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juliaoceania -> RE: Submissive's orgasms....priority? (4/8/2007 4:24:01 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: spankmepink11 quote: ORIGINAL: juliaoceania Sometimes I just like to be used for his pleasure with no thought of my own.. he knows this so it arouses him too... Just my experience. I can, at times, find it hard not to orgasm even when i am being used strictly for his pleasure. ( even though i am without a "His" at present ) Are you, at these times directed not to orgasm?...or is your own orgasm at these times...if you have them....just a pleasant bonus. Recently I was just about to orgasm, asked for permission and was denied it... he got a lot of pleasure from denying me and I felt this stab of frustration that I had never felt before... it was exquisite and enjoyable...and it showed me how much I needed him. A very good lesson for me. There is a certain way he likes to use me that makes my orgasms impossible... and yet I love this position. It drives me crazy and I do not know if others can understand this, but it is precisely because I cannot orgasm in this position is my absolute craving for it. I think sometimes I have an emotional type orgasm that can only be achieved by being used this way.

TexasMaam -> RE: Submissive's orgasms....priority? (4/8/2007 5:26:50 PM)
While male orgasm is not essential to My BDSM sessions, I just adore men and love to watch/feel a man cum. I have always taken great pleasure in evoking multiple orgasms from a man, whether he was a sub or a vanilla partner. When you get to be My age, that's rather an unlikely scenario, since most sub males > 48 years of age tend to rely on those little blue pills.[:(] I must say that since becoming involved with My latest male sub, it is a joy and a thrill to be with a submissive man who is capable of rapid fire multiple orgasm. I would have to say that male orgasm is a priority for Me and will hopefully remain so in the years ahead. Hopefully, *this time* I have paired up with a man who is just as oversexed as I am and with whom multiple male orgams will remain a mutually satisfying experience for a long time to 'cum'. Sorry - just couldn't resist![8D] ; ) TM

quinnny -> RE: Submissive's orgasms....priority? (4/8/2007 5:52:31 PM)
Hmmmm... It's a difficult question. It really depends on what she needs. I've known who could be controlled by their orgams. Sometimes it's about intensity... A couple of times it was because I was responsible for their first real orgasm with a partner. One was because she went from not being able to orgasm with a partner to one who loved to orgasm on command. I've known women who needed to please and derived their pleasure from giving, not receiving. I've known women who needed denial...teasing, prolonged denial.

TyrEldred -> RE: Submissive's orgasms....priority? (4/8/2007 8:10:21 PM)
Being able to bring a woman to orgasim - or get her close and denying her the orgasim - is a form of control in itself..

BabyNyla -> RE: Submissive's orgasms....priority? (4/8/2007 10:34:09 PM)
I am allowed to orgasm a lot ... and I think it makes me happier and more eager to please. I think having my orgasms controlled or denied, where it did happen very often would be too hard for me ... since I have spent most of my life having many orgasms every day. To go from that to nothing ... yikes.

Sinergy -> RE: Submissive's orgasms....priority? (4/8/2007 10:36:48 PM)
I had a submissive once that I would send a specific code to her pager which meant "drop whatever you are doing and go have an orgasm and get back to me when you have done it." Seemed to work for both of us. Sinergy

Twicehappy2x -> RE: Submissive's orgasms....priority? (4/9/2007 5:47:05 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: diz i am the kind of person who orgasms from the intensity of the person i am having a sexual relationship with orgasm.. does that make sense? i actually ejaculate.... nearly everytime i have sex , my strongest orgasms tend to come from me pleasing, this tends to happen while GIVING oral sex...male or female.. to know that i am pleasing someone to such an explosive result gets me everytime. my orgams are very intense and take a certain level (a very high level actually) of mental stimulation..... if the person can not get into my head then there is NO orgasm for me however much it is demanded.. WOW....and Exactly, this is me to a tee. I can only get off when that Master/slave connection is present but once it is i can get off if he touches me the wrong way. Blowing him is a good for me as it is for him.

