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RE: Spoiling a Master - 4/8/2007 7:12:40 AM   
Elorin


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From: San Antonio, TX
Status: offline 		Ways Daddy likes to be spoiled:

1) Blow jobs that don't expect him to cum (he normally doesn't, and used to say he disliked oral sex b/c he almost never came. Just being willing to suck and lick and mmmm until he's ready for something else is pretty special to him)
2) Not just body wash, but those exfoliating gloves. Put a bit on the gloves and scrub from head to toe, with firm pressure. You'll have to learn how he likes it, but I can say from experience, this is an absolutely decadent experience. When I'm done with Sir, I then go back over his entire body with a glove on one hand, making sure all soap residue is rinsed off (Sir's quirk). Specific things: Sir really likes FIRM pressure on his underarms, whereas I only like a flat palm running across. Too much pressure hurts. Sir loves to have me stretch the scrotal skin and scrub that skin, but I have to be careful not to pinch too hard when stretching and not to hurt his balls when I do it. Sir also likes his cock pulled out and the shaft scrubbed. And of course the juncture of thigh and pubic area gets lots of good noises from Sir. I've also found he really likes the backs of his knees, his Achilles heel, and then of course his feet, to get extra attention. Oh, and when I do his arms he hangs them down and I run both hands firmly, pulling on his arm, down to his hand, and then pull each finger until the knuckle pops (again's Sir's preference). And good hand scrubbing makes awfully good noises come out of his mouth!

Ok where was I, other than planning a shower with Daddy for Easter? Oh, right.

3) Washing his hair. Find out if he likes good heavy scalp pressure or just light, but having someone else wash his hair is decadence for Sir.

4) Shaving his neck. With a military guy, you can almost bet this isn't an issue, but I make sure the hair on the back of Sir's neck is short and shaved regularly.

5) Blow jobs in the shower are almost always a winner.

6) Scritches. Back scratches, scalp scritches, all over body scratching generally makes Sir purr like a kitten.

7) Massage. Idle hand massage while watching TV, or more deliberate back, foot, all over body, scalp, or face massage. Mmmmm. And remember that while tools and implements are great, hands almost always win...erm...hands down...for implements of massage.

8) Daddy LOVES me to take off his shoes and socks for him, and then scratch his ankles where his socks were tight, and then a quicky foot rub, when he first gets home. Not a long involved one, but stretching his feet out long, then toes toward the shinbone, then some general manipulation and quick stroking of the sole, pinching of the Achilles heel, and pushing the toes up and down. My hands are almost always rather cool and Sir LOVES the feel of cool fingers on his hot sweaty feet. (He likes the soft kisses I drop to the feet afterwards, too.)

9) When he is occupied with TV or computer, or what have you, keep yourself occupied in the same room with an activity you will gladly drop on a moment's notice. Being willing to get up as SOON as asked to fetch pen, pencil, drink, snack, whatever - and being close enough to be observed (hopefully lookin all hot and sexy!) makes Sir feel spoiled.

Good luck!!!

~E

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RE: Spoiling a Master - 4/8/2007 9:15:04 AM   
SimplyMichael


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Do you have a sister?  Better yet, do you offer a training program? 

It isn't often that I read a post that floors me but yours did.  I can see the attention and focus, something few really pull off.  Your Daddy is very lucky although I feel sorry for him about #1 but it sounds like you clearly made lemonade out of lemons, another impressive feat!

Thanks for making my day!

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RE: Spoiling a Master - 4/8/2007 1:02:24 PM   
Elorin


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ORIGINAL: SimplyMichael
O M F G!
Do you have a sister?  Better yet, do you offer a training program? 
It isn't often that I read a post that floors me but yours did.  I can see the attention and focus, something few really pull off.  Your Daddy is very lucky although I feel sorry for him about #1 but it sounds like you clearly made lemonade out of lemons, another impressive feat!
Thanks for making my day!


Yes, I have a sister. She's a rather repressed prude, is married, and finds BDSM to be wrong bad and awful. Though she did look rather like Julia Roberts when we were younger (not so much anymore I don't think, but I haven't looked at her w/ that in mind in a hile).
Yes, I train subs...even subs that aren't mine, and yes I do service training. I am, in fact, looking to possibly hold a pedicure class rather than teach the same thing 4 or 5 times in the next month, because it's what those I'm training want/need to learn next. I didn't mention pedicures above because they had already been mentioned.

I'm service oriented, and I like intimate service. Glad it was impressive.

Daddy says you shouldn't feel sorry for him for #1. He can cum from blowjobs...if he wants. But it takes work and for me to expect to give him orgasm when I give him a blowjob is worrying about MY goal rather than HIS goal of pleasure. Besides...I can suck his cock for 45 minutes and he's still great for more play and cumming wherever he wants. This is NOT a bad thing!!!!!

