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WillowRain -> RE: Can you submit to a person without wanting them? (4/10/2007 8:56:46 PM)
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Your miles may vary, but I can submit to a person without wanting them sexually. Recognizing someone as dominant, and being attracted to them are two totally differant gears for me. It is particularly delicious and tempting when it is a strong hit of both of those. Service has a wide range for me. Lots of types and styles of service are beautiful to me.
I can give you a weird example that happened in the vanilla world. One time I was helping my grandmother move and this gentleman that was as old as God was helping. He was an old south gentleman. He was hugely formal and polite, and danged if I didn't instinctively recognize him as Dominant. Sweet, sweet old fellow. The first time I was trying to get through the door, he went out of his way to make sure it was open for me. I spent the rest of the day in this endlessly lovely dance with him. I had to at times adjust my pace or make choices to do things in a way that would make room and time for him to do his part of the polite dance. It was really beautiful. I treated him the way I would treat any young virile man, as a man, and with respect. The only differance is that sometimes I had to consiously move slower. I gave him respect that in my opinion he deserved. It was a lovely day, and when I think of that day I always smile. It was a very tiny bit of service. There was utterly no sexual aspect to it, and a lot of people would say it was only old south manners, and not really D&s. But to me, physically waiting for him to open doors for me, making sure that he could be in the lead, being polite, defering to him, were all D&s modalities.
I loved it. He was a doll baby. No sexual spark of any kind, but lovely to serve.
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