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RE: warning Mistresses - 4/8/2007 9:32:23 PM   
DominaSmartass


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Status: offline 		Good job undergrounsea, you got his point. Everyone else has utterly missed it. The OP was trying to say that if a person is going to be the type to send a cockshot then wouldn't you rather know it to begin with and eliminate him from the pool of potentials than to tell him NOT to, have him listen, and then proceed to get to know him only to find out much later that he's a cockshot type? I say go for it, let their true colors shine through bright and early on. Most of them will eliminate themselves this way and I don't even have to weed through them.

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RE: warning Mistresses - 4/8/2007 9:40:56 PM   
Nikolette


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Status: offline 		Because it saves me from having to LOOK at his penis. Which I find unappealing and degrading if its something I haven't requested to see. And they can't hide the fact that they are interested in their penis for VERY long. It always becomes obvious immediately. Often its in their entire tone of the interactions. These slaves/subs are the kind of guys who also send long emails about what THEY want and what THEY like and how THEY want to be dominated by me. They treat women as if they are just a means to satisfying their urges- whether their urges are to be Dominated or to Dominate matters not- they are still the ones looking to be serviced.

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RE: warning Mistresses - 4/8/2007 10:05:03 PM   
Elorin


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quote:

ORIGINAL: subad

sometimes (only sometimes!!) i do not understand Mistresses. It is about the pics a slave or sub might send them. Mistresses warn the slave / sub not to send certain pics to them (no nudes, no penis etc). Why is that????? If a Mistress wants to know the slave / sub ... let him send the pic he wants. If he chooses to send a penis pic .. all the better. Obviously She fiound a slave who thinks his penis is important stuff. If she tell a slave not to send a penis pic, how does she find out he thinks his penis is o important??

It's simple. If I warn a sub not to send penis pics (actually, I haven't yet but I don't get that a lot so far) it is because I don't like looking at stranger's penises. If I get a penis pic, I will block the person immediately. If I don't, the person will get three chances at working with me...so, if I were to put "don't put a penis photo" in my profile, sending a penis photo would be a way of doing yourself out of two more chances to get it right.

I certainly understand the thought of, if they get it wrong, I have been saved time and effort. But by putting it clearly in the profile, then sub has a way of KNOWING WHAT THEY DID WRONG. If I just delete and block without any indication of why, then the sub ends up with no way of figuring out my reason.

Also, if the guy thinks w/ his dick, but reads my profile and doesn't send the photo, the fact that he thinks with his dick will be clear later. But he will at least have shown that he can follow simple directions. It gives him a chance for me to be willing to OVERLOOK that he thinks w/ his dick, and give him a chance anyway.

Just some idle thoughts,

~E

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RE: warning Mistresses - 4/8/2007 10:07:02 PM   
ineedotk


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Status: offline 		Seriously, DianeB, I think you could sell tickets for your sessions.  And a few DVD's too!

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RE: warning Mistresses - 4/9/2007 1:05:11 AM   
MiladyAngelique


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quote:

ORIGINAL: SlaveBlutarsky

I love the guys on this site. Fantastic.

As pointed out by Ms Marwod, common sense would dictate that just because you meet someone, you don't whip it out as an introduction. Just like iif someone was dating your vanilla sister, I doubt you would find him giving her a dildo or bottle of lube appropriate for a first date.

Just because what we deal with is based on a sexual nature, doesn't mean that  it's the only thing that the relationship is based on.BDSM and my cock are the last two things I want to discuss with a potential Domme in the first correspondances. A. I already know she's a  Domme, so it doesn't need to be brought up. B. If she wants to see my purple headed yougurt slinger, she'll ask. And if I feel it's appropriiate, I'll show her.  :)




purple headed yougurt slinger????? I have never heard it called that before thank you for the giggle.

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RE: warning Mistresses - 4/9/2007 2:06:07 AM   
bettie1959


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quote:

ORIGINAL: subad

'If a Mistress wants to know the slave / sub ... let him send the pic he wants.' 
( Ok maybe its just me but shouldn't it be what the Mistress wants???)
If he chooses to send a penis pic .. all the better. Obviously She fiound a slave who thinks his penis is important stuff.
(Ummm......all men believe that their penis is 'important stuff.' )  
If she tell a slave not to send a penis pic, how does she find out he thinks his penis is o important??
(Insert my last comment here as well).
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< Message edited by bettie1959 -- 4/9/2007 2:14:29 AM >

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RE: warning Mistresses - 4/9/2007 4:13:28 AM   
Samwhiplash


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Status: offline 		yep, thats what I understood from it too. He had a point... if they r the kind that wld even think of sending a naked shot... then best to know that straight up........ but I dont wanna see it - so wld always clarify if I ask for a pic so there can be no room for error.

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RE: warning Mistresses - 4/9/2007 4:38:31 AM   
hereyesruponyou


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Status: offline 		OK, so the boy asks once can he send a pic. Mistress appreciates that he asks before just sending something so personal. As she says no, he gets a nod and a smile for being polite enough to ask. He asks again. Mistress sighs, and says no, smile is gone. He continues to try to "pressure her" to get what HE wants. Mistress knows it's all about him and moves on.

It is not necessary for me to actually get/look at his cock pic (which is his turn on) for me to see where his real interest lies.