~Elorin

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RE: Spoiling a Master - 4/8/2007 1:26:51 PM   
proudsub


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but I am wondering if anyone has any other ideas or any stories of things subs did for you that made you feel spoiled?  Thanks!


Just hand him a beer and the remote, that works here.

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RE: Spoiling a Master - 4/8/2007 1:40:36 PM   
lilsquaw


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RE: Spoiling a Master - 4/8/2007 8:30:31 PM   
Elorin


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From: San Antonio, TX
Status: offline 		More thoughts on spoiling:

1)Make a conscious effort not to be negative or squelchy if your Dom has flippant, frivolous, playful tendencies. I generally roll my eyes when Sir sticks his tongue in my belly button, grabs my ass excessively in public, pinches my nipples until they are hard in public, or zaps me in the nose or belly button with the violet wand. If I were making a special effort to celebrate Sir for a day, I would do everything that is in me to be positive, happy, and amused by these things instead of irritated.

2) Nibble Sir's fingertips when he touches my face. If at home, suck his fingers as greedily as his cock. Lick and nibble his palm.

3) When out in public together, if standing in line, I carry Sir's stuff so his hands are free to molest me (yum!), look at impulse buy items, answer his phone, get out his wallet, whatever he wants. If all items are in a cart or on a conveyor, or if we aren't buying something, I use one hand to massage his neck and shoulder muscles while we stand there, or scritch the back of his neck.

4) I love to curl up around Sir's feet when he is on the couch, just to keep his feet warm. Apparently foot stools with circulation are better than upholstered ones! I frequently roll onto my back and just stroke his feet and ankles while we chat.

5) Ask him to tell you about something that he is interested in, and then listen with interest, asking relevant questions. Show that you remember later.

6) Make him a priority as much as you can - if he doesn't like an outfit, be willing to change until you are wearing something he likes. Ask if he cares about your nail polish, stockings, shoes, what have you. If he doesn't care, no biggie. If he does, do your best to make changes until he is pleased.

7) Let him know he is valuable to you - tell him you picked out an outfit just to look sexy for him. Some people feel spoiled when they know they were the center of your thoughts and attention even before being in your presence.

8)Daddy says "you cook for me." I am a capable cook, competent in the kitchen. I don't like to cook. He knows I don't like to cook. So when I cook for him, he feels very spoiled.

9) Daddy says "lick his feet make sure you do in between the toes. I'm not kidding. Be prepared to be fucked shortly afterwards." (Daddy likes foot worship and likes me to lick and suck his feet and toes.)

10) Daddy also suggests, if your guy is getting off of a deployment or something, find out your guy's sizes and have a new outfit there when he gets there. Depending on when he gets there after getting off deployment, he might not have much at his disposal, and he might have worn what he does have repeatedly. I don't know the situation w/ your guy, but figured it was valid. (Daddy also says if he likes pajamas, have a set of pajamas the guy could wear while you are together, and then have pleasant memories of the spoiling whenever he wears them afterwards.)

11) Tote his luggage. (I'm typing as Daddy talks. ~lol)

12) Get good massage oil. You can get them at most natural foods shops, Bath & Body Works, etc. Not baby oil. I like almond oil. You can get it scented or unscented, but quality massage oil makes a HUGE difference in a massage feeling like being spoiled and just being awkward b/c of scent or stickiness.

Some things that ~I~ like to be spoiled with include having a bath run for me, candles lit in the room, and then getting in and soaking and reading a good book (already laid out when I got in the bathroom). And when I get out, having towels and/or my warm terry bathrobe soft and toasty from the dryer to dry off in. I like having my hair brushed, my face massaged, my bed being made when I come in from the shower. I like being helped into clothing if it needs it, and having someone help me into my boots. I like my boots to be kissed, licked, polished, licked....hmmmm. Sir likes that one too. Polish his boots while he's in them, and lick them all over.

This is a fun exploration, I'm enjoying the conversation it started with Daddy and I. I hope some of my suggestions were helpful...

~E

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RE: Spoiling a Master - 4/8/2007 8:33:05 PM   
AquaticSub


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quote:

ORIGINAL: CreativeOwner18

my idea of spoiling is bringing me a beer then giving me a blowjob while i watch a hockey game on espn. but hey. thats me


I'd do that for Valyraen but he swears my blowjobs are too distracting!

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RE: Spoiling a Master - 4/8/2007 8:34:57 PM   
AquaticSub


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I "spoil him" by getting him random, inexpensive treats. Sometime he will find his favorite treats in his lunchbox for no reason at all. They are just there. ("It was the faeries honey..."). Or I'll pick him up some sweet tea or his favorite beer just because I thought of him while shopping.

