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spankmepink11 -> Submissive's orgasms....priority? (4/7/2007 7:08:55 AM)
The blow job thread got me thinking of this topic. I placed it in general BDSM so that all feel free to answer. For the dominant of both genders. How do you feel about your submissive partners's orgasms. Is it a priority? A non issue? For the submissives, how important is your own need for orgasm? Priority?...Non issue? As a submissive female, i find that my partners orgasm is a major contributing factor in my own orgasms, and most dominant men i have been involved with have enjoyed providing me with many. I'm a very happy person when i am enjoying frequent orgasms, so i don't think i could be involved with a dominant who did not enjoy and encourage them as well. Please don't take this as a blanket statement, or a mass generalization, but in my experience, which is not vast, male dominants seem more inclined to insure or encourage a submissives orgasms than their female counterparts. I won't deny that my interactions with dominant females is limited, so my perception could be slightly skewed.

SimplyMichael -> RE: Submissive's orgasms....priority? (4/7/2007 7:16:09 AM)
I make damn sure a woman knows I can make her cum as much as her best lovers ever had or better. THEN I start fucking with her head and deciding when and where she can cum.

perderla -> RE: Submissive's orgasms....priority? (4/7/2007 7:20:25 AM)
mmm, yes, i am also a very happy person when coming frequently, but especially at the hands of a dom[me]...vanilla partners are always surprised by the intensity of sex for me, and because i crave it so much, forcibly withholding my orgasm is both mentally & physically amazing- IMO nothing quite like that frustration! but should a dom[me] leave me to my own devices after satisfying her, i'd be happy with that too, hehe.

BeatMeDaily -> RE: Submissive's orgasms....priority? (4/7/2007 7:24:59 AM)
I'm not only interested in bondage, pain and submission. I find this lifestyle to be a sexual choice also. Sex does not have to be a part of EVERY scene, but should be a part of your D/s life sometime. At least in mine, to each their own ..

ArtificerOfKink -> RE: Submissive's orgasms....priority? (4/7/2007 7:27:17 AM)
I love to watch a girl cum and I love it more when she cums hard. So yeah, they're important to me by virtue of the fact that it pleases me. I also like to tease, make her go without for a time and make her a horney mess. Her orgasm is another tool I use but it's also something I consider to be important to her and therefore important to me.

mixielicous -> RE: Submissive's orgasms....priority? (4/7/2007 7:27:38 AM)
FAST REPLY, I AM REQUIRED TO DO THIS ON MY OWN [ooh sorry caps] regularly, to keep up a good mood. i average one from Him, about once a week, but sometimes more often when He has the time - He loves to fuck me after a big O

OhBeMyMind -> RE: Submissive's orgasms....priority? (4/7/2007 7:34:11 AM)
My Daddy encourages me, and I am thrilled that he is this way [:)]......but it is at his discretion. I think his pleasure and orgasm is a contributing factor to the intensity of my own.

steviemichael -> RE: Submissive's orgasms....priority? (4/7/2007 7:43:41 AM)
quote: I make damn sure a woman knows I can make her cum as much as her best lovers ever had or better. THEN I start fucking with her head and deciding when and where she can cum. since when is the quality of a Master on wether his peformance he is able too make a sub cum? maybe their are those subs out there measure Master on that 1 min sexual experience orgasm shugs.

Euthanatos -> RE: Submissive's orgasms....priority? (4/7/2007 7:48:38 AM)
From what I'm reading here, maybe I'm a little strange. A submissive's orgasms aren't a priority, but they do, generally, rank higher on the priority scale than my own. I can be completely content not having (or giving) an orgasm during a scene, or even series of scenes. I like the tension and anticipation it builds. Most of the subs here have stated that their partner’s orgasm is a major factor in their own enjoyment, and I feel the same. Is this a submissive tendency? I tend to think not. It seems to me that any Top worth his salt is going to be getting a lot of joy out of the vicarious experience of his sub melting into a quivering mass of orgasmic bliss. But what do I know? I've still got an ice cream cone under my name. -Mr. Paul

starshineowned -> RE: Submissive's orgasms....priority? (4/7/2007 7:52:36 AM)
Greetings..~smiles~ Its priority or importance is whatever or where ever Master deems it. This isn't any set thing, and changes at his discretion. So the importance of it isn't what I think but what he thinks, and wouldn't want it any other way. Well Wishes starshine Happy slave of Master Delvin

KCwarrior -> RE: Submissive's orgasms....priority? (4/7/2007 7:54:12 AM)
I force as many orgasms on my sub as possible using any tool that will push her buttons. Making her cum just excites me more, and her ability to cum, to include by oral is a must for me. I live by my own Dom rules, and respect that each have their own.