spankmepink11 -> RE: Submissive's orgasms....priority? (4/9/2007 6:26:50 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Twicehappy2x quote: ORIGINAL: diz i am the kind of person who orgasms from the intensity of the person i am having a sexual relationship with orgasm.. does that make sense? i actually ejaculate.... nearly everytime i have sex , my strongest orgasms tend to come from me pleasing, this tends to happen while GIVING oral sex...male or female.. to know that i am pleasing someone to such an explosive result gets me everytime. my orgams are very intense and take a certain level (a very high level actually) of mental stimulation..... if the person can not get into my head then there is NO orgasm for me however much it is demanded.. WOW....and Exactly, this is me to a tee. I can only get off when that Master/slave connection is present but once it is i can get off if he touches me the wrong way. Blowing him is a good for me as it is for him. Thank you ladies, I can relate to you both on this. I once had a relationship years ago (vanilla) in which our sexual interaction was almost exlcusively oral (me performing on him) . Regardless of our lack of penetration, i enjoyed wonderful orgasms and was quite happy. One of my all time favorite sexual encounters was with this person, i surprised him at work with a basket of goodies on the 4th of july, he was a DJ, and it being a holiday weekend no one else was around. I painted his cock red white and blue, with edible body paints, to commemorate the holiday and proceeded to crawl under the desk/table and blow him while on the air.....ahhh...memories. [;)]

spankmepink11 -> RE: Submissive's orgasms....priority? (4/9/2007 6:29:09 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: juliaoceania There is a certain way he likes to use me that makes my orgasms impossible... and yet I love this position. It drives me crazy and I do not know if others can understand this, but it is precisely because I cannot orgasm in this position is my absolute craving for it. I think sometimes I have an emotional type orgasm that can only be achieved by being used this way. Am i the only one who is now very curious as to what said position is???

ONEDEMANDINGMSTR -> RE: Submissive's orgasms....priority? (4/9/2007 7:06:13 AM)
Absolutely Not!!!!!! I want to know, also. !! As for My interaction with My sub, she's only allowed cum(orgasm) with permission. Any other time, or place is subject to punishment. But I do enjoy the hours taking her oh so close and having her beg for release. As with others, My climax can be had any time of My choosing. And she is exactly the same........at the time and place AND METHOD I choose. There are times when I know we won't be together for a few days when I direct her to have orgasms............at her discretion. Prior to us meeting , she was masturbating 3-5 times per day to orgasm. So this has been quite a shock to her system!! DAN

daddysprop247 -> RE: Submissive's orgasms....priority? (4/9/2007 9:18:49 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: spankmepink11 The blow job thread got me thinking of this topic. I placed it in general BDSM so that all feel free to answer. For the dominant of both genders. How do you feel about your submissive partners's orgasms. Is it a priority? A non issue? For the submissives, how important is your own need for orgasm? Priority?...Non issue? As a submissive female, i find that my partners orgasm is a major contributing factor in my own orgasms, and most dominant men i have been involved with have enjoyed providing me with many. I'm a very happy person when i am enjoying frequent orgasms, so i don't think i could be involved with a dominant who did not enjoy and encourage them as well. Please don't take this as a blanket statement, or a mass generalization, but in my experience, which is not vast, male dominants seem more inclined to insure or encourage a submissives orgasms than their female counterparts. I won't deny that my interactions with dominant females is limited, so my perception could be slightly skewed. as a submissive and as a slave, my own orgasm is a total non-priority, to the point of being truly irrelevant. it doesn't enhance any experience for my Master, and it's not something i personally crave. i am almost non-orgasmic...and the very few orgasms i've had in life have always been very mild and fleeting, nothing to get excited over. my pleasure comes purely from pleasing and serving well...and while it doesn't manifest in a physical sense (drippy pussy and orgasms), it's very fulfilling to me. there have been times every purple moon or so when i've thought i had a desire to orgasm, however i now believe that it is never genuine desire so much as a mild curiousity as to what it would be like. it's true that many Dominants seem to be focused on a submissive's orgasm, which confused me a bit when i was first learning about the D/s lifestyle. i figured that in THIS way of life, if in no other, i would finally not be so alone and there would be others who could relate to and accept my non-horny, non-orgasmic sexual nature, yet over the years i discovered that it's quite the opposite, unfortunately. i was just lucky enough to find a Master who does not really care about such things. He would much rather have a nonorgasmic slave, who served him well and with 100% focus on service always, than have a slave who became aroused or orgasmed frequently, causing her to lose focus on her purpose and place, even if only temporarily.