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Without my dominance you cannot submit. Without your submission I cannot dominate. You are my equal in this, though our roles are different.-Val

It was ok for him to beat me but then he tried to cuddle me! - Me

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RE: Spoiling a Master - 4/8/2007 9:21:17 PM   
mythi


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quote:

ORIGINAL: Elorin

Ways Daddy likes to be spoiled:

1) Blow jobs that don't expect him to cum (he normally doesn't, and used to say he disliked oral sex b/c he almost never came. Just being willing to suck and lick and mmmm until he's ready for something else is pretty special to him)
2) Not just body wash, but those exfoliating gloves. Put a bit on the gloves and scrub from head to toe, with firm pressure. You'll have to learn how he likes it, but I can say from experience, this is an absolutely decadent experience. When I'm done with Sir, I then go back over his entire body with a glove on one hand, making sure all soap residue is rinsed off (Sir's quirk). Specific things: Sir really likes FIRM pressure on his underarms, whereas I only like a flat palm running across. Too much pressure hurts. Sir loves to have me stretch the scrotal skin and scrub that skin, but I have to be careful not to pinch too hard when stretching and not to hurt his balls when I do it. Sir also likes his cock pulled out and the shaft scrubbed. And of course the juncture of thigh and pubic area gets lots of good noises from Sir. I've also found he really likes the backs of his knees, his Achilles heel, and then of course his feet, to get extra attention. Oh, and when I do his arms he hangs them down and I run both hands firmly, pulling on his arm, down to his hand, and then pull each finger until the knuckle pops (again's Sir's preference). And good hand scrubbing makes awfully good noises come out of his mouth!

Ok where was I, other than planning a shower with Daddy for Easter? Oh, right.

3) Washing his hair. Find out if he likes good heavy scalp pressure or just light, but having someone else wash his hair is decadence for Sir.

4) Shaving his neck. With a military guy, you can almost bet this isn't an issue, but I make sure the hair on the back of Sir's neck is short and shaved regularly.

5) Blow jobs in the shower are almost always a winner.

6) Scritches. Back scratches, scalp scritches, all over body scratching generally makes Sir purr like a kitten.

7) Massage. Idle hand massage while watching TV, or more deliberate back, foot, all over body, scalp, or face massage. Mmmmm. And remember that while tools and implements are great, hands almost always win...erm...hands down...for implements of massage.

8) Daddy LOVES me to take off his shoes and socks for him, and then scratch his ankles where his socks were tight, and then a quicky foot rub, when he first gets home. Not a long involved one, but stretching his feet out long, then toes toward the shinbone, then some general manipulation and quick stroking of the sole, pinching of the Achilles heel, and pushing the toes up and down. My hands are almost always rather cool and Sir LOVES the feel of cool fingers on his hot sweaty feet. (He likes the soft kisses I drop to the feet afterwards, too.)

9) When he is occupied with TV or computer, or what have you, keep yourself occupied in the same room with an activity you will gladly drop on a moment's notice. Being willing to get up as SOON as asked to fetch pen, pencil, drink, snack, whatever - and being close enough to be observed (hopefully lookin all hot and sexy!) makes Sir feel spoiled.

Good luck!!!

~E


Can add to the list drying off and massaging with lotion after that shower.  Also laying out clothing (first thing that goes on, uppermost, and so on; shoes also laid out below or by the chair he'll sit in to put them on) and setting out toiletries for the morning (also in order or arrangement for convenience if possible).  Pretty much anything that will save time and 'thinking', esp. in the mornings.  I surprised my Dom the first morning we were together because I had his toothbrush already 'pasted' for him, something that had never even occurred to him to want.   When it comes to spoiling, it's all in the details.

Expanding on #9, some also like having a girl 'at the ready' either next to, at one's feet, or in an easily accessible position for random petting and groping. (potentially a win-win situation!). 

And something I was taught early on... that it is my duty, as a reflection of him and his influence on me, to be pleasing to both him privately and the world at large.  That means pleasing to all the senses when possible.  Look good (be as fit as your circumstances allow, dress in a desired manner, hair/makeup/other grooming to his preference).  Sound good (tone of voice, wearing bells, providing background music).  Smell good (be clean, use pleasant <to him> scents, breath-check!).  Taste good (polish tastes yucky if he's a finger or toe sucker, taste yourself 'down there' to make sure nothing in your diet is throwing off your chemistry <or scent>, occassionally eat or drink something he enjoys before kissing him).  And last but hardly least, feel good (keep your skin as soft as you can, condition your hair as much as possible, wear touchable fabrics). 

Essentially be sensual without being tacky (unless you've determined that's what he wants); be someone pleasant, desirable, and congenial to be around to the best of your ability as often as possible; and give him the gift of a partner he is proud to call his.

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RE: Spoiling a Master - 4/8/2007 9:22:49 PM   
Nikolette


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Status: offline 		I'm sending my slaves to look at your list. You have such a lovely mentality and obvious joy in giving comfort and pleasure. I'm sending mail to you on the other side...

