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sublizzie -> submitting to same gender Dom/mes too (4/5/2007 9:33:35 PM)
On one of the threads I was reading there was a mention that someone who submitted to a Dominant who was the same gender meant the submissive was bi-sexual. Sexually I am very heterosexual. To be sexual with a woman is not something I can do. But I will submit to a female Dominant in non-sexual ways and enjoy the experience. I thought it might be interesting to explore how other people dealt with this. What are some of your thoughts?

spanklette -> RE: submitting to same gender Dom/mes too (4/5/2007 9:51:03 PM)
I can't answer with experience about being dominated by a same-sex Dominant, but for a few years I was collared to a Dominant with almost no sexual interaction. So, no, you wouldn't have to be bi-sexual, only submissive. It depends on the nature of the dynamic, though.

LeatherBentOne -> RE: submitting to same gender Dom/mes too (4/6/2007 4:58:16 AM)
Subs who serve a same-sex Dominant arent necessarily bi-sexual. They might be gay or lesbians also.

IrishMist -> RE: submitting to same gender Dom/mes too (4/6/2007 5:20:08 AM)
I have never had a female play partner. The idea has no appeal.

MissyRane -> RE: submitting to same gender Dom/mes too (4/6/2007 5:25:28 AM)
Not all dominant submissive relationships are based on sex so it's well possible to be straight and serve a dominant of the same sex.

sleazybutterfly -> RE: submitting to same gender Dom/mes too (4/6/2007 5:37:35 AM)
I am bisexual, but I don't get anything out of being dominated by someone of the same sex. I have never fully figured out why this is, but I have felt this way since I started in all of this. I think for me it's best having women on equal footing (so to speak) rather than above me.

oceangem -> RE: submitting to same gender Dom/mes too (4/6/2007 5:40:11 AM)
Just last weekend at a dungeon party i was topped by a FemDom it was great! Would i do it again...sure would.

simply4You -> RE: submitting to same gender Dom/mes too (4/6/2007 6:23:52 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: sublizzie On one of the threads I was reading there was a mention that someone who submitted to a Dominant who was the same gender meant the submissive was bi-sexual. Sexually I am very heterosexual. To be sexual with a woman is not something I can do. But I will submit to a female Dominant in non-sexual ways and enjoy the experience. I thought it might be interesting to explore how other people dealt with this. What are some of your thoughts? Good morning sublizzie, i was with a Domme and while it was sensual it was non-sexual. That was one of Her hard limits coming into me training under Her, one that i readily agreed to as well. It wasn't about sex ... it was about D/s, rituals and protocols in Her home. Serving Her in whatever way She saw fit. i was more nervous going to Her home the first time, that i physically got sick twice before getting there <laughing>. When i first started looking, i honestly never thought i would or even could be with a female Dominant, but i found She actually raised the bar, so to speak, for any male Dominant who may come along ... simply_me

sweetnurseBBW -> RE: submitting to same gender Dom/mes too (4/6/2007 6:43:23 AM)
Not all service is sexual so being bi wouldn't have anything to do with it. Even if someone is straight serving the same sex wouldn't makes someone bi. Being bi isn't just about being with the same sex its about a desire to be with both.

MasterFireMaam -> RE: submitting to same gender Dom/mes too (4/6/2007 7:36:17 AM)
Most people find that sex is THE focus of this lifestyle, so they'd naturally find that same sex Ds partners would be non-het. We know, however, that service doesn't HAVE to be sexual. Thus, service doesn't necessarily have to be dependent on sexual orientation. All of the men I'd truly serve are gay, for example. Sex isn't an option even. Master Fire

BayouSub -> RE: submitting to same gender Dom/mes too (4/6/2007 7:41:09 AM)
I am a submissive male. For most of my life, my submission was directed exclusively to women. Then I came in contact with a very dominant man in my vanilla life. Within a very short time, he seemed to sense my submissiveness and started treating me, in subtle ways, as a subordinate. I fell right into line and when he told me to "do this" I did it and when he told me to "get this" I got it. The more I submitted, the more he dominated me. Nothing overt, mind you, just an unspoken understanding between us that he was the boss. I enjoyed it and I’m sure he did too. I realized then that a man was able to put me into the same type of subspace as a dominant woman. This is not the case with every man or even most men but I certainly enjoy submitting to that select few of very dominant men. I don’t have an attraction for men in general but I am very attracted to these men. Is this sexual? Definitely. Does that mean it must involve sex? Absolutely not. Most of the men I talking about are straight or fairly straight which also describes me. Just because someone only has sex with the opposite gender does not preclude the enjoyment of dominating or being dominated by the same gender.

sambamanslilgirl -> RE: submitting to same gender Dom/mes too (4/6/2007 7:42:28 AM)
i have no desire in serving a straight/bi Domme. i have nothing against them merely doesn't suit my interest.

DiurnalVampire -> RE: submitting to same gender Dom/mes too (4/6/2007 7:44:36 AM)
Ive had straight female subs, and we were never more sexually involved than a kiss on the lips when we said hello or goodbye. Hardly what I would consider being bi. I have also had gay male subs. Nothing sexual there, either. For some the experience can be enjoyableeven if there isnt sexual connections. For others the sex is the focus of the control. In that case, without the sexual interest even if there is no actual sexual act.... it wont work. My 2 semi sleepy cents DV

MistressDiane -> RE: submitting to same gender Dom/mes too (4/6/2007 7:58:16 AM)
fast reply I've had many that have served in a non sexual way, male and female. My focus isn't sex and most find it liberating that there is no sexual ~pressure~ or expectations, especially females who don't consider themselves bisexual. Ordinarily they would never consider serving another female because of the sexual element they felt may be involved but once you take that away they thoroughly enjoyed the experience, found we connected on a level they never thought possible and will forever cherish our time together.

sillygirl09 -> RE: submitting to same gender Dom/mes too (4/6/2007 5:45:41 PM)
I would love to be topped by a woman just to experience it, with or without the sex, but I think I'd prefer with.

jauntyone -> RE: submitting to same gender Dom/mes too (4/6/2007 6:21:04 PM)
Greetings I have no bisexual feelings or tendencies at this juncture in my life. However, if Master wished for me to be used by a woman; in any way; I would do so quite happily and eagerly. I wish you well melissa

iwearpanties -> RE: submitting to same gender Dom/mes too (4/7/2007 4:36:23 AM)
as a submissive male i have been with Mitresses but i have long wanted too feel the power of a Male DOM ......i will admittt

subrob1967 -> RE: submitting to same gender Dom/mes too (4/7/2007 4:54:34 AM)
No, I could never submit to another male in a D/s or BDSM senario, it's just not who I am.

swtnsparkling -> RE: submitting to same gender Dom/mes too (4/7/2007 5:10:20 AM)
My Last D/s relationship my Dom was Female and not at all BI - and yet I am. It was a very rewarding/fullfilling relationship (my family adore her) The only reason it ended was She moved accross the country

dawntreader -> RE: submitting to same gender Dom/mes too (4/7/2007 9:24:25 AM)
Interesting thread... When i first embraced my submissive nature, the sexual component was my initial drive...infact i even listed myself as a "bedroom submissive". However, as my journey has progressed, i have linked my submission to a deeper center; service has become more important to me as the phrases "well done, girl" and " I am pleased" have a greater effect on me. That being said, i feel submitting service wise is non gender based for me and both Dom and Domme would recieve 100% of myself in service. Sexually, well that is always an adventure and there is so much that i have not experienced yet - i would hate to limit myself on a journey of self-exploration :-) j

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