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TantricOne -> Really looking or just there? (4/6/2007 10:30:35 AM)
Was wondering what percentage of subs on here are truly looking, or just like to play cybertag(if there's a reply at all)? I've met a few in person, just seems that the majority are looking for a perfect dominant when such a thing doesn't exist. In my experience, one of maybe every twenty even bothers to reply, nevermind get real. There's no such thing as a perfect sub either, but at least I reply :)

onestandingstill -> RE: Really looking or just there? (4/6/2007 10:38:50 AM)
While it's indeed frustrating to have your messages ignored you have to look at it much like telemarketing calls. You'll have to work the laws of numbers, not be discouraged by rudeness and all the no's and just keep plugging away with your eyes on the prize or leave it alone. suzanne

missturbation -> RE: Really looking or just there? (4/6/2007 10:40:04 AM)
Was wondering what percentage of subs on here are truly looking, I'm not looking at present as i am involved in a relationship. I've met a few in person, just seems that the majority are looking for a perfect dominant when such a thing doesn't exist. Maybe there is a perfect for them!! Who are you to say there perfect dom isn't out there? In my experience, one of maybe every twenty even bothers to reply, nevermind get real. Now we are getting to your real whinge. Ok so its rude not to reply blah blah blah but there is no law to say we have to either. There's no such thing as a perfect sub either, but at least I reply :) Again your not perfect may be someone else perfect.

Suleiman -> RE: Really looking or just there? (4/6/2007 10:42:37 AM)
First thing to keep in mind, hon, is that a lot of female submissives get flooded with email every day. They just can't reply to them all, even with the handy insta-reply buttons. As to searching for the "perfect" whatever, they may not exist, but knowing what you are really looking for helps a lot with the winnowing process. Some folks are not comfortable with dishing out direct rejection, especially if they self-identify as submissive, which also leads to a lot of unsent Email. Finally, yes there are a lot of folks who are just here to play some games, get a little ego boost by sucking up attention, and who have no intention of meeting face to face. I'm afraid that's just life. Best advice I can offer is not to wait for a reply, but allow yourself to be pleasantly surprised when you get one any way. Be cool, hang out on the message boards, and let the regulars get a better idea of who you are - folks will start coming out of the woodwork once your personality gets a chance to come out and shine. It may take a while before you actually find someone, but it can and will happen. Until then, just hang out. ~S

sambamanslilgirl -> RE: Really looking or just there? (4/6/2007 10:45:24 AM)
i've received no responses from Doms before though they have received and read my messages to them. i suppose my profile would scare them away because i'm with Daddy however i'm allowed to meet and date (with His prior approval). oh well, that's their lost not mine since i've caught the interest of 2 from here.

mstrjx -> RE: Really looking or just there? (4/6/2007 10:58:22 AM)
'On here' can mean a lot of things. There's the 'profile' side, for lack of a better expression; then there's the message boards. Many people on the boards are here just for that. They have partners or in an exploratory phase in their minds, such that they aren't quite ready for a partner. Even when it does get to the point of 'hunting' (or being 'hunted' - my favorite pastime), people set whatever standards for whatever reason. Usually a little experience under your belt, especially as a submissive, means that you require a certain level of experience from a dominant. For my part specifically, it's all unicorns and rainbows. Wouldn't it be nice to wake up every morning thinking you were the luckiest person you could possibly be? You would think that were improbable, wouldn't you? Jeff

defiantbadgirl -> RE: Really looking or just there? (4/6/2007 11:12:35 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: TantricOne Was wondering what percentage of subs on here are truly looking, or just like to play cybertag(if there's a reply at all)? I'm really looking, just keep running into alot of Doms between 25 and 35 that are married and/or poly or are just looking for casual play partners. Cyber wanking is a huge turn off. I've met a few in person, just seems that the majority are looking for a perfect dominant when such a thing doesn't exist. My standards are as follows: 1. Must be employed. 2. Must have own transportation. 3. Must have all hair and front teeth. Not all of us are that picky. In my experience, one of maybe every twenty even bothers to reply, nevermind get real. There's no such thing as a perfect sub either, but at least I reply :) It seems like a waste of time to reply to Doms from other states when I can't re-locate and Doms that are old enough to be my father, which I would have nothing in common with. I figure it's better not to reply than to hurt their feelings.

AquaticSub -> RE: Really looking or just there? (4/6/2007 11:12:43 AM)
I'm not looking. I'm here for the forums.

GeekyGirl -> RE: Really looking or just there? (4/6/2007 11:12:56 AM)
Was wondering what percentage of subs on here are truly looking, or just like to play cybertag(if there's a reply at all)? Well I'm not into cyber anything. Strictly looking for something real time. Yes, I am truly looking, however, looking for a partner is not the sole focus of my life. I've met a few in person, just seems that the majority are looking for a perfect dominant when such a thing doesn't exist. I'm not looking for a perfect dominant but I'm looking for the perfect dominant for ME. Somewhere out there is a person who is just perfect for GeekyGirl! In my experience, one of maybe every twenty even bothers to reply, nevermind get real. There's no such thing as a perfect sub either, but at least I reply :) I don't reply to the majority of my emails because most of them don't meet the criteria spelled out in my profile. I figure if you can't be polite enough to read my profile then I can't be polite enough to respond. As for getting real, I've been contacted by literally hundreds of people on this site and only one met my criteria well enough to go on a first date..by date number two, I realized he wasn't what I was looking for. Such is life. Yes, I am looking for a partner, but I am looking for a partner who is perfect for me. I'm 24yrs old...I've got my whole life ahead of me. I see no reason to settle at this point. If I can't find Mr. Perfect, I'll just be alone. I happen to enjoy my own company quite a bit!

