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RE: warning Mistresses - 4/11/2007 9:28:18 PM   
BeachMystress


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ORIGINAL: MistressAnya1

It was the lifestyle aspect that I was referring to. If just anyone picking up a flogger or paddle and declaring themselves "Mistress" or "Goddess" is good enough for anyone, then they are also welcome to head on over to the trailer park tavern to grab a Schlitz and a bottle of Boonesfarm. I am very sorry for being so blunt but unfortunately, there IS a code of conduct AND an etiquette that MAKES this lifestyle what is is.Point blank, if you don't know what you are doing, people can get hurt...seriously. I am so sorry that I don't spend hours sitting on the computer posting comment threads and talking it up, I have spent "MY" last 9 years active in the BDSM community working along side very highly respected Doms and Masters in the trade honing my skills and LEARNING what is acceptable. Unfortunately, I also do this for a living so everyone brings the money aspect into play as if I am some snob because of it. I have 3 24/7 slaves who live with Me and have been trained, not only by Me but other D's. They are the epitomy of what a slave should be. It takes training for the sb's to know what respect really means and that falls onto us...the Dommes to provide that information. I have met many sbs from this site that have a clue, most do not. I welcome them to learn and provide what information I can.

Back to the point of this thread... if a Dom wants to see your cock, she'll TELL you to whip it out. Until then, keep it in your pants.

To Beach Mistress, I will not post on this thread again, but I respectfully welcome you to attend some of the public events with Me, and I will even provide your airfare. If you feel that basic respect is acceptable, I welcome you to attend lifestyle events with Me, as a Dom, and see if you feel the same way after the fact.




From your post it seems as if you think that I've never been to events and am not aware of the expectations of respect in the public scene. That is not the case. I'm quite active. I also have one of the few 24/7/365 total power exchange relationships in the area. So many people claim to be 24/7, but when you examine their relationships it generally means they are involved with each other 24/7, rather than living in a relationship involving one person as the ultimate authority figure to which the other always defers. As one who is experienced in both BDSM play, 24/7/365 ownership, the public scene and BDSM etiquette, I stand by my assertion that a submissive (or anyone else) owes no one anything but basic respect unless they have entered into an agreement with the person to provide more.

If you'd like to attend events with me, you'll need to come to coastal southern California, as I do not enjoy Midwest weather or humidity. I will be more than happy to take you to the munch in which I am active. http://groups.yahoo.com/group/south_bay_munch/ and to any and all of our local Dungeons or events. http://groups.yahoo.com/group/socalsmevents/ The southern California scene is quite large and I am of course not involved in every organization since there are so many that it would take up my entire life. I do know people in each group though and can get invites to anyplace that catches your eye even if I'm not already active in the organization.

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RE: warning Mistresses - 4/11/2007 9:33:48 PM   
BeachMystress


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ORIGINAL: Mysti

Also very true. I fear I'm still holding out hope for humanity  And I still think I may carry a mousetrap in my purse just in case one wants to try whipping it out in front of me.. that is if I can see through the tears of laughter to aim the spring
*grins* Just for you, I dug out my photos of using rat traps in play and posted them at the top of http://beachmystress.femdommesociety.com/dommephotoalbum.php 

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RE: warning Mistresses - 4/12/2007 2:12:51 AM   
Mysti


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RE: warning Mistresses - 4/12/2007 3:03:09 AM   
SweetDommes


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quote:

ORIGINAL: DominaSmartass

Good job undergrounsea, you got his point. Everyone else has utterly missed it. The OP was trying to say that if a person is going to be the type to send a cockshot then wouldn't you rather know it to begin with and eliminate him from the pool of potentials than to tell him NOT to, have him listen, and then proceed to get to know him only to find out much later that he's a cockshot type? I say go for it, let their true colors shine through bright and early on. Most of them will eliminate themselves this way and I don't even have to weed through them.


