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emails deleted unread - 4/9/2007 11:31:26 PM

mstrj69

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Sometimes when I see this it is funny because like this past Friday I sent out several emails that were nothing more than "Hope you have a happy Easter weekend" and yet a couple of them went unread. My question is why? If I am too old for them or too far away then why not put that in their profile or a journal entry. I always look for that first before emailing them. The same thing happens when I see somone who says they just found the right one for them and I write to say "congratulation" .
If you do not want to respond to a certain age or type of person or someone who lives too far away or for whatever reason, why not put it in your profile.

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RE: emails deleted unread - 4/9/2007 11:45:44 PM

NakedGirlScout

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Some people don't reply to any one liners. Some people are too busy to answer their email. Some people can't possibly put everything that they don't reply to into their profile without making it look like a crabby book.

If you email to strangers you take your chances. I understand that men get relatively few letters so they can deal with the volume they get, but a lot of us women are inundated to the point that it's no longer pleasant to receive random email.

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RE: emails deleted unread - 4/9/2007 11:46:09 PM

angielouwhos

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For me it's because I do not think a simple profile can explain about us in the depth necessary to strike up a conversation. Secondly the volume of emails (particularily if you spend much time here) is just too great. So I'm left with not responding or not even reading some emails. Its not my nature to do that, I feel like its just part of this great community that one has to deal with.

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RE: emails deleted unread - 4/10/2007 12:14:46 AM

Anarchism

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you know I agree with mstrj69
either emails are "deleted unread" or even if you put th eeffort in to make it a letter they still do not even take the tiem to reply with " thanks but no thanks"
I always take the time to read the profile to make sure the person I am e-mailing is suitable
and if I do not see age or distance resrictions then I will e-mail just to be ignored
that is just plain and straight out RUDE
would it hurt to spend 10 seconds replying ?
or to let someone knwo you are not interested ?
what happened to politeness?

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RE: emails deleted unread - 4/10/2007 12:31:33 AM

BeachMystress

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They probably didn't even see your mails... Go to your inbox and click on the button "Mail Controls" Now notice that you can set it so that any mail that doesn't match your settings can be sent to the bulk mail folder. How many of us ever check our bulk mail folders other than to empty them?

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RE: emails deleted unread - 4/10/2007 3:22:20 AM

jauntyone

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Greetings

Some of us DO put it plainly in our profiles; that mail is unwanted and will be deleted unread. Unfortunatly, not everyone pays attention to such things.

I wish you well

melissa

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RE: emails deleted unread - 4/10/2007 3:22:29 AM

wandersalone

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to the OP, you seem to be a little miffed when people do not reply to your emails -

http://www.collarchat.com/m_748322/mpage_4/key_/tm.htm#748853
http://www.collarchat.com/m_479420/mpage_4/key_/tm.htm#492752
http://www.collarchat.com/m_90939/mpage_1/key_/tm.htm#91035
Your journal also mentions the lack of reply to your emails.

Ever heard the story of the person who keeps doing things a particular way and wonders why they always get the same result? I have some suggestions for ways you can change what you are doing- stop sending one liner emails, stop expecting replies, write to people that 'DO' say they want contact with someone in your area, stop expecting replies ... you get my drift. I am not saying that not replying is right or wrong, simply that it 'is'.

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RE: emails deleted unread - 4/10/2007 7:19:36 AM

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Oh you so rock Wanders.

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RE: emails deleted unread - 4/10/2007 7:58:41 AM

toservez

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quote:

ORIGINAL: wandersalone

to the OP, you seem to be a little miffed when people do not reply to your emails -

http://www.collarchat.com/m_748322/mpage_4/key_/tm.htm#748853
http://www.collarchat.com/m_479420/mpage_4/key_/tm.htm#492752
http://www.collarchat.com/m_90939/mpage_1/key_/tm.htm#91035
Your journal also mentions the lack of reply to your emails.

Ever heard the story of the person who keeps doing things a particular way and wonders why they always get the same result? I have some suggestions for ways you can change what you are doing- stop sending one liner emails, stop expecting replies, write to people that 'DO' say they want contact with someone in your area, stop expecting replies ... you get my drift. I am not saying that not replying is right or wrong, simply that it 'is'.

Amen!

I would like to also add that many who write a profile are not prepared to get bombarded from people that are not close to their local area and that people way older or younger would be writing them to actually think they need to bring this up. Also, like others have mentioned bulk folder like it or not is where probably many of your unread messages are going to die.

No one is owed a reply. You must realize how many men write women on here with every trick in the book to get them reply and there is only so many times a “no thanks, I am not interested” gets thrown back in our faces or not taken seriously by the other that some people will get more picky in who they write back. For me personally a one line wonder did not get a reply back and despite mention of age, location and no couples I was still overwhelm with people who were clearly not what I stated I was looking for.

Like wandersalone wrote, not getting the results you want look in the mirror and not lash outward.

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RE: emails deleted unread - 4/10/2007 8:04:46 AM

AquaticSub

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quote:

ORIGINAL: mstrj69

Sometimes when I see this it is funny because like this past Friday I sent out several emails that were nothing more than "Hope you have a happy Easter weekend" and yet a couple of them went unread. My question is why? If I am too old for them or too far away then why not put that in their profile or a journal entry. I always look for that first before emailing them. The same thing happens when I see somone who says they just found the right one for them and I write to say "congratulation" .
If you do not want to respond to a certain age or type of person or someone who lives too far away or for whatever reason, why not put it in your profile.

Maybe they just haven't checked their collarme e-mail? Mine often goes unchecked for weeks and weeks. Or maybe they don't want to have the play "I'll pretend you are being nice to me to be my friend, not to see if my relationship goes sour and you can step in" game. Which seems to happen a lot of doms or masters who e-mail me here and try to be my friend.

