WhipTheHip
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~*~The Fantasy~*~
I am laying hog tied . . . they all take turns peeing on me.
In my estimation fantasies like this are quite normal. Mine are much more extreme.
> Now, I like to think I'm a pretty normal person - but I'm really having a hard
> time wrapping my mind around what my mind seems to be into...
Nothing wrong with having a wild sexual imagination.
> My questions are, to those more experienced than I, is it normal to have
> fantasies about sex acts that are much more extreme then you would ever
> be willing to participate in in real life?
Yes, it is quite normal even for vanilla folk. For example, a lot of females
have a rape fantasy. But even if it were abnormal, so what? Who does
it hurt?
> And if I'm having this fantasy, does it mean that I do want to do it "for real"?
Only you can answer that.
> The fantasy I described, is it considered "safe" play?
I have a different view than most. I don't believe play should
leave permanent scars on the body. In my estimation this is
not sane, but most people into bdsm will disagree with me.
> I mean, are their general rules among the BDSM community
Not when it comes to things like this. A lot of people in the
community engage in edge play which is a lot more extreme.
It is my belief that every group is controlled by the most
extreme members. This is true of Democrats, Republicans,
Christians, Muslims, enviromentalists, animal rights
activists, gay rights, vegetarians, etc.
I don't believe self-mutilation is sane or healthy. I don't
believe any kind of mutilation is sane or healthy. But I
need to inform you my view is a small minority view.
> Is something like cigarette burning considered a "no no"?
I would say, "yes" for the following reason. I allowed a
female to do it to me. There was little pain, but it resulted
in a surprsingly large very ugly burn that easily could have
left a bad scar. It didn't. But knowing what I know now,
I wouldn't allow it again or do it to another. Better to use
hot wax made for this purpose. BDSM is more fun when
done with a partner that has a beautiful body and is not all
scarred-up from past "play" sessions. In my book, "play"
should not leave permanent scars.
> Secondly, if I ever did consider doing this in real life,
> and I found a man to act this out with me, would it be
> safe to play with someone who is willing/turned on
> himself by this kind of sadism?
LOL, that is hardly anything compared to many things
routinely done. I have the most extreme fantasies you
can imagine, and am turned on by many extreme forms
of sadism, but I would never do anything that left a
permanent scar on anyone. One, I believe it is immoral.
And I am not going to do anything immoral just to
satisfy a sexual craving. Two, it is an aweful waste
of a sub and her unblemished skin. Why cook the
goose that lays the golden egg? I see subs as a
precious commidity to be preserved intact. I want
a sub I can play with again and again, not one
covered from neck to knee with unsightly, scars.
For me, a scar is a turn-off.
> Is there danger to me in the sense that he might
> get off on pushing me further (i.e. G*d forbid
> getting off on killing me?)
You might be in danger of him pushing you further
in other directions you might learn to enjoy. There
is very little danger of finding someone who will
kill you. There is great danger in finding someone
who will get you sexually aroused by mutilating
practices. Here are things some in the community
consider sane: sticking needles through breasts
or other parts of the body, sewing the vagina closed,
and other such extreme activities. Many Doms
will slowly try to push your limits till you are
ready and willing to have such things done to you.
It is my belief that not everything done in the
name of pleasure is sane just because there is
no damage to a person's health.
I am an extreme sadist who finds ways to
CONSENSUALLY push pain limits without
inflicting scars or engage in extreme activities
like those mentioned.
The greatest danger you have is having
some guy restrain you, then going beyond
your agreed to limits. This can be worse
than death. So it is important you play
with people you can trust.
Get to know the people you play with
before you play with them. Here are
some other recommendations:
Have someone you trust oversee first
time play sessions. Put your limits in
writing and have your play partner sign
it and keep it in a place he can't get to.
Limit a first play session to one or two
hours.
This is a horror story I hear over and
over again. Some female lets a guy
tie her up. He starts whipping her as
hard as he can, and this goes on for
hour after hour thinking this is what
females into bdsm like.
Play with a safe word. I know what
subs and bottoms like, because I am
a switch, and know what I like. In
fact, I would start out very, very slow.
Better to find a guy willing to take things
very slowly than push and rush you into
a bad scene.
Cheers,
Michael
< Message edited by WhipTheHip -- 4/10/2007 9:57:08 AM >
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