masterdstar -> RE: Submissive's orgasms....priority? (4/9/2007 12:09:17 PM)
I’d like to suggest NEVER underestimate the power and pleasure of orgasm denial from B/both sides of the coin. Cumming around the clock is fine for subs and recreational slaves but not necessarily for surrendered slaves and no, it’s NOT punishment, it is about the difference between wants and needs and providing “rewards” which can be 10 times more powerful orgasms. It's the difference between submission and surrender. Depends on where your real pleasure center focus is; the sub or the Dominant. Enjoy your wonder-filled day PS Damn! I do love that vanilla ice cream cone, hate to see it go ! LOL

masterdstar -> RE: Submissive's orgasms....priority? (4/9/2007 12:10:53 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: daddysprop247 quote: ORIGINAL: spankmepink11 The blow job thread got me thinking of this topic. I placed it in general BDSM so that all feel free to answer. For the dominant of both genders. How do you feel about your submissive partners's orgasms. Is it a priority? A non issue? For the submissives, how important is your own need for orgasm? Priority?...Non issue? As a submissive female, i find that my partners orgasm is a major contributing factor in my own orgasms, and most dominant men i have been involved with have enjoyed providing me with many. I'm a very happy person when i am enjoying frequent orgasms, so i don't think i could be involved with a dominant who did not enjoy and encourage them as well. Please don't take this as a blanket statement, or a mass generalization, but in my experience, which is not vast, male dominants seem more inclined to insure or encourage a submissives orgasms than their female counterparts. I won't deny that my interactions with dominant females is limited, so my perception could be slightly skewed. as a submissive and as a slave, my own orgasm is a total non-priority, to the point of being truly irrelevant. it doesn't enhance any experience for my Master, and it's not something i personally crave. i am almost non-orgasmic...and the very few orgasms i've had in life have always been very mild and fleeting, nothing to get excited over. my pleasure comes purely from pleasing and serving well...and while it doesn't manifest in a physical sense (drippy pussy and orgasms), it's very fulfilling to me. there have been times every purple moon or so when i've thought i had a desire to orgasm, however i now believe that it is never genuine desire so much as a mild curiousity as to what it would be like. it's true that many Dominants seem to be focused on a submissive's orgasm, which confused me a bit when i was first learning about the D/s lifestyle. i figured that in THIS way of life, if in no other, i would finally not be so alone and there would be others who could relate to and accept my non-horny, non-orgasmic sexual nature, yet over the years i discovered that it's quite the opposite, unfortunately. i was just lucky enough to find a Master who does not really care about such things. He would much rather have a nonorgasmic slave, who served him well and with 100% focus on service always, than have a slave who became aroused or orgasmed frequently, causing her to lose focus on her purpose and place, even if only temporarily. Quite right , very well said as HE is the focus and center of your service. My best to your Owner, enjoy your wonder-filled day

xonemasterx -> RE: Submissive's orgasms....priority? (4/9/2007 12:12:47 PM)
This reminds me of the old joke: How can you tell when a woman has an orgasm? Who cares! Male pigs laugh knowingly.

daddysprop247 -> RE: Submissive's orgasms....priority? (4/9/2007 12:20:34 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: xonemasterx This reminds me of the old joke: How can you tell when a woman has an orgasm? Who cares! Male pigs laugh knowingly. is it bad that i found that funny as well? lol

ownedgirlie -> RE: Submissive's orgasms....priority? (4/9/2007 12:33:38 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: daddysprop247 He would much rather have a nonorgasmic slave, who served him well and with 100% focus on service always, than have a slave who became aroused or orgasmed frequently, *causing her to lose focus on her purpose and place, even if only temporarily. Hi prop, While I understand where you're coming from, it would be an error to think that a slave who orgasms for her Master is not focused on him. The reason mine are as they are is only* because they please and amuse him, or else I would not ever push my body and mind so hard. The biggest enjoyment I get out of them is his pleasure in them. It's a different strokes for different folks kinda thing, but I did want to comment on your words.

daddysprop247 -> RE: Submissive's orgasms....priority? (4/9/2007 12:41:02 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: ownedgirlie Hi prop, While I understand where you're coming from, it would be an error to think that a slave who orgasms for her Master is not focused on him. The reason mine are as they are is only because they please and amuse him, or else I would not ever push my body and mind so hard. The biggest enjoyment I get out of them is his pleasure in them. It's a different strokes for different folks kinda thing, but I did want to comment on your words. owned, hi...i know you've shared this concept with me before, and while intellectually i understand that it's possible for a submissive or slave to experience intense arousal or orgasm and still remain 100% focused on their duty and place, realistically i'll admit i have a hard time wrapping my noggin around it. probably because in my own (extremely limited) experiences, whenever i've orgasmed or been intensely aroused, while i did not forget my place or falter in my service, there was some small part of me focused on self. and i think maybe for me such a physical reaction would be totally impossible without focusing on self, even if to a small degree. however if you and others can achieve this...complete release entirely without focus on self, then that's just amazing and awe-inspiring to me, and you have my admiration.

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