SquirtMistress -> RE: Really looking or just there? (4/6/2007 11:21:30 AM)
I like my sub to be looking for "US". So he is looking, and not looking all at the same time. Does this make sense? I would like for us both to agree on a "third" M or F, we want our prospect to catch both of our eyes, and its tough, theres a lot of names, and profiles and such, After a while things run together. We have yet to find anyone, and are happy where we are at, but maybe... just maybe there will be a "perfect" one for us.[;)]

stef -> RE: Really looking or just there? (4/6/2007 11:25:07 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: TantricOne Was wondering what percentage of subs on here are truly looking, or just like to play cybertag(if there's a reply at all)? I've met a few in person, just seems that the majority are looking for a perfect dominant when such a thing doesn't exist. In my experience, one of maybe every twenty even bothers to reply, nevermind get real. There's no such thing as a perfect sub either, but at least I reply :) Why didn't you just continue your previous whine instead of starting a new thread? ~stef

MariaB -> RE: Really looking or just there? (4/6/2007 1:38:27 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: TantricOne Was wondering what percentage of subs on here are truly looking, or just like to play cybertag(if there's a reply at all)? I've met a few in person, just seems that the majority are looking for a perfect dominant when such a thing doesn't exist. In my experience, one of maybe every twenty even bothers to reply, nevermind get real. There's no such thing as a perfect sub either, but at least I reply :) You sound a little bitter TantricOne. Some subs are looking and some are not. You have met a few but they obviously didnt work out because they were looking for the perfect dominant. In other words you and them did not work out but thats not to say that they can not go on to meet who they would consider to be the perfect Dom (he just happens not to be you) and you going on to meet 'your perfect sub', though obviously in your mind there is no such thing! You must have a mindset of what would be your perfect sub and yet if you actually believe that your ideal does not exist then what hope have you got?

MstrssPassion -> RE: Really looking or just there? (4/6/2007 2:12:07 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: stef quote: ORIGINAL: TantricOne Was wondering what percentage of subs on here are truly looking, or just like to play cybertag(if there's a reply at all)? I've met a few in person, just seems that the majority are looking for a perfect dominant when such a thing doesn't exist. In my experience, one of maybe every twenty even bothers to reply, nevermind get real. There's no such thing as a perfect sub either, but at least I reply :) Why didn't you just continue your previous whine instead of starting a new thread? ~stef [sm=applause.gif] now a little music to accentuate the alto chorus [sm=boohoo.gif]

MissyRane -> RE: Really looking or just there? (4/6/2007 2:13:04 PM)
I'm here for the forums...I think[;)]

whisperedsighs -> RE: Really looking or just there? (4/6/2007 2:26:42 PM)
Reading your profile would lead any sub to think that you are looking for instant meet up and relationship. Your profile also implies, ( in my opinion ), "don't waste my time", so by not answering your email, maybe they just don't want to waste their time. You say you won't play phone tag or internet tag, but I know for a fact that many subs use the time spent in email/IM conversations, and phone conversations to get to know someone a little before meeting them in person. Perhaps you should revamp your profile a little. I know the first thing I do when I get an email is look at the person's profile, if they are not a match, depending on how many I have I may or may not answer.

spanklette -> RE: Really looking or just there? (4/6/2007 3:59:46 PM)
I liken the "search" to sending out messages in a bottle. Some will be found, others won't. Some will be understood and, again, other's won't. For me...I have a kind of "whatever" attitude about the other side. I've met some awesome people, but for every awesome person there are 10 HNG's standing in line behind them. It's the internet, and I expect to get back exactly what I've paid for this site...

arayofsunshine55 -> RE: Really looking or just there? (4/6/2007 4:35:15 PM)
The only emails which get no response from me, and mind you those are 95% of the emails I get, are the one liners and others which demonstrate the person did not read my profile and is doing net fishing. You got to be pretty creative to catch my attention while net fishing. I've got a Daddy so I know what I desrie exists. :) but not many are up for the task. It's really OK. Reality is that most of us are really not compatible. This is not a whole lot to have in common IMO.

KnightofMists -> RE: Really looking or just there? (4/6/2007 5:01:16 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: TantricOne Was wondering what percentage of subs on here are truly looking, or just like to play cybertag(if there's a reply at all)? I've met a few in person, just seems that the majority are looking for a perfect dominant when such a thing doesn't exist. In my experience, one of maybe every twenty even bothers to reply, nevermind get real. There's no such thing as a perfect sub either, but at least I reply :) mmmmmm do you send a message to each an every person that sends you junk mail in you mail box at home. You know all those flyers and advertisements shows all the good they have... ? Why not? Those people took time to make those flyers and spent money to get it sent to your house. How rude of you not to respond to each and every one of them. Gosh just a simple "Thank You.. but no thanks" Interesting thing.. when a flyer comes my way and strikes my interest... I take a closer look.. and might even go to the store.... but the rest.. just get tossed.... So I guess you tired of getting the toss?

patina -> RE: Really looking or just there? (4/6/2007 6:10:36 PM)
As i was taught manners i have answered all but a few and those were due to illness. I even answered the disgustig one liners asking what size i was. Granted i told them off or rather told them they were crude, little boys that needed to go home to mommy and grow up before they started talking to grown women. I check the profile of all who send me messages. I have yet to met a honest Dom. all so far have been players, fakes, or wanna be. I feel like giving up but i keep hoping that some day we will meet if i just keep looking, learning, and growing. patina

sillygirl09 -> RE: Really looking or just there? (4/6/2007 6:42:39 PM)
I am truly looking. I also do answer every email if only to say no thanks, however if I've done that and they email me again then they get no response.

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