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RE: warning Mistresses - 4/9/2007 5:59:00 AM   
thetammyjo


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Status: offline 		I think maybe we are looking at what subad wrote and not thinking about what is he trying to say.

I think he's trying to say that if you have to describe what types of pictures you want, you may get someone who just follows your "rule" without really fitting into what you are looking for in terms of appropriateness.

So if someone sends you an inappropriate picture, consider it information that helps you decide you aren't interested. Why get offended by the cock shot? Just block the sender and ignore them.

< Message edited by thetammyjo -- 4/9/2007 6:51:46 AM >

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RE: warning Mistresses - 4/9/2007 6:36:57 AM   
subad


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Status: offline 		exactly!!!!

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RE: warning Mistresses - 4/9/2007 7:02:19 AM   
Lashra


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Status: offline 		She may rather know that he has something between his ears rather than something between his legs.

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RE: warning Mistresses - 4/9/2007 7:10:15 AM   
DianeB269


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quote:

ORIGINAL: ineedotk

Seriously, DianeB, I think you could sell tickets for your sessions.  And a few DVD's too!


I have been thinking of making a DVD. I have hours of un-edited video.


Diane

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RE: warning Mistresses - 4/9/2007 7:26:46 AM   
MissSCD


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Status: offline 		subad:

Your name alone is the answer.   Don't get me on this soapbox.  Keep your cock to yourself unless someone calls for it.  One other clue:  It is not all about me.  You do not tell us how to view you, and it is vulgar.

Regards, MissSCD

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RE: warning Mistresses - 4/9/2007 1:37:14 PM   
MistressDolly


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quote:

ORIGINAL: MsSonnetMarwood

quote:

ORIGINAL: MistressDolly

quote:

ORIGINAL: MsSonnetMarwood

Fair enough.   Trolls, send Dolly all of your penis pics.




lol, naughty naughty girl.  ;P  Momma's gonna spank that ass of yours red, assume the position girly.


Ah, why you fail to grasp the concept of  "common courtesy" is clear now.


lol. well  ms.sonnet, you would of never been offered the privilege of a spanking by me if you didn't vomit out the comment to the trolls to begin with.  lol. Tell you what:  I'll return the same common courtesy to you:  Trolls send all your penis pix to MsSonnettMarwood; she needs a good laugh to help shake that stick out of her bum.

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RE: warning Mistresses - 4/9/2007 2:50:28 PM   
Unrepentant1


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Status: offline 		I would have thought it was obvious why a Domme would not want to see a penis pic and if she states so on her profile, why on earth would she bother with you? If you can not follow such a simple instruction, how can you follow one that really matters?

In addition, a pic is a pic, it may not even be yours. I even hear of men pretending to be women on these sites! A good Domme is interested in attitude and appearance, the rest comes naturally.

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RE: warning Mistresses - 4/9/2007 9:30:29 PM   
arayofsunshine55


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Status: offline 		I think I agree with you.  If someone reads my profile and he thinks the best response is a cock shot then I know something about him.  And I can weed him out accordingly.

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RE: warning Mistresses - 4/9/2007 11:12:02 PM   
BeachMystress


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Status: offline 		I understand your point, subad. It is a way to know up front that the submissive is more interested in his penis and getting it used than in the Domme. But generally that is made clear in the letter he writes, so we don't need the penis pic to figure out that he is one of those guys who want to use Domme rather than serve her.

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RE: warning Mistresses - 4/9/2007 11:30:14 PM   
FelinePersuasion


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Status: offline 		if someone is so wrapped up in thinking their penis isthe be all end all it usualy comes out really quickly in the said attitude.
quote:

ORIGINAL: subad

If she tell a slave not to send a penis pic, how does she find out he thinks his penis is o important??


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RE: warning Mistresses - 4/9/2007 11:34:43 PM   
BeachMystress


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quote:

ORIGINAL: MistressDolly

lol, naughty naughty girl.  ;P  Momma's gonna spank that ass of yours red, assume the position girly.
 
Somehow, I don't find you any funnier than MsSonnetMarwood did. Telling another Dominant that you are "offering the privilege of a spanking" by you seems a lot like tops disease. Just because you do not agree with someone or do not like what they have to say doesn't mean you attempt to denigrate their standing as a Dominant. Yet your first impulse was to do such. I find that to be quite telling of a person's overall character and ideals as a Dominant. Perhaps in the future, you might find people more receptive to what you are saying if you comment upon what the person-you-took-issue-with has to say and their philosophy rather than trying to run them down or put them in their place by treating them as an erring submissive.

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RE: warning Mistresses - 4/10/2007 1:04:46 AM   
Aliya


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quote:

ORIGINAL: subad

sometimes (only sometimes!!) i do not understand Mistresses. It is about the pics a slave or sub might send them. Mistresses warn the slave / sub not to send certain pics to them (no nudes, no penis etc). Why is that????? If a Mistress wants to know the slave / sub ... let him send the pic he wants. If he chooses to send a penis pic .. all the better. Obviously She fiound a slave who thinks his penis is important stuff. If she tell a slave not to send a penis pic, how does she find out he thinks his penis is o important??


I'm not interested in a man's dick when I'm first getting to know him. I look for other qualities a man can offer me other than his physical endowment. Things like personality, temperament, intellect, strength in mind and body, manners, etc.

Sending cock shots to me only shows the guy has one thing on his mind. His pleasure.

Yawn...

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