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RE: Finding little things - 4/15/2007 9:11:55 PM

BeachMystress

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If a man actually has a small penis, I feel that humiliation of it is actually psychological damage. Even if they want it, I will not play into something that may do permanent psychological damage any more than I'd do a permanent physical harm. When I started confronting some of the men who wrote to me wanting small penis humiliation, I was surprised to find out that they really had average size cocks, but wished to be treated as if it were still inadequate. I'm fine with humiliation of those men, because they know deep down that their penis is average.

I have met men with extremely small penises. The smallest one was an "innie." He was a sub that came along to watch his Domme and myself play with my sub. She had him get naked to humiliate him while we played. The sub was overweight and his penis must have been about 2 inches long. Because his body stuck out past two inches, he had a hole where the penis "lived" with a pair of small balls dangling underneath. Even when fully hard, you couldn't see anything unless you dug for it. There was copious precum oozing from the hole. It was one of the most bizarre sights I'd ever seen. I couldn't believe it when his Domme started doing small dick humiliation with him in front of me. I was appalled and felt awful for the man. He can't help the size of his penis and I do not feel it made him less of a man. But to be honest, I'd have never kept him as a sub and I'd never date him.

Yes, I have a size preference. I prefer my partner to have a larger than 7 inch penis. That doesn't mean I would never have a sub or date (when single) a male with a shorter penis, it just means I am happier with a man who is larger. I have dated men with smaller at times, but those men had something extra special to offer in some other way. I will say that when I fell in love with my now husband, it wouldn't have mattered if he has a three inch dick. (Luckily, he is quite well endowed.) And before you start getting up in arms because I have a preference as to the size of a man's cock, let me say I support other dating preferences as well. I am a BBW and am very aware that not all men are attracted to such. I support that and do not feel it makes them a bad person because they aren't turned on by women of size. Preferences and sexuality are funny things. We can't always help them. As long as someone isn't trying to be hurtful or rude, leave them their preferences and find someone with whom you mesh.

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RE: Finding little things - 4/15/2007 9:15:07 PM

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LOL you must have met my Ex husband.

Ouch!!

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RE: Finding little things - 4/19/2007 10:15:35 PM

HutchGarahl

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ORIGINAL: BeachMystress
. The smallest one was an "innie." He was a sub that came along to watch his Domme and myself play with my sub. She had him get naked to humiliate him while we played. The sub was overweight and his penis must have been about 2 inches long. Because his body stuck out past two inches, he had a hole where the penis "lived" with a pair of small balls dangling underneath. Even when fully hard, you couldn't see anything unless you dug for it. There was copious precum oozing from the hole. It was one of the most bizarre sights I'd ever seen.

Oh how bizzarre! I had a sub like that...the one I married. Now if that ain't scary. But i'm with you....it's not right to humilate one with such a small apperatus. It's not like they asked for a small penis.

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RE: Finding little things - 4/20/2007 9:59:49 AM

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I dated a lovely, intelligent, articulate vanilla male friend ... who turned out to have the condition of "micropenis". His was about 2" when fully erect. He confessed that it was small fairly early on ... once we started getting into passionate kissing and before the real touchy-feely stage! It truly didn't phase me, my only concern was whether it "worked" as in could cum! Apparently it worked fine at home, but had performance anxiety in public. I was so willing to stick with him and be patient ... he was one of the most sensual men I've ever been with (and actually, looking back, he had a whole lot of sub in him too!) ... but it was all too stressful to him and after about 10 months, he wanted out of the relationship. I was devastated, I felt I had failed him in some way. I begged him to stay overnight as I didn't feel either of us should be alone ... nor that he should drive home across town obviously distressed. So we lay together and snuggled. Next morning as we showered together he made 2 statements that I will never ever forget, so deeply did they drive into my heart. "At least you didn't laugh at me, not like the other girls" and "I don't think I'll ever have the courage to try again for another girlfriend. If I couldn't make it with you, as kind and loving as you've been, I don't think I'll ever make it with anyone." We were both mid-30s at the time. Here I am 15 years later, having subsequently met another, married him and now separated from him, discovered bdsm, found My Domme and my sub sides, and found my Master (who at 6'4" and a big "buddha-tummy" isn't overly well endowed at 4". He reckons God has a warped sense of humour! I don't care as He satisfies me wonderfully, yes W/we've both expressed the desire for an extra inch but only because that would give U/us a bit more versatility in terms of positions that are practical and comfortable). Still looking for a slave! (And I don't much care what size he is either). My dear friend has been true to his word, not had another girlfriend, devotedly cared for his mother until she died, now lives alone with a dog for company. A terrible waste of a man who had so much to offer!

So, the moral of the story is: Never, ever would I humiliate anyone for having a small penis! No matter if he begged Me to ... in fact, even especially if he begged Me to! I've seen firsthand the damage it can do. Just as I wouldn't humiliate someone for being too fat (or too thin) ... or having too big a penis for that matter! For Me the whole concept of humiliation play is edge play (much more so than fireplay when appropriate techniques are used!) ... and I need to be very sure what the sub perceives and responds to as humiliation, whether I feel overall it will be edifying, and what possible "buttons" I might be pressing. I am more inclined to use humiliating situations ... rather than personal humiliation or degradation. Amongst anything else, I wouldn't want to damage that which is Mine.

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RE: Finding little things - 5/4/2007 11:18:30 PM

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Thank you for your responses.Although it appears to me that most females(vanilla or kink) to a degree, humiliate men, looking at other threads on this site and others .It does appear that females who describe themselves as dominant have a greater awareness of the pyschological affects that their actions may cause.Although i believe a male who was very small and who wanted small cock humiliation should not be refused,i believe this might have a positive effect on a few.Thank you for your replys.

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RE: Finding little things - 5/4/2007 11:56:47 PM

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As far as positive effects go, and I say this as someone who has only experienced humiliation in the real world and not in the bedroom, just "getting it out there" has in someways improved my self image. It sounds strange, so I'll explain. As an American male from the midwest you grow up in a "truck culture" where you are conditioned to want the biggest cheeseburger and the biggest blond boobies out there. Across the board you know that there is nothing worse than being small, and what's the worst that can happen? You never answer that question and you lie to your self that you're big, or even normal...when you know deep down you're not. I say this is a positive thing to admit to yourself. I think the delusion of ones size causes insecurities ("are you looking at my girl?") and compensations (Hummers anyone?) that are more expensive and emberessing then having a puny pecker ever could be.
It could be just me, but i like it when a woman admits I'm small and still is my friend or lover. It tells me she won't lie to me and it's not the end of the world and that I'm very lucky to have met someone as cool as her. The idea that women only care about size only illustrates a one dimensional view of women, and their motivations for liking or loving someone.

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RE: Finding little things - 5/5/2007 6:54:30 AM

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It depends on what the profile maker is looking for.

If they are looking for a relationship that is more than sex, it can be brought up later.

If they're only looking for sex, than the size/compatibility of their genitals is much more important and should be up front.

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