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RE: Spoiling a Master - 4/8/2007 9:39:53 PM   
mythi


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Status: offline 		Just thought of some other things when I went to the kitchen for a snack

Offer him a cool drink or some chilled watermelon when he's working in the yard or have it waiting when he comes in if he's the type that doesnt like interruptions.  (if it's really hot, unchilled water is best).  Cool, wet rag is often welcome too.

Always brew real tea from real teabags and make real lemonade from simple syrup and lemon juice/lemons.  I swear it's not hard at all and tastes 10x better!

Make real whipped cream instead of that funky canned stuff or fake topping.  Same as above, takes only a few minutes and tastes sooooo much better.

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RE: Spoiling a Master - 4/9/2007 2:18:27 AM   
aldompdx


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ORIGINAL: shedreamz

That is a good thing to remember.  And it all made sense to me except one part -- giving unconditionally without attachment... what does that mean?  I've never heard that phrase before.



Giving with conditions, expectations, and attachment to the desired result is self motivated. It is a bargain of giving to get. Too often, people give to get love. That is not giving at all, but taking. It is not sharing the fullness of one's heart, but the emptieness and needyness of it.

This is adapted and applied from the verse of the Bhagavad Gita which says: "To action alone hast thou a right and never at all to its fruits; let not the fruits of action be thy motive; neither let there be in thee any attachment to inaction." BG II:47

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RE: Spoiling a Master - 4/9/2007 4:12:17 AM   
sleazybutterfly


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Status: offline 		The thing I love about M, is that he appreciates every single thing I do, big or small.  I show him attention, I give him rubdowns, run my hands thru his hair, make sure he always has hot food on the table,  and I tell him I love him every chance I get.  I have also stuck by his side, I think he might have been a bit afraid that once we found out he was sick, that I would run off because of the future.  It may not be as fancy as some do, but I know that it shows him I am here for his needs and wants anytime...and how very much I love and adore him.

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RE: Spoiling a Master - 4/9/2007 5:46:30 AM   
Sinimint


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Status: offline 		Your probably wont have time  - but would be great to learn how to do a Japanese tea serving ceremony - just for him.  It is very complex and graceful and I'm sure he'd find it alluring.

Or a belly dance, put on arabic music, insense, candles and do the dance of the 7 veils????  Even if you have no idea how to do it, he would appreciate the effort.

Just random thoughts.

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RE: Spoiling a Master - 4/9/2007 6:13:00 AM   
naughtygirl2tame


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Status: offline 		Another good way of spoiling a Master is this,,,,,,
i do this for my Master he so deserves it all he dose for me..when my Master comes over to play with me i hug and kiss him so much, i have to admitt i tease alot too with my tounge,.but he enjoys this i can see his antiscipation.i usually start off the night before with little hints,like what would you like me to wear ofr you today my Master?...i'll tell him what i have ready and let him choose .He wil usually tell me to surprise him and most of the time i do.hair up in pigtails and a babydoll with thigh highs usually turns him on and the look on his face when he first sees me is of WOW...lol...then when he is here.i will take his clothes off and massage his entire body,oils, lotions, the works then use a vibrator on any part of him that is soe that day..i rub his feet to his temples.then we stat to play,sometimes he will let me begin.and i will suck his cock and just make him moan for an hour or so i love to spoil him,i also have his favorite soda on hand at all times.and of course fresh chocolates from a candy store that makes them daily...if not a  bag of milkyways will do for him. at times i will have a nice warm towel ready for him when he needs it.Its not hard to spoil  your Master if you love HIM you should want to do it.i send him little note during the day telling HIM how i love HIM.and that i may have a surprise or to when he comes over. To please HIM is what i live for.HE is so worth the spoiling,,,,,, i wish i had more to give to HIM and he knows this, but his face says it all to me when i look up at HIM when im besides HIM on my knees and hepushes the hair way from my eyes and looks at me and says thank you my pet..... i am proudly collard and owned by njdom48........

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RE: Spoiling a Master - 4/9/2007 6:53:25 AM   
slaveluci


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ORIGINAL: BOUNTYHUNTER
What else is the Master for except to be obeyed,spoiled and pampered?

my first thought, exactly.  i do my best to "spoil" Master in every way as i serve Him throughout each and every day.  But, as for something a little out of the ordinary, one of the things He enjoys the most in life is good music.  W/we listen to and discuss it all the time.  So, when i hear Him mention a disc that it sounds like He'd really enjoy, i'll surprise Him with it.  It never fails to bring a beautiful smile to His face and makes me feel like i've done something extra special to improve His day.  Plus, i get to enjoy the benefit of hearing it as well.  The most recent one ("Road To Escondido" by JJ Cale and Eric Clapton) has been delicious  .......... slave luci

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