Actually, I'd say that not everyone missed his point - there were 2 posts on the first page that did address the proper topic.  And then there are the people who chose not to read past the first few posts until now ...

My reply to the OP is that the instructions on our profile are to let people know what we are looking for - because sex is a minor part of our relationships (well ... maybe not minor, but it's also not a big priority when finding someone compatable), we don't give a damn about a penis, other than we want him to have one.  I can also promise you that even if they don't send a cock-shot in the first e-mail, I can figure out by the second one if they are obsessed with their wee willy or not - as Aquatic stated, if they are obsessed with it, they can't hide it for long.  Very little time wasted, and having the instructions on the profile means that I feel no guilt in deleting messages with cock-shots in them without replying.  If they can't take the time to be respectful to me, then I feel no need to be courteous in return.

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RE: warning Mistresses - 4/12/2007 5:07:25 AM   
cloudboy


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quote:

ORIGINAL: undergroundsea

I sense the OP is not saying that penis pics are fine but instead, as was the case in another recent thread, is of the opinion that asking a potential applicant to act in a specified way may hide what otherwise could be a flag about behavior or judgment.

Cheers,

Sea


That's what I thought. The old theme was: the best way to gauge a male sub is to let him be himself. By allowing transparancy, you better eliminate bad matches.

I agree with sweetdommes, too, that true colors quickly come into full relief. (Not so true with master manipulators, though. A master manipulator is adept at playing the "right role.")



< Message edited by cloudboy -- 4/12/2007 5:10:16 AM >

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RE: warning Mistresses - 4/12/2007 11:55:53 AM   
AAkasha


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quote:

ORIGINAL: cloudboy

quote:

ORIGINAL: undergroundsea

I sense the OP is not saying that penis pics are fine but instead, as was the case in another recent thread, is of the opinion that asking a potential applicant to act in a specified way may hide what otherwise could be a flag about behavior or judgment.

Cheers,

Sea


That's what I thought. The old theme was: the best way to gauge a male sub is to let him be himself. By allowing transparancy, you better eliminate bad matches.

I agree with sweetdommes, too, that true colors quickly come into full relief. (Not so true with master manipulators, though. A master manipulator is adept at playing the "right role.")




The sad thing is that no matter how common the advice is to make subs about how to behave to impress, what not to do, etc., so many still choose to flat out ignore it and still send cock photos, act like wankers or do things like instant message every female nick in a chat room asking for domination.  The reality is that even though they know that any serious femdom will totally ignore them, they are hoping that if they try this 100 times, they will find the 1 horny femdom who loves to get cock photos, WILL dominate any guy that offers himself and is instantly horny and ready for action.

If only these guys knew that the person who does this is inevitably another man pretending to be a woman.

Akasha


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RE: warning Mistresses - 4/12/2007 12:08:46 PM   
BOUNTYHUNTER


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Status: offline 		NICE pics.we enjoyed them...bounty

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RE: warning Mistresses - 4/12/2007 2:31:23 PM   
DiannaVesta


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quote:

ORIGINAL: DianeB269

Cock shots.....Seen one you've seen them all. I don't wanna see a pic of some subs little pee pee.


Diane


lol- thats funny

I think he sends one of his face and if she wants more then she'll ask. Plain and simple.


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RE: warning Mistresses - 4/12/2007 3:00:56 PM   
EvilKitty


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Status: offline 		I believe that the majority of male humans on this planet think their penis IS important stuff! I also believe that more male humans than female humans are aroused/interested/intrigued by sight. I am uninterested at the beginning in what kind of dick some sub has. As far as I'm concerned, I'll enjoy torturing whatever happens to be between his legs; long, short, fat, skinny, makes no difference. I'll see it when I'm ready! I'm FAR more turned on by a photo of a sub on his knees, eyes downcast and waiting patiently. When the first photo sent to Me is of a cock, bound, clothespinned or just rampant; I'm liable to delete the whole mess. Wave that thing at MY nose, will you? Muwwwwwahahahahah!!!!
Eeeeevil Kitty  

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RE: warning Mistresses - 4/13/2007 2:02:33 AM   
MisPandora


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Ahhhhhh, I see ad....do you think it's important for us to accomodate a fellow's wanking non-consensually exposing himself to perfect strangers?  Sorry, but I don't buy that bullshit.  You care to engage with me, you'll follow MY instructions or be gone.  It's rather simple, D/s stuff yanno?




