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MDJour -> RE: Man Handled.... (4/12/2007 8:39:03 AM)
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ORIGINAL: Celeste43
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ORIGINAL: LadyTantalize
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ORIGINAL: Celeste43
Did you go out on a date and inform him of protocols he had to follow? Did he agree to these protocols? Or did you somehow assume that a dom would agree to act like a sub on this occasion.
He treated you like he would a woman on a vanilla date, there seemed to be chemistry, at least on his part, so he made a move hoping you would also find it hot and invite him in for some bed action.
And if you expect men to follow your protocols, it helps to tell them what they are ahead of time and ask them if they consent. If not, don't go. But don't expect a dom to act subly.
Acting like a gentlemen and treating a women with respect, whether in private or public, are hardly expecting submissive behavior. I'm unaware of the vanilla dates that you've encountered but no man, vanilla or kinky, should paw, push a woman against a wall and block her departure nor smack her ass in the middle of a room full of people. I would be sickened if a man treated me as such on a *vanilla date*.... I have standards as should other women.
Correct, however the op did not make anything clear, just that he had attempted to handle her. It was not until later posts that the exact details came out.
Unfortunately this is a text based medium. If a post contains no details and references that are unclear, readers are likely to fill in the holes based on their own backgrounds. This was one of those posts, details slowly dribbled out over three pages, clarification still absent in areas causing confusion in the readers.
Of course we read things into it, simply because of the fact that the facts themselves were not there to be read.
Some of posts are now going to other areas as an offshoot to my OP. But let me just wrap this up with what I hope clears up all the questions by outlining some of the nitty gritty details that I think you're asking for.
Where Celeste43 is asking looking for cliarification of the overall relationship.
The person in question came to Me twice professionally in the past year, bottoming to Me, and was on perfect behavior, no surprises. I don't see anything wrong with a Dom bottoming in private and/or professionally. Not the first and surely will not be the last. These sessions were prior to any sort of personal interaction. Yes, we had chemistry, at least that's what we called it. There's no law against liking someone and following up with them on a strictly personal basis.
Now for further details surrounding the event. I thought he was going to attend with me. Remember my earlier posts referencing his telling me a day and a half prior to said event that his new sub would be there and that would take priority. At that point all bets were off. He was going to be in Dom mode with his new submissive. I was told that this took priority over anything I had anticipated. And I only wanted someone to attend with, not to lead around on a leash, that's not my style. In order for me to be comfortable seeing him there at the event, We agreed to treat each other just as friends. It seemed simple enough. I'm finished with what I have to say, although my lawyer says I should go to the police. I'm just not going to be shown disrespect on my home turf without reprisal. Nor will I sit back and withhold knowledge about someone who could potentially cause harm to someone in the community. And, Yes there’s that post about the email he sent where he threatened physical violence against me. Not cool.
I appreciate everyone's input on this matter, let this serve as a lesson to watch out for the red flags when getting involved with anyone on a personal level.
Looking to the future, Mistress V.
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