< Message edited by AquaticSub -- 4/10/2007 8:09:10 AM >

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RE: emails deleted unread - 4/10/2007 8:11:09 AM

viperess

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Greetings mstrj69,

One of the main problems is to many people see nothing wrong with being rude, another being they simply are only on to check messages from friends real quick. To me though if someone has taken the time to message me i try in turn to message them back. It might mean not being able to for a day or two but still to me it is just using common curtisy. Now if someone messages me trying to tell me why i should leave my Master and come to them, or they are just plain rude then they still will get a reply to their message only instead of coming from me, the reply comes from my Master. Maybe some people already think they have enough friends or they think wow that person is to old, young, homely, pretty...ect..for me to talk to when in fact they have just blown off someone who could be a wonderful influence in their lives, someone that they can learn from or maybe someone whose day they can brighten. For those who are just to rude, lazy, or what have you to answer messages that are sent with respect, kindness, or just to say hello i hope your day is going great..know they are the ones who are loosing out and most likely they are someone who would not enrich your life if you did get to talk to them.
Respectfully,

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RE: emails deleted unread - 4/10/2007 8:14:19 AM

PairOfDimes

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I can't explain why your emails were deleted unread. However, I think the fact that your emails were nothing more than "Hope you have a happy Easter weekend," would explain why they didn't elicit responses. If you had contacted me with simple wishes for a good weekend (we'll leave out the fact that you're wishing me a good celebration of a holiday that I don't celebrate), that hardly requires a response, and reading an email like that doesn't particularly make me want to respond to you. It's vaguely nice that you want unknown people to have enjoyable weekends, but it's not very interesting or decisive. An email that introduces yourself attractively, clearly defining what you want from conversation with the reader, might work better.

Monica

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RE: emails deleted unread - 4/10/2007 8:58:08 AM

hereyesruponyou

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I've read about things going to bulk mail, but never really looked at mine. I was surprised by how many were in there. I didn't even know i had set my mail controls! Oooops. I also agree with Monica that one liner emails that have no apparent reason are not likely to get a response or at least not much of one, it all depends on the mood i am in when i read them. Catch me at the end of a long day of dealing with annoying people and my patience for you will be lower. BTW - i almost never read someone's profile before i decide to respond to their mail or not.

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RE: emails deleted unread - 4/10/2007 9:09:27 AM

juliaoceania

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Some people have their filters set without knowing they do. For example I had all emails blocked from out of the country... yet I never set that myself, cm set that up for me. I missed an email from another submissive from Australia as a result.

It might be they have you filtered out.

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RE: emails deleted unread - 4/10/2007 11:12:57 AM

zindyslave

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I am just stating my own opinion here but if someone was to e-mail me saying something like have a good easter or even a good weekend I am most likely going to respond in kind, I am just nice that way but I do have stated in my profile for males not to email me because Dominants want to tell me they would be better for me and subs the ones that contact me anyway are just wanting to cyber. But even if a Dominant e-mailed me with a have a nice day or whatever I would most likely respond to it. Thats just me tho.

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RE: emails deleted unread - 4/10/2007 11:25:53 AM

Celeste43

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I've been known to check out the profile of the unknown sending me an email before opening it, and if he didn't seem compatible then I would delete it unopened. These days if I get mail from strange male tops I delete it unopened. Now occasionally it will be from someone who has read a forum post and wants to talk privately to me about something sensitive. But if I recognize the name from the fora I am more likely to read it.

Mail from male tops in my area is always a come on, we never have anything in common and they always ignore the collared sub line. So I toss it unread, which sends the message I want to send. Responding would not tell them go away, it would be interpreted as me being interested but coy and eventually they get angry and send vile mail which I don't need.

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RE: emails deleted unread - 4/10/2007 11:27:48 AM

grlneedstolearn

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quote:

ORIGINAL: mstrj69

Sometimes when I see this it is funny because like this past Friday I sent out several emails that were nothing more than "Hope you have a happy Easter weekend" and yet a couple of them went unread. My question is why? If I am too old for them or too far away then why not put that in their profile or a journal entry. I always look for that first before emailing them. The same thing happens when I see somone who says they just found the right one for them and I write to say "congratulation" .
If you do not want to respond to a certain age or type of person or someone who lives too far away or for whatever reason, why not put it in your profile.

i like to respond to other emails because i enjoy reading their profile. Even if it just a 1 liner like "hi", i will respond to even that. And try to think of something else to ask as well

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RE: emails deleted unread - 4/10/2007 12:50:41 PM

Mustardseed

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quote:

ORIGINAL: juliaoceania

Some people have their filters set without knowing they do. For example I had all emails blocked from out of the country... yet I never set that myself, cm set that up for me.

As far as I can tell, the same search engine that allows you to search for people within specific parameters and have those results show up on your main CM page also affects what mail ends up in your inbox. I've yet to find documentation explaining this, but that looks like how some people manage to get tons of mail in their Bulk Mail folders without realizing that anything was being diverted there.

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RE: emails deleted unread - 4/10/2007 1:40:12 PM

LadyIce

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Why did you send them to strangers and why do you care whether they read them and respond or not?
Even if they read them, they do not owe you a response.

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RE: emails deleted unread - 4/10/2007 2:19:50 PM

littleone35

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Normally i read all my mail and before i met my Masteer one liners annoyed me and i would write back saying something like"Only one line care to tell me more" Master first e mail to me was 8 words "So where in New Youk do you live" Am i ever glad i answered. As Viperess said rude e mails get a response but from my Master. Polite ones get thanks for writing but if you bothered to read my profile you would see i am collered. I don't get many e mails any more.

Matt's littleone

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