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RE: warning Mistresses - 4/13/2007 2:29:25 AM   
MistressRouge


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quote:

ORIGINAL: subad
Why is that????? If a Mistress wants to know the slave / sub ... let him send the pic he wants. If he chooses to send a penis pic .. all the better.


Why is it, all the better?

Edited to add: I would rather a "no pic" then a horrid photograph of a subs genitialia, I deem uncouth and disrespectful.

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RE: warning Mistresses - 4/13/2007 4:07:04 AM   
TheDiva


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Status: offline 		Sending a penis pic is not the only way for a sub to have himself excluded from consideration. It is, however, one of the fastest and most offensive ways.

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RE: warning Mistresses - 4/13/2007 6:42:06 AM   
M1stressM1na


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Status: offline 		Penis shots?  If i wanted penis shots id look at a gay mag!  but is it better than no pic at all?  Personally i would choose no pic at all. Getting to know a slave on all other levels before looking at whether he has a nice dick is preferable to me.
  The thing that annoys me most is the married man and his insane hope that as a domme you must be desperate enough to want to drop everything to entertain him.


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RE: warning Mistresses - 4/13/2007 10:30:16 AM   
rhpaw


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Status: offline 		The head you think with and show pictures of, is not he one mistress wants to get into.

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RE: warning Mistresses - 4/20/2007 8:37:01 AM   
MistressDestiny


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Status: offline 		The sub makes a good point.  Let the sub express himself as he chooses.  You may get stuck with another cock pic, but you'll learn something about his character, and that is important info to have.

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RE: warning Mistresses - 4/20/2007 12:02:41 PM   
KaramelGoddess


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quote:

ORIGINAL: rhpaw

The head you think with and show pictures of, is not he one mistress wants to get into.


Exactly.
The mind is more important, everything else is secondary.  I delete and block all senders of pics with dangly bits showing.  Sure it's what they want, but it's not what I want.
I will agree however with the notion that some protocols/rules for etiquette and being polite are different for different people.  That doesn't mean I have to accept what is not polite to Me.
And one last thing...how posting smileys can be considered an attack is beyond Me...but anyway... c'est la vie!!!
 
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RE: warning Mistresses - 4/20/2007 1:11:57 PM   
MisPandora


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Status: offline 		ignore the distraction of immature people and me falling into their trap.....moving right along LOL

< Message edited by MisPandora -- 4/20/2007 1:18:32 PM >

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RE: warning Mistresses - 4/20/2007 1:41:05 PM   
flightinthenight


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quote:

ORIGINAL: MisPandora

ignore the distraction of immature people and me falling into their trap.....moving right along LOL


its allot to ask for certain people to Lighten up, you would know MisPandora.  I think you just fell into the trap by throwing in your two cents.  It says allot.   It just kills you doesnt it.  Be careful not to stoop to a low level. let the others show their jealousy but dont falld down.  Pls. we needs heavy solid mistresses in this ghetto. 

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RE: warning Mistresses - 4/21/2007 12:15:34 PM   
TexasMaam


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Status: offline 		subad, if you dunna understand the concept, I canna 'splain it to ye!

lolololololololol omg someone send us some real subs, please?

manthing, if you read this, I think I love you!  I don't believe that you have EVER sent Me a dick pic!  Don't ever start!

lolololololololol

TM

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RE: warning Mistresses - 4/21/2007 12:17:57 PM   
TexasMaam


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ROFLMFAO!!!

quote:

ORIGINAL: BOUNTYHUNTER

NICE pics.we enjoyed them...bounty


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