find a way to get your point across.

'Claiming' (which is one way of looking at it) should be mutual.  One in, one out, doesn't work so well.

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RE: confused - 4/3/2007 2:47:43 PM   
PONYSEEKER


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Status: offline 		Be direct!!!   If he wont listen to you now then he certainly would not even if the distance gap could be closed.

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RE: confused - 4/3/2007 2:50:27 PM   
Aileen68


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Status: offline 		Delete his message and turn off your computer...after cyber laughing in his face.
I'm assuming that you communicate online.  If it's phone...don't take his calls and hang up if you do.

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RE: confused - 4/3/2007 2:50:53 PM   
passionateBBs


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Status: offline 		thank Yyou so very much...i have tried the direct apporach....but keep getting reasons why i should be submitting, even told that i could be His while i search for something rl....

it just doesn't sound right to me...

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RE: confused - 4/3/2007 2:57:49 PM   
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Status: offline 		If he can't take no in an email, chances are he'd not take a not elsewhere. Simply ignore/block him.

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RE: confused - 4/3/2007 3:25:22 PM   
passionateBBs


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Status: offline 		thank You Masters...i have done just that, put Him on ignore...but that doesn't stop me from feeling badly.

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RE: confused - 4/3/2007 4:00:51 PM   
mstrjx


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thank You Masters...i have done just that, put Him on ignore...but that doesn't stop me from feeling badly.


Badly about 'what', exactly?  That he pushed you?  That would be his problem.  That you are cutting him off?  That would be self-preservation.

Certainly there could be more to the original post than what you say.  We understand that there is 'distance', which is a factor (for some).  How long has this conversation of sorts been going on?  What gave him the impression that you were prepared to make this choice?

Jeff

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RE: confused - 4/3/2007 5:41:29 PM   
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Status: offline 		Tell them clearly and plainely ( not in third person speak). If they do not hear it ignore them.

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RE: confused - 4/3/2007 5:50:30 PM   
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Status: offline 		like this....>....or this...>.....or this.....>

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RE: confused - 4/3/2007 6:02:01 PM   
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quote:

but that doesn't stop me from feeling badly.


You are giving a cyber stranger the power to make you feel badly? 



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RE: confused - 4/3/2007 6:08:09 PM   
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quote:

ORIGINAL: passionateBBs

thank Yyou so very much...i have tried the direct apporach....but keep getting reasons why i should be submitting, even told that i could be His while i search for something rl....

it just doesn't sound right to me...


I suspect you used the polite approach.... use the direct approach

"LICK MY DIRTY ASS and Maybe I will submit to you... Or maybe I will shit on you""

try that... it should work... if it doesn't then sucks to me you... but you snagged yourself a submissive

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RE: confused - 4/3/2007 6:13:33 PM   
OsideGirl


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Status: offline 		Good God. This person has been rude to you and violated the "No means No" caveat.

Why in the world should you feel bad? I would have lit him up for his behavior. It was unacceptable.

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RE: confused - 4/3/2007 6:13:59 PM   
Totalmaster4you


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Status: offline 		Do Not feel badly passionateBBs. you just had a narrow escape from a fake dom. this is the kind of behavior they exhibit. Always pushing, always rushing. you did good so you didn't offend somebody worth wasting one moment caring about.

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RE: confused - 4/3/2007 6:59:51 PM   
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ORIGINAL: passionateBBs

thank You Masters...i have done just that, put Him on ignore...but that doesn't stop me from feeling badly.


Oh don't worry, that twinge will go away with practice.  And you'll likely get aplenty 'round here.  Aileen's right, just a click and a hearty laugh and you'll be feeling better in no time!

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RE: confused - 4/3/2007 7:24:27 PM   
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RE: confused - 4/3/2007 7:29:33 PM   
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Status: offline 		Honey,

Block him and keep it movin'...and when he writes you again from a different screenname, block him again. It's fine to want to keep a sense of yourself, ie: wanting to maintain yourself as a polite person...Unfortunately, sometimes the behavior of others simply earns a loud and clear, "get lost!!"

Be safe, not sorry.

MNN

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RE: confused - 4/3/2007 7:36:43 PM   
maybemaybenot


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Status: offline 		If you recieved a phone call from a stranger who had the wrong number, and he began demanding you meet him for lunch, would you feel badly?
Probably not. Apply the same principle.

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RE: confused - 4/3/2007 9:08:51 PM   
Slavetrainer2007


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quote:

ORIGINAL: passionateBBs

thank You Masters...i have done just that, put Him on ignore...but that doesn't stop me from feeling badly.


That was the smart thing to do and dont feel bad. Even if he had a dominate personality, he  sounds like he may need some time to find himself. Or , as was pointed out, he is just a fake.

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