Celeste43 -> RE: Submissive's orgasms....priority? (4/7/2007 7:54:51 AM)
If he decides to tie or hold me down and force dozens of orgasms on me, then afterwards (once I can walk again) I follow him around like a puppy, touching him, needing constant contact, rubbing against him. He likes that. But from what I read, submales after orgasm act the total opposite way, less submissive, so that's why they don't get as many. It's not based on the orgasm in and of itself, but what the aftermath might be.

mstrjx -> RE: Submissive's orgasms....priority? (4/7/2007 7:55:38 AM)
I think a partner's orgasms ARE a priority, for me, even if hers aren't necessarily a priority for a whomever 'her' might be. When you're mixing pain and pleasure, or some sort of psychological dilemna or another with pleasure, the 'pleasure' needs to come from somewhere. Are other things pleasing? Certainly. But there can be something 'taking', 'stripping' about it as well. 'This is something that I'm going to have you do, and you might not be able to resist.' And that is powerful all in its own right. A little bit of ego? Perhaps as well. I have been with partners, or partners-for-a-time-or-two that had had problems with orgasms with others in their life. That I was able to get them relaxed enough to climax with me was eye-opening for them as well as myself. I get more anxious if I'm with someone who can't (or I can't 'encourage' it) than for whatever periodic malfunctions I might encounter. That's a two-way street of course, as a submissive partner is going to feel bad if she can't satisfy me, but that wasn't the question here, was it? Jeff

Valyraen -> RE: Submissive's orgasms....priority? (4/7/2007 8:00:10 AM)
I take a great deal of pride in the fact that I can make Aqua cum a few dozen times during the course of a particularly good fuck... and I don't much hear her complaining about the fact, before, during, or afterward. It's important to me that she cums, for a variety of reasons including the fact that she's incredibly less stressed immediately following a good bout (which means that there's less tension in the air, which means that I can relax, myself).

crouchingtigress -> RE: Submissive's orgasms....priority? (4/7/2007 8:02:53 AM)
nah...not really.

SimplyMichael -> RE: Submissive's orgasms....priority? (4/7/2007 8:04:35 AM)
stivie, quote: since when is the quality of a Master on wether his peformance he is able too make a sub cum? You are missing the point. Until you know how good it can be...you won't know what you are missing. Its like you fear the pain of a particular implement only because you know how much it will hurt. quote: maybe their are those subs out there measure Master on that 1 min sexual experience orgasm shugs. Perhaps this is your problem...one minute?

arayofsunshine55 -> RE: Submissive's orgasms....priority? (4/7/2007 8:07:02 AM)
Let's see. So many angles for me. Daddy is very orgasm focused. He has used it to increase the level of pain I can enjoy, take, manage, embrace and crave. I have become pavlov's dog cumming constantly with him. Now as a top with a man orgasms can be a very different thing for a man. Unless he learns to orgasm without ejaculating you can't count on more than one. So I do want a man who masters the skill of orgasming without ejaculating so that he can cum over and over again and still be there for more. Until then yeah I still want him to orgasm but timing is everything. So you might say that I am into orgasm control but not chasitity. Well so is Daddy. Either way my play is very sex focused.

Devilslilsister -> RE: Submissive's orgasms....priority? (4/7/2007 8:10:33 AM)
i think i get irratible if i go with out too long. Not intentionally of course...... and its not the orgasm.... its the physical intimate contact.

BossyShoeBitch -> RE: Submissive's orgasms....priority? (4/7/2007 8:26:03 AM)
Sometimes, just sometimes, on very rare occassions... if I am turned on enough and I pulse my kegel muscles just so.. I can cum and nobody knows... shhhhh....it's a secwet....

BossyShoeBitch -> RE: Submissive's orgasms....priority? (4/7/2007 8:28:50 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: SimplyMichael I make damn sure a woman knows I can make her cum as much as her best lovers ever had or better. THEN I start fucking with her head and deciding when and where she can cum. Mmmm.. (wipes the sweat from her brow) you've done it for me again Michael.. thank you!

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